a man and his family?

Question

what to do if ur finacee dont'n want to take care of u and ur pregnant and u have too keep asking your family to do things for u cuz he wont'n do it,, should i just find anoteer man who do it for me
and i have to cook,, clean,,, and clean up behind him,, and take care the baby what should i do

and then we move together he own 2 companys and i dont'n mind doing house work cuz that's my job he work and i stay at home and do my job which is to cook , clean ,, and make sure he's happy,,, but why just cuz he pay the bills why when mad day come he try too put me out and all of the sudden it's not our apartment,, but his,,, anit'n no ours on mad day ,,, what should i do

Answer 1

You cannot expect people to do things for you. You have to get them done yourself. As for the father of your baby, you can have a court order for child support and visitation.

Many women, cook,clean the house behind everyone who lives in it and takes care of little ones. You won't be the first.

If you feel you are being treated unfairly in a relationship, get out of the relationship. You don't have to be married to bring a baby into the world. But the baby does need a presence from both the mother and the father in its life.

Answer 2

I hate to sound rude, but what is exactly wrong with you that you can't do these basic things? Pregnancy isn't some sort of sickness, it just means you're carrying around a tiny little person. I have five kids, and when I was pregnant, my husband worked and always came home to find the house spotless and the children taken care of. I didn't depend upon anyone else to do everything for me, and neither should you. Unless there is something medically wrong with you, you're just being lazy. If he works and is holding up his end of the bargain so you can stay home with the little one, then quit your whining. Motherhood isn't easy, in fact, it's probably the hardest and most under-appreciated job you'll have. If it's not working for you, I suggest you stop having kids before marriage. Better choices usually lead to better outcomes!

Answer 3

Girl, FIND you another man...He is just using you and giving nothing back..! Not fair to you or the baby...He is not the only man out there. If this is his baby get him for child support they will make him do his part as he already should be!!! Let him clean his own house, feed himself his own dinner, you will be surprised how much a man can do for themselves if need be..but, when they have women around that will do it for them they abuse that situation!!! I would NOT marry him until things changed drastically that is for sure!!! Good Luck!

Answer 4

Your man is not committed to you. He obviously is not willing to step up to his responsibilities. There are legal resources, one parenthood is established to make his, not your family, support your child. You should not be looking for a man to take care of you, first you have to take care of you and your child. Plan on starting a career to support both of you, perhaps taking a class or two while you are pregnant, so it will give you a sense of accomplishment and you'll be partway to your goal by the time the baby comes. Most of all practice birthcontrol always! Don't count on him to be responsible, he absolutely is not!

Answer 5

If he not going to be man enough to take care of you and baby??? then you need to find someone else and make sure he pay for child support and that will teach him biggest lesson.

Looked at me and I married to my wife for almost 9 years and 2 kids and 3rd on the way due in march 07.

I remember before I married her I told her I don't want kids ever. and She found out that she is Pregnant and I had to be man enough to take care my wife and kids. and I did I don't run to my family to do for me no way.... I married this woman because I love her and I want to spend my life with and I love my kids more than anything in the world and I wouldn't stop loving my own family.

If he not going to be man enough to take care you and baby. and You didn't get pregnant yourself he got you pregnant it take two people to make it.

I think you can find someone like me because I clean and I take care kids too and my wife and I we work 50 50 percent and we love working together and I do clean up my wife but she does more than what she does than me and I never complian smiling.

he will need to pay child support and he has no choice... so if you want like my marriage then you need find someone like me and you will have no plm..

You smart and strong than he does. who need loser like him.

Answer 6

The first thing you should do is change his status from "fiance" to "ex-fiance". If he is treating you this way now, it is not going to get any better after you are married. A married couple should take care of each other, not have one person doing everything while one does nothing.

Answer 7

I'm just gonna throw this out there. You're pregnant and your emotions are riding higher than usual. Just take things one day at a time and communicate with your fiance about what you need from him on a regular basis.

Answer 8

Leave him and take care of it yourself. You don't need him or anyone else to take of you, be independent, it will pay off big in the future. When the time is right you will meet someone who is quality, but don't rush it. Be your fabulous self and take care of you and your baby. Be independent!!

Answer 9

Keep him if you don't mind spending your life like this. Can you accept it? If you're hoping he'll change miraculously - he won't. I don't know you, and I don't know your fiancé - but I'm guessing there must be a good reason as to why he *is* your fiancé and the father of your child. Is this reason (reasons) good enough to justify accepting his flaws? Only you can answer that.

Answer 10

Get rid of him he is a waste of time and you dont need any additional stress. Get Rid of him learn to stand on your own and soon some one will take his place who can be there for you. But be cautious who you let in around you children.