How do you forgive completely?

Answer 1

To forgive is to forget

Answer 2

In order to forgive completely you have to completely accept what happened, work through to find a solution that it doesn't happen again and then use the wrong doing as a learning tool. Forgiveness comes from the heart. When your heart is okay, you will know that you have forgiven. Just please don't confuse this with forgetting. If you forget, the lesson learned means nothing and you open the door to be put in the situation where you will have to forgive again for the same thing...it's not as easy the second time around. It's why they say "do it once, shame on you, I can forgive, do it twice, shame on me for not learning".

Answer 3

The forced forgiveness helps one get on the road to recovery, but I think 'complete' forgiveness only happens thru time. Time has to heal those wounds for forgiveness to take it's full effect. If wounds continue then no healing occurs, and the forced forgiveness becomes enabling (or disabling depending on how you look at it).

Answer 4

Much easier than you think...you just DO it! Or, you can dredge up the past, go through the misery again and again..your choice alone. IF you take someone back after a tragedy, then you promise to leave the past in the past. When it comes bubbling up, knock it down! Turn your back on the emotions that come up with it. YOU create your feelings by releasing chemicals into YOUR body...you cannot blame others for your feelings, they are yours and yours alone. PLease think about the last few lines, they are very true. IT is easy to forgive, it is much harder to forget. And I am not so sure that it is wise to competely forget anything. History has a way of repeating itself if we forget the lessons it teaches...but that history doesn't have to carry emotions with it if you train yourself to NOT go there. Start today and you will be amazed at how strong you can be if you set your mind to it. Stop blaming others for your feelings and you are half way there. I wish you the best of luck.

Answer 5

Some people will say that to forgive is to forget. I disagree. I say that forgiving means they don't owe anything on it any more, that it won't be used against them. It doesn't mean that the incident won't be considered in future interactions. Consider: a wife cheats on her husband, and he forgives her. Then later, she asks if she can go out with a male friend alone. The husband says he'd rather she didn't, he doesn't want to make temptation. However, if she wants to go out with him and her friend, he'll be okay with that.

Forgiving doesn't mean you have to set yourself up for the same fall over and over. Even if you've forgiven him, you don't put a thief in charge of a bank, a child molester in charge of children, or a cat killing dog in charge of the kittens. But an unforgiven thief has to pay back every cent, an unforgiven child molester isn't permitted to talk to children even if supervised, and an unforgiven dog is put to sleep. To me, that's the difference.

Now, on to some practical advice: set rules. If you can see that the other person is making an effort to be trustworthy again, it helps. Giving some clear and obvious rules for them to follow will let you see that, and it will give them something to do. Maybe have them do something more or less minor to make it up to you. It proves their sincerity, as well as helping you to feel like you've gained from it.

Answer 6

Think about what the pain of not forgiving is doing to you and then you will realize that if you just forgive the person you will feel relieved and can heal from the disappointment...

Answer 7

Hey you cannot forgive anybody completely.But after spending lot of time with that person who wronged you can try to slowly believe that person to be turning towards good.It takes lot of times but hey you can only see that person and remember tuff times he/she gave u but at the same time if working towards a positive future mostly by the other person u can slowly have some good relationship.

Answer 8

Log on to Stanford University's homepage, and go to the "Forgiveness" project site.

Answer 9

Well if you a strong believer that Christ died for our sins and that he has forgiven you then you can do the same. It is not easy, I know from experience. but if we want to live righteous and victorious you have to forgive just as God has forgiven you. Keep your head up and pray fro strength and comfort

Answer 10

Some actions are absolutely unforgivable...but forgiveness is for people, not their actions......forgiveness does "NOT" . absolve the wrongdoer of the wrongdoing....forgiving someone is merely the decision to release the pain,fear and anger from your own mind and return to love.....forgiveness is simply.....the healing of your own mind and heart.