Why Wont My Wife Let Me Have Sex With Her While Shes Breastfeeding?

Answer 1

Your wife is behaving/reacting normally for a breastfeeding woman. At time of breastfeeding she does not want to be or feel sexually aroused as it interferes with the strong bonding and emotional feelings towards the baby.

If you want her to breastfeed you, then that is possible AFTER baby is fed and sleeping in his/her own bed.

Goodluck!

Answer 2

That's really a question you should ask her. Do you mean while she's in the act of breast feeding, or just during the time she'd be breastfeeding -- say six months or so? There's probably a hormonal as well as an emotional reason. Women don't feel very sexy for a while after having a baby. It takes time to heal internally, and to get used to having a little person whose care and feeding she's responsible for. Give her a break! Maybe she's concerned that she might get pregnant again during the time she's nursing. Most women don't have their periods during this time, so there's no way for her to know when her fertile time would be. And lastly, she could be mildly depressed -- known as postpartum depression. Be patient. This is a very special time for both of you as new parents. Breast feeding won't last forever.

Answer 3

I don't blame her.... If this is a serious question and you are not kidding then I think you should reconsider.. Think of your baby first... How would you like to be eating a meal and someone is doing something under the table that is annoying you. The baby would probably be thinking, what is going on here? I am trying to eat and there is this distraction that is making me feel uncomfortable... Just remember its not about you while the baby is eating.. Wait until the appropriate time when the baby is sleeping and not aware.. Let your baby be a baby and take care of the baby and not what you want at the moment. Take care and find middle ground for you and your wife. Thats all

Answer 4

When she was still breast feeding, my wife insisted on wearing her nursing bra when we were intimate (which if you are unfamiliar, is like putting an entire pillow between my hand her breast, so it is very odd to be intimate without caressing the areas you are used to -- makes it seem a lot less intimate).

By the time we were intimate (even with the bra) she was no longer bursting and was by then sagging, so some of the fun was out of it (i.e., I want to touch her boobs when they were size D's but had to wait until they were size A's :-(

As a husband, you cannot look your wife's boobs in the optimal state and not be turned on. Doesn't mean making a pass at her at the moment she is feeding, but just because she is nursing doesn't mean the intimacy should end (again I am not talking about literally when the baby is present, I am talking about the period time).

There is nothing wrong with her being intimate when lactating and even if a little leaks out. It is totally natural. God created intimacy and the joy of sex to encourage monogamy. That is why it is called "Making Love" -- you don't make love to a hooker or a one-night-stand nor a drunk hook-up. You make love to your wife. God wants you to make love to your wife, and he wants her to breastfeed (at least in my opinion).

Try to seduce her through affection without touching places she is self-conscious about. And try to make her feel natural and comfortable with the state of her body and the various fluids leaking out.

Eventually, she will be in the mood and be more interested in having those intimate places touched. She also needs her hormones and libido to return to normal. I presume/hope you're giving her a couple of months to recoup from childbirth??

If you start with pressuring her for sex, you're just going to frustrate both of you.

Answer 5

Lets see
you spend 9 months with someone else in charge of your body, changing it and not letting you sleep etc
then you spend the next year at that somebody's food source. Mooooo
Most Moms want a little time to have their bodies to themselves. Having a hubby pressure you into letting him have your body and enter it, makes you feel even more like your own body is not yours. That sucks.
Romance her and give her some space. Give love and affection without sex and she will begin to feel pretty and sexy and like her body is something she can enjoy, not just let someone else use.

Answer 6

I don't fully understand your question. Are you wanting to have sex with her while she is holding your infant and breastfeeding, or is she denying you sex for months and months until she is completely done breastfeeding your child? That changes the answer completely.

Answer 7

Well, if your baby is really 2 days old like stated in your other question, maybe it's because her bottom hurts from pushing out a baby, she's bleeding like a stuck pig, she's sore and exhausted and leaking milk.

Answer 8

Maybe she gets better action from Junior. She is probably sensitive in her nipples and arousal is uncomfortable. She will likely compensate in other ways with what you need, if you are nice to her and help her with what she needs.

Answer 9

During breastfeeding no sex desire.

Answer 10

I imagine the baby gets in the way...