My mom and dad say they arent racist..But in my view I think they are. I mean Im in love with a mixed guy. I've been dating him behind my parents backs and i regret it but when your in love you tend to blank everything out.. Its a good feeling though. I talk about him to my mom everyday and she gives me and attitude. I mean me and my mom never really got along and the one time I'm happy she doesnt understand my feelings. I wish there is soemthing i could do.. What do you think?
2006-08-29 08:17:35 · 15 answers · asked by forever_and_always1315 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
hell with your parents, if he makes you happy go for it!
2006-08-29 08:19:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
personally I think it is hard for the people who are looking in on the situation rather than being in the relatioship looking out. Have been there I know what you mean. Time is the only answer anybody could really give you. You have to give your parents time to adjust. They might not agree with what you are doing but they love you. And once they see that he makes you happy and treats you right they will come around. Not saying that it will happen over night but it will happen if he is the right one for you. Love has no face, color
2006-08-29 08:49:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Parents will probably always find something wrong with any guy you're dating.. heck, I'm married and my husband's parents don't always like me and we're from the same background. If you really like ( or for that fact love) this guy, then they'll eventually get used to it. That aslo depends on your age. The younger you are the harder it will be for them, because they still see you as their little girl. Just keep your head up, keep seeing him, but try not to sneak it too much. Be open about it with them. When they see that you're not giving up on him, they might start accepting him. :-) Good Luck!
2006-08-29 08:25:08 · answer #3 · answered by marta 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's really a good guy and you're serious about him, your parents need a chance to get to know him. It's too bad they're backwards about this, but be patient, maybe they will change their minds in time when they no him better as a person. It's not good to be sneaking around behind their backs, because it just makes things worse in their imaginations.
2006-08-29 08:29:39 · answer #4 · answered by mj_indigo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The chances of a same race marriage working are very slim. The chances of a mixed race marriage working are even less. Your family will be with you for ever. Which is more important. Permanence or a fling? Your choice. It is easy to say to hell with your parents. I did. Now I am looking back over many years and wish I had not. I have seen a couple of the answers here and although I am older, I hope you listen and check out the chances.
2006-08-29 08:23:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
IF you really love this guy i say go for it. But make sure you are willing to loose what you have. Remember what you get might not be worth what your giving up. YOu are a grown woman and what your parents think is not your problem it is you life you crontrol the drawing boar so creat a master pice
2006-08-29 08:21:56 · answer #6 · answered by unkown 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give them time to get used to the relationship. Ask them if you can invite him to dinner or else if the four of you can go out someplace. Get them comfortable with him and the idea of being around him and once they get to know him, the likelihood of them still having racist feelings is lower. My husband and I are in an interracial relationship and that's how my parents became comfortable with him was just spending the time and realizing that he is not so much different than they are.
Good luck!
2006-08-29 08:20:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
in keeping with risk he has different women he's talking to, sorry to declare. for the reason which you do no longer see one yet another many times, it will be difficult to maintain a dating going besides. it somewhat is possibly what he thinks. in keeping with risk he thinks you're eye-catching, yet he does not pick a dating. If he on no account sparks up the communique, then he won't be that fascinated. there will be different adult men available, who will pick to communicate to you and could reciprocate the sentiments. If there are blended messages after all, i do no longer think of he's the single for you stunning now.
2016-09-30 03:30:55 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may be difficult, but you have to follow your heart on this one. If you are sure that this guy is someone special, it would behoove you to hang onto him. If your parents dislike him because of racial issues, that is their problem. Good luck!
2006-08-29 08:23:17 · answer #9 · answered by atomicfrog81 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOu have to think about what is more important to you, your parents approval or finding the love of your life.
2006-08-29 08:20:16 · answer #10 · answered by DVSKITTEN 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How is that not racist. Ask them would they have a problem if you dated a white version of your bf (whatever race you are) and if they dont then I dont see how it isn't racist. Unless of course, its his character they dont like.
2006-08-29 08:21:07 · answer #11 · answered by leikevy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋