Do pre-arranged marriages last longer than ones where we select our own mate?

Answer 1

It depends on how much the couple loves each other and how much effort they put into the marriage would be my best guess.

Answer 2

I'm not sure about whether pre-arranged marriages last longer or not. I think the difference is that by selecting our own mates we are able to find someone that we truly love whereas in most arranged marriages the people don't even know each other before and so there is no love. They might learn to love each other but it just isn't the same.

Answer 3

YES. that is the most probable answer.
Reason:

1. The people who get married in this fashion are not confident enough to either break an existing realtionship or create another one from scratch.

2. In the event the marriage does run into trouble, there are enough social elements that were involved in the arrangement (Parents on both sides, uncles, aunts, friends) that they will all pool together and help these guys out.

3. The people who arrange the marriage are "experienced" fellows and know what will work for the boy and the girl in most cases.

Answer 4

A couple used to marry for money and later find out about love. Now a couple marries for love and later finds out about money.

I think pre-arranged marriages last longer because of two things:
1. The expectations of those engaging the marriage are generally different then those who do not have arranged marriages. Give me some children, give me shelter and respect our religion are tangible goals which are in general easy to fulfill. The fickle obligations of love are hard to identify and harder to continually maintain year after year.
2. Cultures which still practice arranged marriages have a much greater social stigma against divorce.

Answer 5

yes, I think they do. But where in the world are marriages still arranged other than in the mid and far east? I personally think we should go back to that system. Young folks are deluged with bolonga daily from Hollywood about how wonderful life is. IT starts with fairytales, "and they lived happily ever after," and continues with fantasy during our entire lifetime..TV constantly pelts us with the ideal family picture....NO ONE'S family remotely resembles anything you see on TV!
Arranged marriages carry no expectations of happiness ever after, but they do carry a Safety angle, a mutual respect and mutual interests angle. IT would seem that, after the first year, lust marriages fail, and marriages based on sanity survive. Since we don't seem to be able to do well ourselve, perhaps our parents, with much more experience in living with another, could do at least as well, probably better. Good luck

Answer 6

In most of the industrialized world, pre-arranged marriages are a thing of the past.

Answer 7

That's a very good question. The problem is though, that this is a cultural thing and even if the marriage is horrible, it may be that a woman can't leave or be ostracized or worse. I'm not sure of the statistics but I'm guessing the stay together rate is pretty high because of this.

Answer 8

Pre-arranged marriages are the reason why we have dumb parents in this world.

think about it. When parents press the easy button and do this tremendous stupidity for their kids, they are starting wars and unrest within the world.

Then they turn out inbred and drive the rest of us nuts.

Answer 9

because of the fact maximum marriages that are no longer arranged are love and emotion based. Love transformations and fades with time and individuals don't comprehend or like the way it develops. human beings think of they ought to experience like they are 'in love' consistently. arranged marriages are consistent with compatibility and targets. So those marriages initiate off precise and with a bit of luck love develops, if no longer, those human beings are nevertheless one thousand steps earlier to the people who think of they must be 'in love' consistently. i think of human beings ought to evaluate better than love, thoughts, and what irritates them while pondering a mate. they ought to spend greater time pondering destiny targets and compatibility.

Answer 10

Well im no expert at this,but the few i knew abt they worked, and still r working. i have a girl friend who had that kind of marriage n it has been close to 10yrs now....Technically, For me i wont participate in any such event....i always beleive in finding my own soul mate.
I guess this all depends on the 2 individuals.