Is my husband out of the norm when it comes to breastfeeding?

Question

I have breastfed four babies and my husband totally supported breastfeeding and was not a big cry baby over how he lost the use of his boobies because of the baby.Im thinking most men are not as mature as my hubby and im wondering why? I mean why would you be so stupid to even care when your wife if trying to keep your baby as healthy as possible and do the best thing for baby...are men that dense because i see alot of them genuinely upset over this.

Answer 1

I've found most men who are willing to put their family first don't have an issue with this. I think the problem is that many men approach relationships very selfishly. If only they would realize that once they put their wife first, she will WANT to do great things for him... it's actually pretty easy.

Answer 2

He is the normal one. I'm blessed to have a normal one, too. I don't understand why a dad would want to be so selfish as to deprive his own children the best possible nourishment they could have.
My husband always made me feel even more beautiful as I was nursing our babies. I think the majority of men feel the same way, but of course there are a few that may want boobies for something other than their sole purpose. Luckily, I've never run into one like that. I'm sure they're out there though. Sorry for the ladies who have to put up with it.

Answer 3

My husband was somewhat upset about breastfeeding, but not so much because the baby got "his boobies". He was more upset that he didn't get to feed the baby (though, I suspect that if I had bottle fed, I still would have done 95% of the feedings. . . he just would have fed the baby when it was convenient for him!) Be glad your hubby is so supportive!

Answer 4

My bf and I have spoke of breastfeeding and in his family he was raised to believe that a woman only breastfeeds for 1 month and then they go on the bottle. I totally disagree. I told him I would for up to a year depending on the child. He would have to accept that if he wants to have children with me. I made my stand early on so he knows what to expect if we have children.

I think what happens is a man becomes so agitated by the possibility of not having sex like he did before baby that he thinks of the child as a obstacle for sex. It really isn't, nor was it during the time I breastfeed for my first born.

Answer 5

My husband was not breastfed himself. His mom was very young and it just "wasn't done" by anyone she knew. She has since learned the benefits and supports me though.

When I was pregnant with our first baby, my husband and I talked about it. I always knew I would breastfeed. He wasn't sure about it, but he knew we couldn't afford formula, and he knew I was going to do anything I had to in order to breastfeed.

Well, after seeing the benefits firsthand, he's ALL for breastfeeding now. He even tells his co-workers to go home and tell their wives to breastfeed, and to help them by getting them a drink of water or a pillow.

He still gets his chance to enjoy my breasts after the baby is asleep, and he's man enough to grasp the concept of taking turns and sharing.

I truly think most men either haven't learned about breastfeeding so they don't know enough to be negative or positive about it, or they are supportive of it. The negative minority just happen to be louder about it than the "real men" who are out there loving and supporting their wives!

Here's to all the real men out there, and the little boys who are nursing from their mommas and learning what breasts are truly made for!

Answer 6

It isn't just men who are immature about it. there are many women out there that are incredibly grossed out by the idea of a baby sucking on their nipple. I don't get it.
My husband has been VERY supportive but he was raised in a culture that it is totally abnormal to see a baby with a bottle in its mouth. His mother breastfed all nine of her children well into toddlerhood and only quit when the next one was born (as far as I know she never tandem nursed). Well, she did eventually wean her youngest - lol. My husband has never been grossed out or felt jealous. He is also very much into co-sleeping with our precious son.

Answer 7

I'm not sure why breastfeeding necessarily prohibits the husband's "use" of his wife's breasts!

Personally, I never felt that my breasts were being "used" either by my baby or my husband. And, yes, of course, you should do what is best for the baby and breastfeeding is proven to be the best way to feed a baby.

A man who is jealous of the baby has problems of his own.

Answer 8

My husband never had an issue with it. I know he wasn't thrilled when I'd be engorged and his touch would make me cry, but that is sometimes part of breastfeeding. It drove me nuts that I'd have to keep the girls covered in bed so I'd not fountain everywhere, but that is part of it too. He was always very happy when I weaned, but he never pushed me to. The longest I breastfed was 13 months. Then we both got my body back. Yipee!

Answer 9

Where are you finding these ignorant men? My husband is all for it and so was every guy in our birthing class...

I think a big part of it is men are becoming more active in the pregnancy and the delivery and rearing of their children...where as in the past...all these neanderthals did was assist in conception and then it was up to the mother...

Now a days...they are right there with you reading the books and taking the classes and learning the benefits available to their children.

And if they aren't....they shouldn't be breeding.

Answer 10

Nope! My husband is the same way. It may help out that he has his Master's in Agricultural Education so he understands that nursing is the most healthest way to rasie any newborn. I nursed my son who is 3 now for over 2 1/2 years and we are pregnant with our 2nd. I will nurse this child until he/she wants to quit.