My boyfriend and I have been going out for almost two years, and just recently over the past few months there has been a few months where he hasnt come home..........I caught him out once but it wasnt hard evidence and today I ask him what time he'd be home and he said he wouldnt so i said well i'll come over and meet him after work and we would go for a drink....................and he said no. There is this new girl tht he works with that is alwasy givinh me dirty looks even though I have never done anything to her? so I dont know why she would do tht? I need some tips or advice. please help? I love him sooo much.
2006-08-29 07:20:41 · 20 answers · asked by cherri 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Sounds to me that something is definitely not right. After two years most couples develop a routine. When there is a big change in the routine, usually that means a new ingredient has been added. It could be a new job, a new car, college courses or maybe even a sport. In this case, it appears it COULD be a woman. It doesn't necessarily mean he is cheating on you with HER, but the dirty looks could mean she either wants your man or she already has borrowed him and wants him for herself! Maybe he's tired of the "routine" and now he's going out with the guys. IMO, if he's been with you for two years and now he's beginning to go out and not come home, something is really not right. He might just be unhappy, he could be cheating.....etc, etc. Him telling you NO to you going over is not good. He's up to something. Why not just ask him what's wrong? If he gets pissed and gets defensive THENNNN you know something is up. This is all just My Opinion!!!
2006-08-29 07:30:57 · answer #1 · answered by vmdv15 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
all the time love makes us blind to the truth it doesn't matter how long you have been in a relationship it takes an outsider to screw everything up between you and your man. If you feel that he changed towards you and starting to keep away more often, something is up love hurts but you must look into the future do you want to be hurt all the time thinking he is cheating because of his new attitude, or do you want someone who you can always trust. I am not saying there is alot of gys that are trustworthy, but there are men out in this world don't surrond your life around one guy that is showing signs of cheating. Believe me i could understand that love burns right now for you , what you can do to catch his eyes again for you, why don't you do the same and go out with your friends and when he calls to hook up say next time ok i am out. When the gys get burnt the way they burn you sometimes it wakes their asses up!
2006-08-29 07:30:33 · answer #2 · answered by nikki 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think that he is cheating because just all of a sudden when this new girl comes around she's looking @ u crazy and when ask him what time he is coming home he is not and he also don't want you to meet him at work so what's up with that.
2006-08-29 07:26:18 · answer #3 · answered by Kimmie 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would say follow your gut instinct. It's always right. If I was in your position, I would confront him straight out telling him that you suspect that the late night at work isn't normal. Why would he say no to you coming to visit him at work? He's definitely keeping secrets from you. Is that how you want to live your life with him by not being able to trust him? He's probably telling that girla t work that you're giving him so much stress and pressure at home and he can't deal with you. So she's probably the one comforting him now. Think about it.
2006-08-29 07:25:25 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Here is a tip, You already have your answer, he said not to come over. That should be enough. I would give it a whole week and see if he come to you and if he doesn't then the relationship that you thought you had with him isn't one at all, move on and good luck.
2006-08-29 08:34:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should call the show Cheaters! No, seriously, I read in a magazine that people tend to cheat with a co worker, because besides home, that is where one might spend most of his or her time. So, I wouldn't doubt that the girl that's hating on you, obviously knows you're his girl, but he hasn't broken it off with you and she can't have him all to herself yet. Screw them both and let them have each other!
2006-08-29 07:30:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like he has something going with this new girl. That would explain the dirty looks she keeps giving you. He's probably lying to her about why he doesn't leave you for her. I think you should prepare yourself that this isn't going to work. Sorry Good Luck11
2006-08-29 07:27:42 · answer #7 · answered by tas-okay 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
even if he wasn't cheating....just the fact he doesn't want to meet you after work for a drink and to hang out or even come home is a good enough reason to break up. why would you want to be with someone that doesn't want to spend as much time with you as you want to spend with them?
2006-08-29 07:31:19 · answer #8 · answered by Bella 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ask him straight up, "R u cheating on me?" If he says no, ask why is his new coworker giving you funny looks, if says he doesn't know and you feel like he does, go and ask her. If you have a gut feeling that he's cheating on you, then you should leave him. If you stay too long, it could persist, and not stop. Only you can tell, if he is or isn't.
2006-08-29 07:27:41 · answer #9 · answered by bronco_cutie 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ask him point blank and if he is, move on. Tell him you deserve honesty and if he says he is not ask him what is going on and tell him how you are being made to feel. There is someone out their for everyone if we have the courage to let go of those who are wrong for us.
2006-08-29 07:26:52 · answer #10 · answered by tchrist36 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋