i mean, she's just going through the motions every time, and getting no satisfaction..or do men not care about whether the wife enjoys it or not?
2006-08-29 08:00:45 · 47 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
it's a turn off...I want my wife to be satisfied too!
2006-08-29 08:02:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would want my wife to enjoy it too. Sex is better if both individuals are enjoying it. Part of having sex is getting worked up to have sex. The passion needs to be there, or its no different than masterbating. I would chat with my wife, and see if there is anything I can do... to make it a more pleasurable experience. To be honest, I dont feel like a man, if I can't please the woman I'm with. If I'm not doing something right, I would want to know... and if I am doing everything right... I want to know what else I can do.
On a side note... the wife in this situation rocks... she cares enough about her husband to continue to do something that brings her no pleasure (or at least very little). Marriage is sometimes about doing things that you wouldn't necessarily WANT to do... but because you love the other person, you are willing to do them. Whoever she is...she should know that she rocks... and deserves better (I'm not saying its the guys fault... just saying... she deserves better than to never cu*m)
2006-08-29 08:08:25 · answer #2 · answered by the_thoughtless_ponderer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How long have you been together?Is it the same old routine everytime?Would she watch a porn film with you it may help to get her aroused?She has some issues going on are you sure she still loves you?Is she happy with her physical appearance you really have to talk to her,sex is an important part of any relationship.I was with a guy once and just went through the motions but the reason I did it was I didnt love him anymore and couldnt bear him even touching me and I did it to keep the peace basically before I plucked up courage to end the relationship.
2006-08-29 12:18:13 · answer #3 · answered by candyfloss 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From a husband or wife's point of view to want the other and to be unwanted is not something anyone should have to feel. But from the point of view (husband or wife again) to not want to be touched by that person, well it to is also a horrible feeling. You should try talking to one another or get outside help that means both parties have no choice but to face the problem.
2006-08-29 15:08:33 · answer #4 · answered by i.needitall 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not a man but at least you are thinking about your wife. I would think it would be boring knowing that every time you were about to have sex you knew that she was not enjoying it. You might want to suggest that she goes to the doctor to see if it is a physical problem.
2006-08-29 08:05:13 · answer #5 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think some men just don't know how to please a woman and that can be old men to. I had a former partner that thought I should get off on just him during penetration. I was explaining to him how I could make myself climax and what I wanted to do. He then told me I should be a lesbian, and what did I need him for. I told him, your right, you are just charity sex anyway. We didn't see each other after that.
I just think that men put to much emphasis on their penis as satisfying a woman. Women need more stimulation than just the penis in order to climax. There is the G-spot, breasts, kissing, etc. to help a woman climax, not just penetration. It is a combination.
2006-08-29 08:11:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even when it's "been awhile" (like now), just going through the motions is a huge turn off. For instance, one response I got was "Well, okay...how long is this going to take?" I said forget it. There's no passion involved in that.
2006-08-30 08:49:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well looking on the bright side she's not faking headaches and putting you off all the time.
Seriously though you need to talk to her and find out what she wants from the physical side of the relationship.
Turn the question around and ask yourself what it is you're not doing that would give her pleasure.
Unless and until you ask her that question you'll both remain unsatisfied.
2006-08-29 13:12:49 · answer #8 · answered by CeeVee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not a man but if it was reversed I would find that hurtful. I'd also being exploring a lot more to see what gets him crazy. If nothing did the problem is a little deeper. Time for a talk :-(
2006-08-29 08:08:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would be a major dissapoinment to me because I think of pleasing my wife first before myself. Knowing I have pleased her pleases me and makes me want her even more. Don't get me wrong, I love sex oh so much and want it all the time but if she is just in it to please me and gets absolutley nothing out of it, either forget it or I would feel that I am doing something wrong.
2006-08-29 08:55:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Haven't had that happen yet. Yea at times she is tired and I am in the mood and vise versa. But when we have sex. No that is wrong. My wife and I don't have sex we make love and that is exactly what happens no matter who might be tired or not in the mood. With kissing, hugging and cuddling it becomes us making love.
Sorry cant help you on your question.
2006-08-29 08:09:42 · answer #11 · answered by Mit 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋