How do you feel about yourself when you cheat?

Question

I'm interested to know how people feel about themselves when they cheat. Does your conscience bother you? Do you feel it's a personality disorder? Do you enjoy living a dark side? Are you concerned about disease or legal ramifications?
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Answer 1

I was a dog several years ago. I was living with a girlfriend (atleast I told her she ws my girlfriend) out of convenience. I was cheating on her left and right and I never felt any remorse. I guess it was because I had been burned so many times and had stuff like that done to me, that I felt it was my turn. I didn't care until I got caught and saw how much it hurt her. She and I have both moved on as have the girls I cheated with. The one weird thing, looking back, is that the girls I was cheating with knew about my "girlfriend."
There's a saying "once a cheater, always a cheater." I am here to say that that's not always true. I am happily married now to a great woman and I would never dream of cheating on her. My past has taught me it's not worth it!!!

Answer 2

In a way you feel sad because when you cheat you are admitting to yourself that what you once had and thought was the most wonderful thing in the world, is now dead and beaten beyond repair. You also realize that in the end, everyone moves on and there is no use crying over spilt milk. So you engage in the affairs in the hope that some day you will muster up the nerve and find the right moment to tell her how you feel.

I think the first time a guy cheats it is one of the saddest moments of his life. And the fact that it is another woman that is with him comforting him and making love to him, a woman that is not his wife, breaks his heart and reminds him how hopeful and young he once was.

There is no thought of conscience or giving in to something. As for the legal ramifications and disease, they are considered and dealt with before there is an affair. On the night you do it, you wish that the woman you are with was your wife and all the pain and suffering you had to go through was just a bad dream.

Answer 3

Ive cheated it was in my early yrs and yes I felt like I was doing something really C r a p py I told myself it was ok everybody cheats at least thats what I thought because it had been done to me more than once even once when I married my first Husband,we both cheated it was like an open Marriage for the first year but after having my baby in the third year of marriage I begin to take it serious but he didnt know how to stop by then and when he did it was way to late I was ready to move on I am Married again and I would never cheat on my Husband because I know it would hurt him and I dont want to inflict that kind of emotional pain on him and not only that I have a man in my life that I completely trust first time for everything I guess.

Answer 4

My conscience doesn't bother me, I think it should but it doesn't. I really have strong feelings for the person I am cheating with. I wish I could be very open with our affair. I am not too concern about diseases for I have known them for a long time so I am comfortable with them. Now if it turns into a legal thing with me and my husband I will lose for sure but I think I am prepared for that. I didn't go out there to cheat it happened and my feelings got caught up in it.

Answer 5

I have never cheated on my husband. But I would imagine that if I did - I could not live with myself - my conscience would get the best of me and I couldn't live with that lie. People who do I am sure are looking for some quality that their current partner does not possess. They may be looking for excitement as the person being cheated with is the "forbidden fruit".

I don't understand why people whould cheat as grass is not always greener on the other side - just a different shade of green!

Answer 6

I cheated once on someone I was with for 11 years. I caught him before this about 4 times and after our divorce I found out there was at least 20 other women he slept with in our short 5 year marraige. Do I feel guilty? Yes I do and always will, even though after all the times he did it to me (first being when I was pregnant during our first year of marraige and on both my 1st and 2nd anniversaries) I know I shouldn't feel guilty, but I do. He doesn't know I cheated, even post-divorce, nor do I plan on telling him as it's water under the bridge now.

Answer 7

People are different. Some people cheat and do not feel a bit of remorse about it. Personally, I know of people in my family who have been cheating on their significant others for years. That is a long time to be living in the dark with such a great secret and weight on your shoulders. Sometimes people cheat just for sex, but there are times when it can turn into you falling in love with someone else. Ultimately, cheating will lead to pain and unhappiness. So you have to think to yourself, is it worth it?

Answer 8

Honestly, i don't really cheat that much, since i am the smarty-pants in my class and most people cheat from me, but if i remember right, cheating makes me feel really guilty and scared, like i'm a killer or something and the police are right around the corner. Which is why i never decide to cheat, becuz it won't come to any use. But when people cheat from me, and i know, i make sure to tell them to switch sum stuff up, so i don get in trouble for their stupidity.

Answer 9

i cheated once .... i ended up telling my husband left him became anorexic and an alcoholic for a long time we got a divorce....because i couldnt deal with what i had done....i have now delt with it ... i dont drink any more and i eat!!! i know what i did was wrong and that i can not undo it... he still wants me back and always has and it has been 11 yrs...sad but i can never go back i just cant that guilt wont let me...it is still there...cheating can be a very damaging thing .... to either the person that done it or the person it happened to....

Answer 10

I never cheat because I believe that cheating on my mate would be cheating on myself. Here's why:
when I make a comittment to love and marry, it is a comittment I made to my wife, AND myself.
If I break the terms of that comittment, I make myself lose confidence in my ability to maintain a vow. In the end, I lose self-confidence and suffer the effects thereof.