If you and your sweetheart (bf, gf, lover, husband or wife) are forced to be geographically apart for quite a while, and they would ask you to have an 'internet date' with them, meaning, you would both get on line with microphones, cameras, etc, and talk, and also 'perform' in order to fulfill each others fantasies, would think that to be strange or would you see it as just another way of 'being together'? My friend is under pressure from her husband, cause he has been in another country for a while and he wants her to 'perform' for him in front of a webcam. As she said she was not comfortable with that, he said he has been alone for a while and that he may consider 'looking for gratification somewhere else'. What do you think she should do? At first he seems to accept her decision and respect it, but she says he will bring up the issue again every time he has the chance. She is afraid.
2006-08-29 07:44:03 · 5 answers · asked by Graça 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
First of all you should tell your friend that if her husband is telling her that he is thinking of cheating on her because he hasn't gotten any in quite some time he obviously does not love her. Whether she performs on webcam or not he is still the one that needs to satisfy himself. So if he is looking for the company of someone else webcam is not going to satisfy that. I think there is more there that they need to discuss together. As far as the webcam thing. She has every right to be uncomfortable with it. He might show it to his friends. Hackers might find it and put it up on the web for everyone to see. I don't see the problem with making a date on the internet. I use to do that with my boyfriend when we where apart. However, I would never expose myself on the internet like her husband is asking. Tell her to send him a polaroid of herself is sexy lingerie.
2006-08-29 07:55:42 · answer #1 · answered by LadyD1019 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing wrong with the scenario you just proposed - but only if both partners are into it. I don't think I would be comfortable doing such a thing, I have "stage fright" in general, and hate being on camera! I feel it's unfair of your friend's husband to pressure her into doing something that would make her uncomfortable - especially considering that she's not being irrational, and that this kind of thing in general tends to make many people uncomfortable. If he can't suck it up and tough it out for the sake of his wife, and needs "gratification somewhere else", he needs to either reconsider his living arrangements and come back to be with his wife, or be honest and reconsider the marriage.
2006-08-29 14:52:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, it's not uncommon to do stuff like that, but with web cams I'd be more concerned with who else was watching and whether he was recording that. As for him pressuring her, I can understand his desire for this but if he's threatening to start seeing other people instead I have to wonder about his level of commitment. She should be very straightforward with him that she doesn't want him fooling around as that would break her trust and would be the end of the relationship for her, and that he should respect her wishes for privacy and not pressure her into doing something she doesn't want to do.
2006-08-29 14:53:48 · answer #3 · answered by dreamcatweaver 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is actually very normal in this age. My girl friend was forced to go to another country for an extended time. I love her, she loves me. It works...
It beats the heck out of writting letters and paying unholy phone bills.
2006-08-29 15:15:26 · answer #4 · answered by stratplayer1967 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, and irregular ones, too.
2006-08-29 14:50:33 · answer #5 · answered by Angela 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋