2006-08-29 06:48:26 · 9 answers · asked by Red 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I was married to this man 10 years and didn't know until 2 months ago. My daughter told me after we separated because she was afraid we would get back together. It happend 3 times. The first time she was 8. I have since pressed charges and filed for divorce.
2006-08-29 07:11:55 · update #1
Dear Red
I think at the moment you are not sure what you can do to help your daughter, or else that you do not have to mention it in Yahoo Answers. She told you is was only 3 times, yet I'm concern things may not be that simple. 10 years of abuse that is quite long for a teenage girl, and I'm afraid the abuse could be weekly bases.
It is only at the beginning for both of you, and it is really up to her to openly speak to counselor. In my experience I came to know that some of the sexual abused survivors did not start counseling until years later. And that is okay because it is best to commance healing when she feel ready to, or else things will turn out quite difficult for both of you. Be patient to her progress, I trust you that you will not give up on her am I right.
There is one I need to inform you, that your daughter may have some resentment to you, because all these years she may tried to tell you in a less obvious way. You as her mother did not discern her needs in all these years, she may not trust you in a way that you want just because of that.
Be aware of any signs of self-injure or depression... and her flashback as well, she even may have nightmares about those sexual abuse incidents.
I agreed that you should be there for her, yet she need someone who will not judge her and accept all her feelings to talk to; someone she can feel safe and loved; someone who share the similar experience. Try to find an online support group, there are some good website that she can join. At below I leave you a website that is where I log on daily.
Please send me a message if you need any help, I hope what I said is helpful to you.
Good Luck
2006-08-29 18:39:38 · answer #1 · answered by Sonny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm a sixteen 12 months previous, yet i'm a solid baby and don't provide my father and mom a number of crankiness. yet considering you're a confirm, i might advise ripping your self different than for all angles and seeing what it truly is that makes the doorstep daughter dislike you so intensely. (look at your self w/ a recognize all of it, ironic, sarcastic, uncertain, superious pair of colors; considering this may well be one among those recommendations-set some youngsters have, even the ideal human beings.) it truly is helful, yet additionally cope together with her with appreciate all of the time so she would be in a position to't have a valid reason to be disrespectful (even if if she does not interior the 1st place). i might confer together with her concerning to the myspace, or take her pc rights away. First although, study what she says. Then confer together with her Dad and characteristic him study it, if he's a robust individual he will stand at the back of your determination. Secondly, end telling her approximately your individual enterprise! the doorstep daughter is probable feeling perplexed approximately having a sparkling authority parent, and could be hell bent on hating you; for this reason i does no longer recognize what to do different than look ahead to her to flow to varsity. additionally, talk to your husband concerning to the style you sense or have a dreaded 'kinfolk talk.' wish it gets extra effective, yet no longer all sixteen 12 months olds are nasty and she or he probaly isn't undesirable to all of us.
2016-11-06 01:01:04 · answer #2 · answered by seelye 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For those of you who has young females,before you get married test your fiance's,get in his head about how he'll react to young girls,it could be a movie,it could be a hidden video cam,if his Internet savvy,pretend you're daughters age,in the same community or about a mile way,you will be surprised to see what men can become or do
2006-08-29 07:14:44 · answer #3 · answered by Ramesses V 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does that mean that your second husband abused her? Please tell me you found out quickly and had him jailed.
Or are you the dad who is dealing with her second husband?
Please tell me you beat the living hell out of him and then had him jailed.
In either case I think you need to schedule the appointment take, her there and wait for her. After a visit she will know if she needs to return.
2006-08-29 07:05:24 · answer #4 · answered by Flagger 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is 16 years old, therefore you don't have to convince her; just make her go to counseling; and, I hope her step-father is in jail.
2006-08-29 06:52:57 · answer #5 · answered by ROCK 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time to be a parent. Schedule an appointment, take her there, and let the professional do his job.
2006-08-29 06:55:32 · answer #6 · answered by javelin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just Be there for her and let her know help is out there and IF SHE WANTS IT that you will take her, also you may want to get consouling for yourself so that you dont end up hateing yourself for not knowing because it wasnt your fault he was a sicko!!!
2006-08-29 07:29:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't. Just let her know that whenever she's ready to address the issue, you're there for her and you will get help for her when she's ready. Good luck!
2006-08-29 06:50:52 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be there for her there. take one day at a time. talk to her love her. good luck
2006-08-29 08:06:57 · answer #9 · answered by Melda R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋