I have known this girl for 2 years and we are best friends. I love her and would love to be more than friends, but she doesnt want that. She has recently gotten a new boy friend (who i really like, hes real fun). Obviously I am very jelous, since i liked her like that, but I now feel that she is becoming more distant from her. It used to be that when we hung out with friends, it would be me that she spoke to most, that she stood closest to, that she played around with most. We were best friends (regardless of how I felt). But now it is her boyfriend and I feel kind of left out. will this end? Will it return to normal once her relationship isnt so new? What should I do and what are your thoughts on this?
2006-08-29 05:27:34 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
duh...if you feel nothing for her then why not just move on? it's probably the thrill of wanting what you don't have that makes you feel jealous.there are plenty more fish in the sea.
Sounds to me like a mixture of jealousy and being scared of losing her friend. The fact is that despite being your best friend, you have your own life to lead. Maybe you should sit her down and try and gently find out why she gets so bothered and reassure her that your friendship will always be there. Does she have boyfriends or has she been hurt in the past? Your success in love may be highlighting her own insecurities. Talking to her is definitely the best option. Good Luck.
ur angry the your best friend is treating you like crap in the end of her realatyionship with this boy she come cryin to you u and u won't really care youll be there 4 her but deep down inside you will say i told u so or that what u get but if u want it to stop b4 the end of the realationship tell her how you feel but set her down gentley like in a note like this
theres some things that have been buggin me lately about (her bf name) then go into how u feel tell her that its not jealousy but it the fact that you don't really have fun with her when shes tlkin bouyt her man lol
but if she doesn't take it well then shes not that good of a friend
this always happens when someone is taken away by someone else. you are doing the best you can as her bestfriend. it's okay to feel hurt because it feels like she chose him over you even though you two go way back! That's why you can't put all of your eggs in people's baskets. They will always disappoint you. God is the only person that will never leave you. There is no way that someone on this earth will always be there for you. Certain circumstances will come up like a friend leaving you for a boyfriend, or someone moving away. Jesus is always here for you, no matter what. She's growing up and you have to, also.
2006-08-29 05:43:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Knowing that you love her and now she has a boyfriend may let her feel guilty and don't want to see you get hurt and jealous at the same time. Maybe that's why she's kinda distant coz she cares. But don't worry. I know its kind of awkward but, why don't you ask her again if she loves you. Its worth trying though. If she couldn't accept your love, offer her your friendship. Assure her that you'll respect her decision. Its better to lose one relationship (like bf/gf kind of thing) than lose everything, both your love and friendship. I know its going to hurt you a lot but love is letting go. Maybe in the end, she'll realize what she's missing in YOU!
2006-08-29 06:17:20 · answer #2 · answered by denathene 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey when a gal says you are her best friend as a guy ...YOU ARE DOOMED!! But maybe not forever, so let her go for a bit, show her that you can date other people and treat them well. If she really likes and has taken you for granted in the past, she will then be asking you questions, then you let her know how you really feel..if you still have feeling for her..it might just work. Or else there are many sweet people out there dude!!
2006-08-29 05:35:04 · answer #3 · answered by kydexa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just keep your distance for a while and then give a slight hint to her like wink at her or something. If her bf and her are still this close after another month or so then you should either tell her or forget it. It isn't worth trying to hard. If it is going to happen, it will happen. But make sure not to say anything to hurt either of their feelings. Also, try to go on walks or something with her, just u n her. if you need more help later about this, you can always email me at breathtakingbeautiful@yahoo.com
Hope I helped! Good Luck!
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2006-08-29 06:01:57 · answer #4 · answered by ♥Pyar Ki Pari♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Come on man...don't let yourself be hung up on a woman who is not interested in being intimate with you. You need to let go...FAST. It simply is not healthy. Try and get some goals in life and get away from that dead end situation. If for some reason things turn around and she began to see you in a different light then more power to you...but it will never happen if you keep your current approach. Don't define your life on being with her.
Its time to grow up, mature and become a man all in one!
2006-08-29 05:44:58 · answer #5 · answered by Robere 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just let her be and try to curb your feelings for her. She will probably break up with this guy soon enough. You could try dating yourself. You might find a girl you like better than her. Plus a guy might not like it if she was to touch you more than him....jealousy is a b****. But the river does flow both ways. You can be jealous and he can be jealous but he's the one who has a "right" to. Try dating and wait and see what happens. Pretty much all you can do. When the time is right come up to her and talk to her about your feelings...preferably not when she is going out with him or anyone else...but not right when they break up too ok? good luck
2006-08-29 05:34:02 · answer #6 · answered by johnsmom326 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It may change once things get old. She'll come and talk to you and hang out more. But you shouldn't try to press for more. She could take it the wrong way and then you won't even be friends anymore.
Next time, make your move. This is what waiting too long can get you.
2006-08-29 05:31:41 · answer #7 · answered by Hpnotiq 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-01 01:19:22 · answer #8 · answered by ridder 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
very good quedstion
I am in kinda the same situation, my anser is you should talk to her you guys have a friendship so she will hear you out, and just ask her if you and her can spent some time together, like going to the mall or whatever
2006-08-29 05:54:36 · answer #9 · answered by Frank S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if i were this girl i would want a commitment from u-maybe u never proposed to her,so obviously she thinks that u r not interested in a long term relationship.now maybe u can ask her straight as to what relation she has with that man-if she says its nothing serious propose her.but do be ready for a no even-but no big deal-atleast u'll know that u tried.goodluck
2006-08-29 05:35:12 · answer #10 · answered by IKNOWNO 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋