One second my husband is very nice and sweet to me especially around other people. And then like the wind he is calling me all kinds of horrible names, and telling me how stupid and lazy I am.
2006-08-29 06:56:55 · 16 answers · asked by davezyla 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It sounds like it has nothing to do with you and everything to do with your husband. I guess that at this point in time what it sounds like you need to do is make a choice about what you are and are not willing to tolerate.
Has this gone on since day one or is it a new behavior? He does need help, whether he is emotionally ill, abusive or whatever, but you are the one who must decide how far you are willing to go and what you are willing to go through.
The best to you and take care of you...sounds like you are going to need some help to recover too.
2006-08-29 07:03:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK, I have been where you are, and all I can say is you need to do one of two things. There are mental problems associated with this type of behavior. You can try to confront him on this and ask him to get help for it. Explain to him how it makes you feel. Let him know you are at your wits end, and something HAS to be done to fix the relationship. The fixing starts with him. Your other option is to just leave... and have a condition of coming back that he get help. He may not even notice you are gone for a feww days/weeks, but it will sink in with him what he had. You have GOT to respect yourself to know you DO NOT deserve this. You deserve happiness, and if he is not willing to give this to you, then sometimes you have to cut your losses and move on. Just think, if it does fall apart, at least you don't have to wonder what wall YOU are bouncing off of. DO NOT allow him to talk you down, you are important and intelligent...
PLEASE be careful of him. It sounds to me like he could also become violent if you are not careful. Tred lightly until you know what you are going to do. PM me if you need to talk... I am here.
2006-08-29 14:04:23 · answer #2 · answered by Cutelilminxy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I want to agree with "poorlittletoad", but it could also be a trust issue. I kind of acted like that when I lost total trust with a gal once, but I KNEW she was seeing someone else from the bar she went to.
2006-08-29 14:01:24 · answer #3 · answered by Life after 45 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
And you put up with this $hit because... ???
Hey... life is too short to spend it with an ******. You still have time to get the hell out of an abusive relationship, and find someone who loves and respects you. You can waste years and years of your life trying to figure him out, and even more time trying to get him to change... but in the long run, you will have wasted your time on a complete ******.
My advice... get out now, while you still have time to find someone who loves and respects you.
2006-08-29 14:01:26 · answer #4 · answered by Mark 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop watching the View and munching on potato chips for one. You could also improve on your personal appearance. If your lucky he'll divorce in six months. Another thing that might be new to you the word "tooth paste".
2006-08-29 14:00:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe he needs to get his head checked out and he can be bipolar or something it does happen and his split personality is making him act that way....good luck
2006-08-29 14:00:31 · answer #6 · answered by MZ.LANDA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should video tape him one day without him knowing this. than you could talk about it when he denies it show him the tape. Let him know what it is that hurts u the most. also let him know that u do love and appreciate it when his shows u love. good luck & I feel so bad that he treats u like that.
2006-08-29 14:03:05 · answer #7 · answered by worried about u 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on how old he is, could be male hormone problems. My ex hubby was exactly the same........so we got divorced. Couldn't cope with it.
2006-08-29 14:29:20 · answer #8 · answered by lollipoppett2005 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he sounds manic-depressive to me. i lived like that for 27 yrs,until i was strong enough to walk away.. my advice is to run ,dont walk, & do it soon.. the faster you leave, the faster you will be healthy & be happy.. pls dont wait.
2006-08-29 14:03:54 · answer #9 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should have a long talk with your hubby and let him know that the calling you stupid hurts and thata if he doesnt straighten up then you'll seperate...........................nobody should to take verbal or physical abuse of any kind!!
2006-08-29 14:00:49 · answer #10 · answered by Phenomenal_Black_Woman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋