My mother in law, who we don't see much, has sent me an xcel file for me to download mine and my husband's schedule for the next three months. She just wants to know when we are available to plan things, but does this make me so uncomfortable?
2006-08-29 06:23:11 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
She is passing the spreadsheet around to everyone in the family (her husband, her daughter and spouse and my husband and me) asking them to fill in their work schedules and other stuff.
2006-08-29 06:33:35 · update #1
Thing is, I suspect she is coming from a good place, because she usually has a hard time getting her family together.
But I think this bothers me because it is such a perfect example of the kind of impersonal stuff that has kept them from doing enough together in the first place!
2006-08-29 06:42:09 · update #2
what?Thats weird.If its uncomfy to you dont do it.She dosent need to know everything that you have scheduled and i would tell her just that too.Tell her when you have free time u will get together.Or why dont you just set up a time to spend time with her.To me it sounds like shes trying to be nosy.
2006-08-29 06:28:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I wouldn't do it. It sounds a bit too much like she's trying to control you and your spouse. What bothers me is the fact that it's awfully invasive and leaves you little to no privacy. If she asked for your schedule for-say-the next week because she was planning a dinner party it might be different. But for three months? Way too overboard!
2006-08-30 05:25:35 · answer #2 · answered by Nala 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2006-09-06 11:54:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most moms I know, including myself, plan ahead far enough in advance to have all the kids come for the holiday or a family reunion. Good grief, just let her give you a date and plan around it. The rest of your schedule is non of her business.
I tell my kids here's the date, be there. After all I gave them a 6 month notice!
2006-09-05 16:48:18 · answer #4 · answered by together420yrs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not just send her a schedule of when you ARE available!! If that's all she's after, then such a schedule would be perfect and you don't have to tell her what you're doing every second of every day!! Win -- Win!!
2006-09-04 17:21:02 · answer #5 · answered by Petey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't know your m-in-law but it does sound a little controlling on the surface, but you did say that they are very impersonal with eachother so she might not realise how it seems. She just might be desperate to get her family together. I don't think I would do it; I would just talk to her, offer to help her get something together. Maybe if she didn't feel like it was all on her she would lighten up a little.
2006-08-29 13:49:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's personal info that she wants so it will make you feel uncomfortable. It is like giving her a video of your life. I wouldn't want anyone but me to know what I am doing every moment of the day. Tell her that you guys will try to make time to visit on a weekend. Tell her that you are not comfortable with this schedule. I'm sure she will understand.
2006-09-06 02:47:39 · answer #7 · answered by BabyAngel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In the schedule put in things like Sept. 8th 7pm to 11pm. S & M training class. Sept 13th 11am to 2pm, In-law Voodoo doll making class. Oct 2nd All Day, Having sex with the Oakland Raiders. Hope this works for you.
2006-09-04 21:56:17 · answer #8 · answered by donronsen 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO DON"T DO IT. She will ask again and again. Simply write back and ask what SHE has planned and you will check with your husband. It doesn't matter what folks ask for it is up to you to respond or not. Just handle this with respect and demand she respect you and your husbands time. Because what if you have a change in your plans ? Do you stop and inform her? See this is not appropriate for her to ask first of all. Take care of this now. NIP THIS IN THE BUD!
2006-08-29 13:30:26 · answer #9 · answered by cindy s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
id send her something with a work schedule and then tell her that things that arent planned seem to be coming up constantly. just because she wants to have an idea of when to plan a get together.
maybe its because of the thought of someone that you might not want to be close to knowing what your schedule is.
2006-09-05 20:50:19 · answer #10 · answered by lodeemae 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Instead of writing your exact schedules, would it be easier to simply X out the days that dont work for you. That way she would not have to know every move that you and yours make. But be careful you will probably need to talk to your husband to make this will not offend her. Its a thought.
2006-09-02 12:05:14 · answer #11 · answered by Amy Renee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋