what are your thoughts?
2006-08-29 05:59:13 · 15 answers · asked by ♣ 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
The time frame after marriage shouldn't be too much of a consideration. What needs to be considered is if you are both emotionally and financially ready for a baby?
Will you be a stay at home mom or turn your baby over to daycare at the tender age of 12 weeks?
Will you be a working mom full time or part time?
Is it important that one parent be home with this baby for the first three years of life?
If one person stays home will the other be ok with the financial responsibility?
How will you raise this child? Do both of you have the same moral and values (hopefully you already know this)
How do you both feel about discipline?
Will this child get 100 percent of your love, time, and attention?
Do both parents agree the child comes first? Not your career, job, hobby, sports, etc.
Have you both enjoyed enough time as husband and wife before you become mommy and daddy?
2006-08-29 07:08:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not the same answer for everyone....but now that I am a bit older and have gone through 1 bad marriage and am happily married now on marriage # 2 I can speak from my experience. I think the best time is when both partners really want a baby, when you own a house and are financially ready with healthcare insurance..........
2006-08-29 06:21:04 · answer #2 · answered by jachooz 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had my baby within a month of marrying him. I think a year would be good. It would give you both a chance to adjust to married life before adding a baby. Even just pregnant, your hormones can be crazy and cause you to act differently than normal. Its hard on a marriage to adjust and settle if one of the partners is having crazy mood swings. Waiting a year would give you both time to get used to each others quirks before hormones mess things up. It would also be a good time to start setting money back in a nest egg. Car trouble, house repairs, sick from work, getting laid off, or having a baby. Its always easier if you have the peace of mind that having money tucked away brings. Even a couple thousand saved in that first year could take alot of stress off your spouse. Guys worry alot more about the financial part of a child than women do. So give yourselves a year, then start trying.
2006-08-29 06:09:46 · answer #3 · answered by Velken 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I'd say the IDEAL would be at least nine months, or however long past that the couple wishes.
However, this isn't a perfect world.
Only you know when you are ready for a child. My personal advice is not to wait too long, because as you age, your chances of getting pregnant easily and having an uncomplicated pregnancy and birth decrease, and your chances of needing fertility treatments or having a difficult pregnancy increase.
2006-08-29 07:17:51 · answer #4 · answered by Kathryn A 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Studies show that a marriage will last longer if you wait at least 6 months after marriage to have a baby, but it depends on if you financially and emotionally ready. Best Wishes
2006-08-29 06:30:33 · answer #5 · answered by Allycea's Mommy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is an answer that can ONLY be determined by you and your husband, based on the quality and strength of your marriage, your financial situation & your unified desire & commitment to having and raising children. No stranger on an internet answer board can answer this for you!
(consequently, my husband and I got the baby bug around 8 months, started trying after a year & we're still trying 13 cycles later - sometimes the plans you have made for yourself don't exactly pan out!)
2006-08-29 06:05:19 · answer #6 · answered by Penn State Princess 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the couple. Are you financially, emotionally and physically ready to take care of a child. Also, are the both of you ready for the honeymoon to be over if this is the case. If you feel you are ready than go for it. Good luck to the both of you.
2006-08-29 06:17:10 · answer #7 · answered by Kenya 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in my opinion, everyone is different and in a different situation. i know some people who have been married for years and still dont want children but then theres people like me...i already have 2 kids but my fiance and i are getting married in october and we are trying to conceive as soon as we get back form the honeymoon! do whatever you feel is right. i would just make sure you and your husband are emotionally and financially stable. good luck :)
2006-08-29 06:51:38 · answer #8 · answered by tulips♥77 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would think 2 or 3 years would be perfect. :) I was pregnant while I got married, lol but I had been engaged to him for 3 years. It's nice to have alone time before kids. Trust me, you'll be thankful.
2006-08-29 06:04:08 · answer #9 · answered by sahm2boys 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you both feel ready to have a baby.
2006-08-29 06:10:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋