No matter what kind of parents that you have, society is largely responsible...?

Question

for the raising of children. If you live in America, for example, you would grow up to be a certain way. If you lived in Russia, you would grow up to be a certain way. And so on and so forth. Parents are responsible for a major part of a childs upbringing, but once a child reaches a certain age, that is when society takes over. What is your opinion on this? Agree or disagree?

Answer 1

In large part I agree with you. After all, parents are affected/created by society, too. If you are thinking on a global scale, most Americans are very similar. If you are thinking more locally, though, those are the differences that community, family, and parents make.

Answer 2

everything in a person's life has some affect on their upbringing

parents can (and should) have the largest most profound effect, followed by other people close to the child

in the end, the person with the MOST responsibility for how a person "turns out" is that same person

people, in the end, make their own choices, if they had the advantages of a favorable childhood family and society it is much much easier for them to make responsible choices, but in the end, each person makes their own

I don't think "society" ever takes over. Family is still a stronger influence through ones whole life, than "society" at large, although that effect does increase through early life.

And, society bears no "responsibility" because society isn't anybody in particular, and can't be responsible.

Answer 3

Partially, but in essence while society provides the morals and values (at least some of them, religion provides more), it is the parents that are the ones who instill them in the child. So parents are still the larger majority of the responsibility. Society does have some, and once the child reaches a certain age he is responsible for his own thinking (he can do his own reasoning at that point) and he is responsible as well.

Answer 4

I agree with you to a certain degree. Sometimes it doesn't seem to matter what you do as a parent. My mom pretty much raised us by herself. My aunt, her older sister had 5 kids. We all grew up together with the same rules, the same no-nonsense moms, and severe punishments for bad behavior. My sisters and I have turned out to be rather decent members of society. We all work for a living and are raising our kids as best we can. My cousins however, are in and out of prison, two thieves, a drug dealer, a drug addict, and a no working welfare recipient with 6 kids of her own and not even 30 yrs old yet. My mom often wonders why if our moving away from that city had a lot to do with the way we turned out. I would say yes because they seemed to adapt to the environment they were raised in which was riddled with gang and drug activity. I hated moving away but I'm glad we did. There's no telling how different our lives would be.

Answer 5

I agree, although I think in some ways, society has taken over even earlier than you suggest.

There was a question posted the other day about nudists, and whether or not it's a good thing for teens to be naked. The short version of my response is that in American society, it probably wouldn't be a good thing - mainly because they'd be uncomfortable in spite of their upbringing. In other cultures, it would be perfectly fine.

So in spite of growing up in a household where nudity is natural, it's quite probable that society would have a deleterious effect on their outlook.

Answer 6

while i agree that once a child hits an age where he can clearly state his own preferences/ opinions and societies pressure will influence those , i disagree that society will "take over" if we instill a certain standard of morals and mores then reguardless of what society offers the child will have a stable base to build his life upon. society can influence only the weak spots the parents left. it is up to the parents to make sure they leave no weak spots.

Answer 7

nope.society affets paents as well. example when society ccpted homosexualism - the parents started to absorb the concept of being ok with homosexual issues..thus the child is influenced-thus the child is ok with Homosexualism n is not a homophob when he grows up.
this is just an example. if society was good-......it wud affect the members of society-the members r the prents..n parents affect children. SO society is responsible to everything.
I mean SOCEITY indirectly affects us.n our children. society is responsible.it takes contol from the start.

Answer 8

I can say that society doesnt make us who we are. I grew up with hardly anything and that was done on purpose so I wouldnt be a sniveling baby thinking everything was going to be handed to me.
I watched my father work sometimes 85 hours a week, a good strong work ethic that society had no place in teaching me. Society didn't teach me to love, my parents did. Society didnt teach me how to succeed, my parents did that.
I have never let society direct me where to go or have that big of an influence on me

Answer 9

I agree. Coming from the mother of 3 grown children, parenthood doesn't come with a manual. We do, as our parents did, the best we know how, and hope that what we have taught them carries with them through adulthood. Once our children are out on their own, they chose their own path, right or wrong, and the only thing we can do about that is be there for them if they fall.

Answer 10

Agree