What does it feel like to be happy?

Question

I have always been told to do what makes me happy. So I thought I would try it. I was miserable in a marriage, being with someone I didn't really know. It had been that way for 10 years, and I couldn't take it any longer. I moved out, and becasue I have alienated everyone else around me - including my oldest daughter and her grandmother, who I lived with for a short time - I have nowhere to go and feel like I am wanted. Life feels like it is falling apart, all because I tried to figure out what happiness was. Is happiness when you don't have a reason to frown? Is happiness just when you don't want to play in traffic? Is happiness just the opposite of sorrow, and nothing more?

Answer 1

:) slow down... stop doing things because u "think" it is right..do the right things because you Want to. the fact that u got married w/o even knowing the person..ur chances of happiness Were slim to none from the get-go. you should've looked for the right woman, and THEN married her because it is the right thing to do. what u need to do is stop in ur tracks, and figure out what u can do to Change your life. STOP doing what you are currently doing!! stop making the same bad decisions!

first of all, what should u be doing?? Taking care of your relationship w/ ur Daughter and Grandmother! DO IT. even if u are ashamed..it's ok. it's family. they will eventually appreciate your efforts, even if they do not accept it right away. u will find happiness, slowly, by finding and choosing what is Positive, Healthy, and ultimately Right in your life, and filtering out anything that makes u Negative, sad, unhealthy, and stagnant.

look for a job that either makes you happy, pays you enough to cover the bills and some, or BOTH. but you need at least one or the other.

what don't u like about yourself?? u better fix YOURSELF before u can even think of meeting someone else, or making your life better. if u are unhappy w/ ur looks, change somehting. exercise, eat better, try on new clothes, get a new haircut. u can change yourself.. u can ALWAYS improve on yourself, no matter who u are. next, do u feel dumb? do u feel not good enough to others?? then STUDY. LEARN. Experience. Communicate. Converse w/ others who are more knowledgable. read online. u can ALWAYS improve your mind..u just have to TRY. next, do u feel that no one likes you? then work on ur personality. when you make an effort, people who care WILL acknowledge it. so when your family SEES that you are trying to better yourself, and WANT to improve the relationship because you Care, eventually Something will change. it's not 100% failproof..but at least u won't be able to look back and punish yourself or feel guilty for letting things go w/o trying your hardest. if they reject you, you have to understand that u cannot control anyone. but you Can control Yourself: how u act, and react. if u tried ur DAMN hardest to reach out and make things better, you need to be proud of it. and if they don't accept it, give them time. if they still don't accept it, u may have to move on. but let them know they can Always seek you out if they ever change their mind. you can be the bigger person. u can be the better person...but u have to CHOOSE to be it, and live that way.

happiness...is the most important thing in this life...w/o it, there is nothing left. no hope. no love. no support. no will to keep on doing what u are doing. it is something worth seeking. and if u seek ur WHOLE life by learning, gaining new relationships and experience, That will lead you to SOMETHING...u may not know what it is . a better you for tomorrow will lead you to something unexperienced to u now, something foreign to you now..but that's GREAT! cuz u will never know how happy u can become Tomorrow. that's what's So awesome about this life.

never look back and punish yourself for the past.. .it's already done. u can't change those things. but u CAN improve yourself, and improve the situation, to change the future. if u are religious at all, i encourage u to read Romans 5-8. really changed my life in how i see myslef and the world and religion..... :) thru Jesus' sacrifice, i am now forgiven of all sins past, present And future. that leaves me to live my life Joyfully and Freely, as best to my abilities. and i don't WANT to do "whatever i want" that is bad. i now Choose to do what is Positive, Good, Happy, Joyful, for myself as well as people around me, because i CAN. :) seek life, seek truth, seek understanding, knowledge, positivity...and eventually you will learn what happiness is all about...... and u will see that there are always Negative, hard things in life... but it is OK. there are wonderful things too...and to focus on those things is to find purpose in ur life. good luck~

Answer 2

i can relate. i don't really think you are capable of knowing what hapiness is until you are out of the depression you're in. trying to find hapiness in other people will lead nowhere, as you've seen. there won't be another where it will work.
this may not be the most popular answer, but i know that nothing will really work and be lasting, except having a relationship with Jesus. He's the only one that took my depression away and gave me a sound mind. I had also wanted to "play in traffic" at one point, actually, i wanted to kinda-sorta "accidentally" fall off of the curb in front of a moving vehicle just as it was passing. Whoever said that time heals all wounds was completely ignorant. Things really don't change. You may learn to cope a little better, but who would want to bother coping when you feel like that? The only one who can actually give you a literal dose of life is Jesus. Ask him for it.

Answer 3

Seems happiness's eluding, playing hide & seek with U, but on your part too, don't do experiments such as figuring out something like this of an serious nature. U made mistakes & repeated by moving out leaving your own family, & now searching happiness ? It's still there only where U left, in reunion, B able to feel it. Wish U all the best.

Answer 4

"Something to think about,
and make you smile all day long!!


Put Your Hand in the Hand

If God had a refrigerator,
your picture would be on it.
If He had a wallet, your photo would be in it.


He sends you flowers every spring.
He sends you a sunrise every morning.
And a sunset every
evening.


If God took vacations,
He'd take His with you.
He's with you every second of every day.


He wrote His songs just for you,
and created the birds to sing them.



Whenever you want to talk, He listens.
And He hears your every word.



He can live anywhere in the universe,
yet He chooses
your heart.




Face it friend ...
He is crazy about you!"

Answer 5

Happiness is when you include those special ones in your life.seeing them happy and fulfilled will make u happy.working to please the ones yu honestly care about is very rewarding.remember,if u give unconditionally u get it all back and much much more.
u were just being selfish ,looking for what makes YOU happy and in the process alienated yourself from family and dear ones.
you're now lonely and miserable,not because your marriage fell appart but because those special ones who bring happiness to your life r excluded from it.
try to make amends and reach out to your daughter and her granny.the love and sweet memories they have for you inside will simply replace this whole misunderstanding.
THAT is HAPPINESS.
Good Luck:)

Answer 6

So you thought you would do things to make yourself "happy", you did them, and find yourself not happy now?? I dont get it. Happiness isnt feeling SUPER 100% of the time. My life has ups and downs, like everyone else on planet Earth. Am I happy...hell yes. I really hope you are there for your daughter now that you moved out.

Answer 7

U answered right. It is when u don't have a reason to frown. Nothing puts u down. Everything puts me down, though. I am just too sensitive. That's just me though. If u don't get intimidated by nothing, good for u keep it up.

Answer 8

Happiness are things that make you smile, makes you look at your life and say "look at the things I've accomplished and the things i'm going to accomplish in the future." Happiness is being comfortable in your own skin and looking forward to meeting new people and discovering new things in life.

Answer 9

to be being happy is a wonderful feeling its hard to always be happy but happiness is found in the heart i would rather be alone than unhappy any day

Answer 10

I just love these complicated ridiculously-long meandering single-sentence questions that no one can possibly answer! How the hell can we offer any kind of reasonably good response when we have no idea about the situation?