I was with my ex 4 or 5 yrs ago. He was my first and i thought i loved him but he goes and hooks up with some other b*tch with out telling me sh*t. I kinda got over him and met the man i am with now. This man im with cares about me like no other and so do i. But I think i have stronger fellings 4 my x and i dont want to. What do i do?
2006-08-29 05:32:14 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Well first off you need to stop kidding yourself, you are not over him if you still have strong feelings for him! You need to get over it! If you have a great man now, then learn to focus on the here and now and stop trying to re live the past. Your ex has moved on and so have you. Let it go! You can and probably always will have some sort of love for him, but you need to learn and realize that was your past!
2006-08-29 05:38:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Its not a matter of whether its right. Its a matter of whether there's any point to it.
(This is why people generally say you shouldn't get into a new relationship too soon after ending an old one and resolving old issues.)
There isn't. This person was a jerk. You're in a new relationship with, apparently, someone who is decent and caring.
It makes no sense to even entertain any "feelings" you have for the first guy; and if you can't (for lack of a more polite phrase) "get a grip" and knock it off; then, seriously, you should maybe see some counselor who could help you sort out any conflicting feelings you have.
You said you "kinda got of him". Obviously you know you weren't over him. Its time now to get over him and it, and if it takes a counselor then go with it. If you have trouble getting over the guy who leaves you for someone else you have something else going in your head that goes beyond any feelings you have for this person and more into stuff you, yourself, have going on regardless of what relationship you're in or not in.
Maybe you had more chemistry with the other guy, and if chemistry is more important to you than the calmer, more solid and caring stuff; then maybe you aren't being fair wasting this new guy's time and life. If the kinder, more solid and stable stuff is more important to you than chemistry, then just recognize chemistry for what it is (which isn't love) and move on.
2006-08-29 05:52:14 · answer #2 · answered by WhiteLilac1 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As time goes on, your feelings for your ex will fade. For now, give the man you're currently with a chance. He seems to really love you. Don't let your ex ruin your love life. He's moved on already and you should, too.
2006-08-29 05:45:11 · answer #3 · answered by Natasha 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well you can't help the way you feel it's uncontrollable. But you can keep from letting them pull you in the wrong direction know that you can't react on these feelings and move on . Sounds like you have a good catch now don't let this interfer with that. He has moved on with wife and kid let it be ,you'll get over him someday .
2006-08-29 05:44:38 · answer #4 · answered by Carrie L 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it's fine for you to still care for him and you probably always will. Even if he has a wife and kid, but it's NOT okay for you to try to get him back or mess around with him anymore. You need to let him be with his family. IF it doesn't work out with his family and you want to that's different, but you shouldn't be the cause of any separation.
2006-08-29 05:42:38 · answer #5 · answered by ******* 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are still grieving for a love lost. Just remember, what you are grieving is the love that was there in the begining. Work it out within yourself and work on your present relationship!
2006-08-29 05:37:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes. That is dependency. He is not the guy for you. He treated you wrongly, broke off the marriage, and moved on. Move on, too. Or you will miss out on life.
2006-08-29 05:54:12 · answer #7 · answered by avll 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
forget the X
2006-08-29 05:38:36 · answer #8 · answered by Valerena 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
for fun only
2006-08-29 05:35:58 · answer #9 · answered by Udit D 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
just forget him
2006-08-29 05:36:07 · answer #10 · answered by IKNOWNO 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋