I m married just 6 months back. It was a love marriage & my inlaws was also ready for that. But after marriage they start saying we did not like u bcoz u r healthy. Then they start fighting with my husband everytime & finally things go so wrong that we had decided to live separately & my inlaws broke all relations with me but i m unable to forget those bad things which had happened with me. My husband loves me lot & say everytime forget everything but i want to teach lesson to my inlaws.
2006-08-29 06:05:52 · 18 answers · asked by muskan 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
have kids with ur husband, live with him, have a great life, be happy, ignore them and they will be so mad and annoyed that will be the only lesson they need to learn.
show them u dont care about their stupid thoughts and live ur life the way u want it to be and that will just drive them even more crazy. just act as though whatever they say does not affect u and that u are above all that.
2006-08-29 17:45:06 · answer #1 · answered by mayami 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The answer to your question is pretty simple. It's not only you. Thousands of married women are ill treated and abused by their inlaws in India. A lot of them are killed or commit suicide as a result of these. I'm sure you have heard about dowry deaths. Many inlaws don't take too kindly to their sons getting into wedlock out of love. An arranged marriage almost certainly brings a hefty dowry and a love marriage doesn't. So your inlaw's attitude towards you and their (wayward!) son is explicable. But why your inlaws went after you because you are healthy defies common sense. Any parent looks for a healthy bride for his son. I haven't heard any parent selecting a sick or weak girl as their daughter in law. But now that you and your husband live seperately, I would tend to agree with your husband, who wants to forgive and forget. No use continuing the fight with people who have a primitive mindset. Concentrate on your conjugal life now and live in peace. And in the process, try to put the unpleasant memories out of your mind.
2006-08-29 13:49:47 · answer #2 · answered by Modest 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
cant understand why your being healthy should be seen negatively, but that aside, I think the best thing is to move on and forget the lot of them. You may have heard the expression "SUccess is the best revenge"? I would focus on making myself happy, with or without your husband. Focus on something else, a career, a hobby or something. Forget your inlaws, cos to be honest they sound like a jealous bunch of losers.
2006-08-29 13:12:17 · answer #3 · answered by Chimera's Song 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't teach you in-laws a lesson. You and your husband need to get back together and put them in their place! Your husband needs to stick up for you no matter why they don't like you!! Spliting up is giving up and you've only been at it 6 months!!! To bad if they don't like you! You are already married and you and your husband need to cling together to make it work!! I know its hard, but nobody said marraige was easy! You and your husband are a family now and you can't let ANYONE come between the two of you. Best wishes, I hope you can work it out. Remind your husband his place is at YOUR side not his parents! If they continue giving you guys trouble, then stop seeing them!!
2006-08-29 13:11:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your hubby is supportive of you and think that you are right and loves you than why do you care so much about in laws girl? just let them rot in hell. If they don't like you than you should just move on and don't give a damn about them. Tell your hubby how badly they treated you maybe he can settle the issue by explaining to them that their behavior towards you has hurt him...whatever it is.... try to solve problem in a positive way rather than picking a fight. it is not worth it.
But in the end they are the parents of your man, and maybe they would forget the whole thing and come back to you to apologise?... Be patient. Good luck to you.
2006-08-29 13:18:33 · answer #5 · answered by Nailhead_pixie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because you are looking for it.it happens with many people and in many families.understand your family background and way of living is different from your in-laws.time will make both of you understand and appreciate each other.many differences you can ignore as they should not bother you materially and some you may smile and get going.no teaching lessons in the family only learning will be harmonious.i am a father- in-law.best of luck.
2006-08-29 13:27:39 · answer #6 · answered by ks 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear mam, teaching elders a lesson is not a good thing. Plss love ur husband more and forget other things.
2006-08-29 14:32:41 · answer #7 · answered by Aakash 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to teach them a lesson stay together. Why did you split up if you guys really love each other? It shouldn't matter as long as he's happy wit you and your happy with yourself. F*@#k what everybody else thinks. Both of you need to let that go and be happy together.
2006-08-29 13:12:00 · answer #8 · answered by Tate_06 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We cannot teach lessons to anybody.If they r really nice people they could have realised their mistakes already.Do not waste your time thinking to teach them lessons.Instead take care of your husband and be happy.Do not speak ill of them to your husband.Just ignore them and be happy.It happens to most women in the world,not on;ly to u.
2006-08-29 13:29:44 · answer #9 · answered by Bharathi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, you are lucky that ur husband is on ur side. Don't ever please take revenge on anyone--God is watching and they will get what they deserve. Stay happy --- forget about the past and live for today and tomorrow---Good Luck!
2006-08-29 18:11:04 · answer #10 · answered by MR 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋