I was all in love wit this boy. And in the beginning it was bliss but that soon came to an end. My brother tired to warn me about him but I wouldn't listen. Everytime I was over him, he would come back and make me love him again. I am normally the one who runs away for relationships but I found myself chasing him. Everything he would do would hurt me, but yet I would stick around. But now I really hate him. I can't stand to look at him, and I go out f my way to avoid him, but I am friends with his friends. I feel like if I hate him then I must still have some kinda feelings for him, other wise I would care less about where he is and who he is with. Like for real, I walk down 3 streets in the mornings because I don't wanna be near him, so I find another bus. I really can't stand him, and I feel like he hurts me on purpose. All we do is fight. What do you think, do I have feeling still, or am I just fed up?
2006-08-29 05:28:52 · 8 answers · asked by :Dazed and Confused: 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
girl, you have both. you are still feeling him but you are obviously tired of his ****!! trust me i've beeen there. i honestly think that he is playing games with you, the only way to get over his *** is to think about all the BAD things he did to you that made you upset or that hurt you. if you don't want to be around him try to avoid him, and if he's in your face ignore his *** to the fullest. he may try to be sweet, because he knows you still got feelings for him. but if you ignore his *** he'll feel like ****, because then he'll realize that he got you!. i just think he's playing with your emotions,and that is not right. who the #%&@ does he think he is? just brush ur shoulder and keep it moving. i hope u find the right for you, and i know u will!!!
2006-08-29 05:46:05 · answer #1 · answered by la nena loca 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have never found that there's a thin line between love and hate. For me, love is at one end of the spectrum and hate is at the other, and there's a giant gap between the two.
You're right. You shouldn't be thinking about where he is and who he's with, but it doesn' t help that you share friends. That doesn't allow you to have a clean break.
Usually, when someone is hurtful to someone and intends to be that person who gets hurt can hate the the other person. Its that simple.
It may not be that you still have any good feelings toward him. What it could be is that you got in the habit of thinking about where he is and who he's with, and you haven't managed to get out of that habit. People who are treated poorly can get in a certain habit of thinking and can kind of get stuck in that thinking even though the situation has ended.
Something else you need to ask yourself, though, is whether you may have gotten something out of the drama of having the tumultuous relationship. People who are young can actually enjoy having some big drama going on, and when its over and the drama is over, sometimes someone can feel as if he/she has nothing going on. It may be the drama you still have feelings for because you're young and because now you may feel that you have nothing to be thinking or talking or worrying about.
I believe when people believe there's a "fine line between love and hate" it isn't that. Its usually more that there's a blurring of the line between getting something out of having a bad relationship and getting something out of the relationship, itself.
2006-08-29 05:40:32 · answer #2 · answered by WhiteLilac1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you may just be fed up with the whole situation. But instead of facing him, you choose to run away. This does not necessarily mean that you are still in love with him, but it is possible that a small part of you still cares about what he is doing. If you are truly tired of being treated like you mean nothing, then do not be afraid to face him. But also, do not allow yourself to have those feelings of love for him because the end result is always the same.
2006-08-29 05:34:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your scared of how easy it was for him to continue to come back into your life to screw it all up over and over, so now your hating and avoiding him as a way of not letting him do that to you again, which could be a good thing i guess if your not strong enough to turn him away. When he tries again and you don't let him then you know it's over for good, and that you've become stronger because of it, smile at him and say thanks
GL
2006-08-29 05:39:42 · answer #4 · answered by whitebeanner 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you aren't ready to let him go. Stop avoiding him. Let him avoid you. Trust me, each time you run in the other direction, in his little head he is laughing because he knows he still has the power over you. Lift your head high and walk proud as you did nothing wrong and next time he comes crawling back to you, slam the door on his nose.
2006-08-29 05:37:36 · answer #5 · answered by GirlinNB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should forget about him and move on. If he treats you like that, you don't deserve someone like him. It's normal to feel hate after love. I don't blame you for being fed up. Just don't let him get to you and continue living your life.
2006-08-29 05:32:55 · answer #6 · answered by Kristen H 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You were not in love with this boy. If your' family, tell you: stay away from that boy! You say: I'm going to do the opposit of what they tell me. At first you think your family, tell you, because they are wrong. But times show you they are right!!
2006-08-29 05:35:23 · answer #7 · answered by alfonso 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop being the fool,leave the jerk alone,pick up your self respect and move on.
2006-08-29 05:32:39 · answer #8 · answered by master_der_man 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋