My husband is the first man i ever loved. I love my husband very much. We are separated now. If things dont work out between us, will i ever be able to forget him? Will i still think of him a few years down the line? Do people just forget about a person they loved over the years? Would this love feeling go away?
2006-08-29 06:27:43 · 29 answers · asked by mam.cyborg 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You will not forget him, but with time, the pain will fade. I hope it is sooner rather than later.
2006-08-29 06:29:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I still love all the men that i have been in a long term relationship with. I think about them occassionally and I'm glad that I do but that love has faded from a romantic love to a kind of remote family love. They were there in my life, they helped to shape who I am today but I moved on.
I'm not saying that the process wasn't very painful each time because it was but firstly I learned to accept the fact that it hadn't worked out, then grieved for it (lots of tears, lying in bed and feeling incapable of anything), learned to live with it (and still actually function as a person!) and let it fade from the bright sparkling love that it was to a duller distant version. The time it took varied. Once it took 2 years but i wouldn't want to forget these people. Maybe if you tried to really forget you could. I'm not sure. I would think that things or situations would remind you.
I hope you work things out. Good luck for the future.
2006-09-02 02:40:08 · answer #2 · answered by honeybunchkaminski 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not married or anything but I would think that it wouldn't go away. At least lessen some over time. I mean it won't be as intense as what you are feeling now. But later on your feelings for him will be like a fond memory. And no you shouldn't want to forget about him, just realize that was a great love but sadly didn't work out. I think the more ppl try to force themselves to forget ppl the more they are hurting themselves. Because it is like denying that special part of your life. It would be unfair to you both to just cut out the memory of what you had. It doesn't need to be reverred or always thought of as the most perfect time in your life. But it was still a great first chance at having love and at least you will know you can have it again one day.
2006-08-29 06:33:05 · answer #3 · answered by Bloody Kisses 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You still love your husband but other people come along and you move on to loving someone else. Its very difficult and may take some time but eventually you will fall out of love. You never forget your first love, but some day you will move on.
2006-08-29 06:30:36 · answer #4 · answered by katem1992 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will in time,and you will think of him in a few years time, I don't think that we ever forget a person we loved, it just seems to fade and we try and get on with our lives, some a lucky enough to find love and happiness again, hope everything works out okay for you, good luck and god bless.
2006-08-29 07:22:08 · answer #5 · answered by donua1022 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I will NEVER EVER forget my first love... Ryan B. However... I understand NOW that the boy I use to love is gone forever and the man he has become is a different person. So, you will probably NEVER forget him, but eventually you will realize that the person he has become is not the same person you were in love with.
2006-08-29 06:29:53 · answer #6 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I met my first love in college. I have never forgotten him. I had regrets about our relationship and I swore that I would do things differently. That's how I was able to meet my second love...my husband. He and I are divorced now. I will always love him and I have a son who reminds me of him everyday. I hope I find love again, but I know that I will never forget these two men that I have loved and who loved me.
2006-08-29 07:16:10 · answer #7 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think of it as turning a page and its now a new chapter you are starting in your life.
You may move on but you will never forget your husband, too many memories...........
You can still love him even though your not IN love with him, two different things. All the best and take care
2006-08-29 06:45:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wish I could forget the person I love but cannot be with. I don't think it will ever happen. I guess it will get better with time... that's what everyone keeps telling me.
I'm just about getting to the stage where I can bear to think about the possibility of another relationship... maybe that will help.
I don't think it will ever change but the way we deal with it will.
2006-08-29 07:20:08 · answer #9 · answered by Ellie G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Generally, people don't forget persons who they can say they truly love. I'll never forget my first love & that 25 yrs. ago. People move on, the love may change from romantic to something else, but I doubt if you ever forget.
2006-08-29 06:34:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will never forget him, but as time goes on you will also realize you were more in love with the man you first began dating and probably grew apart when you were no longer the same people as when you were both younger.
2006-08-29 06:40:49 · answer #11 · answered by Sheila 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋