divorce women..?

Question

why did you leave?are you happier now or do you think to should of worked on it more?How hard was it to leave?did you have a place to go?

Answer 1

-I left b/c he cheated on me
-Yes, I'm happier now & no, it wouldn't have worked out if I stayed
-It was extremely hard to leave but I forced myself to
-I stayed w/ my sister for a couple of weeks, then got my own place

Answer 2

Every case is different. I divorced my husband of 7 years because of many things, all amounting to us not being compatible in anyway by the end of those 7 years. When we got together we were relatively young. From there I grew up, and he didn't. We went to counseling for about a year, but I couldn't get him to put forth the effort that counseling requires. I left 2x before I finally, after a really terrible weekend of not knowing where he was at all hours of the night, went to my lawyer's office and filed. He was removed from the house the following week. It was the simplest way. No begging, no promises, just done. I feel that I made every possible effort to make this marriage last, but it didn't work. I am happy and relieved. Can't wait for what comes next in my life!!

Answer 3

I have never been happier than I am now since I got divorced...I always thought that the first guy you marry should be the last but of course it's not true...especially if he's abusive...I gave my ex more than enough chances and time to prove to me that he loves me unconditionally, but the sad part is that not only he put me down but his whole family was part of it...he would abuse me in front of them and they would sit back and watch as if it was a boxing match...he and his whole family would call me names like b**** and s*** just because I brought up the topic of getting a divorce...they told me the only reason why I wanted a divorce was because I was probably cheating on him and creeping with guys behind his back even though I didn't even have a car at the time to go anywhere except when he took me and drove me there...on top of that they said a good wife should just give in to their husband and do as he say or hit the highway...well to tell you the truth I would prefer to hit the highway then get hit by a man...so to all you ladies out there that are getting abused whether it be physically or emotionally think about yourself and your children, if you have any, and get out of that situation as soon as possible...you don't deserve to get treated like a worthless object and abused like that so please get help and trust me you will feel sooooooo much better..!!

Answer 4

I left because is was the third time I caught him cheating. We had two babies...and he refused to work and when he did all his earnings went into himself and his truck. He also hit me several times. Then I found out about a plot for him to kill me.

I was ashamed of the way I'd let my life turn out and that's why it took me so long to leave.

When I left I was afraid. But I just pressed forward and lived my life in between changing baby diapers.

I went to a relative's resort. My husband didn't know about this relative and wouldn't have known where to find me. I was emotionally weak and knew that if I saw him I would give in to him. I had to wait for an emergency hearing giving me custody of my children.

My father financially supported me while I was going through my divorce.

That was a year ago. Two months ago I married a childhood sweetheart and I've never been happier. My children have a good Daddy now. I have never been so loved.

Answer 5

Divorcing was not hard at the time. He and I married too young ( I was 17 ) We went on and off for 9 years and it always ended up that I got hurt. It is hard with children involved but I am open and honest with them and they are happier with us in two homes. I had to go back to my parents just til I got on my feet. Things are great now I am happily engaged for all the right reasons.

Answer 6

i left my husband because he was mentally abusive, it was a horrible poisonous marriage and i was repressed and miserable. I didnt want to work it out i was miserable. It was hard to leave because i didnt know how, but once the ball was rolling it got easier the process. Even though i wanted out i still dealt with severe depression issues for quite a while, at least 5-6 months, but i finally got over it. Yes i had a place to go because i kicked him out, i finally had it with him when he started to push me around. Im glad it did it all, im a much happier, wiser person. It was a learning experience for me in life.

Answer 7

my husband was abusive, very much happier now, i did think that i should have worked on it more, but i know now no amount of work would have helped, we went to counseling and all, yes it was very hard to leave. very hurtful. i was physically sick and hurt. i did have a place to go, but no where was home. i had to make a new one, that wasn't easy either. but after a year of moving on and looking back i made it. i let him have everything. i thought of him constantly.
good news is that i found a man that does respect me and loves me very much. i couldn't ask for a better man.

Answer 8

Leaving a bad relationship doesn't have to do with are you happy now. If you choose to leave a spouse for whatever reason then that is that. If you are happy now is not connected with that decision. You need to get a place to go lined up if you have that time,etc. But you may leave and have a place to go and be financially set and still not be happy. Don't confuse yourself on this.

Answer 9

It was leave or die -- choice was easy. Yes, I'm happier now. There was no working on anything. It was hard leaving -- I hung on for 11 years believing I had to honor my marriage vows and that I owed it to my husband. And yes, I had a place to go.

Answer 10

It was hard for me to leave because my ex and I share a child together he's a US Marine after being in the military for so long it just took it's toll on our marriage plus he was a cheater and in his mind he saw nothing wrong with that which was fine for the first year we were both cheating i am not proud of it.I made the right choice I grew up and he didn't yes I am very happy now I am in a relationship where there's trust mutual respect and stability.