Seems to me that this scenario could be made into a positive by torturing them with guilt and getting them to do anything you want. I'd force my wife to do anal and bring me home some hookers.
2006-08-29 07:06:42 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
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2006-08-29 07:08:46 · answer #1 · answered by drsteve362005 6 · 0⤊ 3⤋
I kind of feel indifferent about that. If I cheated on my wife and she could torture me with guilt and make me do things so she would be happy...then would we truly be happy together. I couldn't put up with it after a while. Either she would have to forgive me, or end it right there. But nothing in between that would torture each of us.
I realize your question was not that serious....I wanted to answer this for a reason.
2006-08-29 07:23:21 · answer #2 · answered by Master Kenobi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. No. That is not a spusal relationship but actually a domination scenario you just described.
2. The simple definaition of you forgiving negates the possibility of you using it against her to torture you.
2006-08-29 07:11:00 · answer #3 · answered by Crossroads Keeper 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This just shows how immature you are. If you have chosen to forgive them then you have chosen to forget what has been done. I wouldn't say that you have forgiven her if you are planning to torture her and make her do things that she doesn't like doing. Obviously the both of you have some growing up to do.
2006-08-29 07:16:18 · answer #4 · answered by Melissa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say, in general, no. On the other hand, you are not required to forgive, and I say forgiveness with a price can be negotiated. Something like, "If you... then all will be forgotten" seems appropriate to me in that kind of case. But then, once she's done, it's over, and you don't use it against her any more.
2006-08-29 07:27:39 · answer #5 · answered by Sean J 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It might be too hard for you to forgive in order to maintain the relationship. You have a unhealthy hostility towards your wife for the way she hurt you so you want to hurt her back. If you want to truly be happy with her you are going to have to forgive, if you can't because you can't trust her anymore than divorce her and find yourself a loyal woman.
2006-08-29 07:13:44 · answer #6 · answered by Rita 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I dont think it entitles you to torture but it's probably an inevitable outcome if that is how you cope with mistrust.
Let's face it, even if you can forgive, it's the rare person who can forget.
2006-08-29 07:11:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well that is one unhealthy way of looking at. If you forgive your spouse you should move on - not torture them as that it just goint to give them a reason to CHEAT again!
2006-08-29 07:09:21 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Forgiveness is just that. Hello?
How can you force someone against their free will to do anything for you. You would be the one in violation.
2006-08-29 14:03:10 · answer #9 · answered by trisha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your idea sounds great and all, but the minute you bring home the hookers, you've cheated and she's off the hook. Careful what you wish for!
2006-08-29 07:11:16 · answer #10 · answered by Hollynfaith 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think that would be a hard situation. there is alot of hurt feelings there. but revenage wouldn't make you feel any better, been there done that. so i don't think that you should torture them. if you really want to work things out you will try to let tihngs go and maybe time apart would be helpful.
2006-08-29 07:12:06 · answer #11 · answered by Alicia Davis 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋