How can I let my ex boyfriend (who passed away) that I love him and I don't mean any of the rotten things I said to him before he left? I have to live with this every day and still feel bad. Someone help.
2006-08-29 04:55:59 · 33 answers · asked by sarah 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
first things first i feel for u. to be honest he knows(or should have already known). things are said in anger that we do not mean and he will be watching u now wanting you to stop tripping your self up over it and to move on but not stop thinking about the good times u had. I was in a similar situation with my sister we were having a fight and bad things were said from both of us and she stormed out. she went to see her friends and that was the last time i saw her. for years i blamed myself and needed therapy but i came to the conclusion that she was watching me everyday and that she knew how much i loved her so just don't let this wreck your life because he is watching and he knows how much you love him and that the things that were said were in the heat of the moment. I wish you the best of luck
2006-08-29 05:09:41 · answer #1 · answered by spunkster12 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Praying is an amazing thing. If you believe in it that will work for you. He should already know that you are sorry for the rotten things you said. You do have a heart if you are still upset about the things you said even after he has passed on.
2006-08-29 05:02:42 · answer #2 · answered by Lady Dee 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well first you have to come to terms with it within you by forgiving yourself. Then you have to understand that people aren't made to be perfect we make mistakes we are human. You make mistakes only to learn from them. I'm sure your ex boyfriend is watching over you and he forgives you for all the bad things you said to him. So be gain to forgive yourself that's the only way for you to regain your inner peace. I'm more than sure that half of the things you said to him they were only out of anger they weren't your true feelings. The people we love that pass away are always in our hearts and spirits. So if you feel the need to tell him your sorry and that you love him just say it out loud when you are alone. You can talk to him I'm sure he will hear everything you didn't get to tell him. Once you have done this you should be gain to be at peace with yourself.
2006-08-29 05:15:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
That's the funny thing abou the after life- everything that we stress about on this side (I didn't say I'm sorry, didn't get to say goodbye, etc) that person knows and is smiling everyday because they know how you feel and/or what you are going through.
If it makes you feel better and you are up to it, go to his grave site (be strong) and have a heart to heart talk with him. It's killing you inside because you don't get to hear a response back, but if you listen carefully to your heart and you knew him very well, you can almost hear what he would say. He is at peace now and so should you be.
2006-08-29 05:02:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
We all say things we don't mean, and probably don't notice unless we don't have an opportunity to apologize like you were faced with. Write your feeling down on a piece of paper, tell him everything you ever wanted to say to him; include a promise to yourself how you would like to change in the future ( like trying to be more constructive with criticism..or whatever it is about how you treated him that is really bothering you) plant it in the ground, plant a new tree there. As the tree grows, remember your words to your boyfriend and your vow for personal growth. A tribute to him.
2006-08-29 05:07:25 · answer #5 · answered by designchick 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You can't, forget the talking to the grave crap, I triied that for 10 years, no one hears except the grounds crew, find a new someone, and then everything will go away in a short time.
2006-08-29 05:00:59 · answer #6 · answered by Michael 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you can just sit and talk to him and tell him you are sorry and didn't mean any of it you were just upset and sometimes when we get upset we say things we don't mean out of anger and or go to his grave site and sit and just let it all out and talk to him ... Good Luck!!! i know this will help you not a day goes by I don't talk to my Grandmother I miss her talk to her everyday...This will make you feel better and help you cope with the situation better...
2006-08-29 05:05:11 · answer #7 · answered by JACKIE M 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
More than likely he already knows your feelings and forgives you already. If you feel the need to talk to him, go to his gravsite, take flowers, and sit and talk. You will be surprised at how much better you feel. I do this with my grandfather and it sincerely helps me just venting. He was the best person to do this with and he still is even though he is not here physically anymore.
2006-08-29 04:59:44 · answer #8 · answered by nursingsec8066 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Everyone says rotten things when they're upset. He knows you love him.
2006-08-29 04:59:00 · answer #9 · answered by Dave 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't, just remember that actions are more impact and important then words. If you showed him how you felt then that should give you comfort.
If not then don't feel bad, I'm sure it wasn't your fault that he passed away and its pointless blaming yourself and dwelling on the past.
2006-08-29 04:58:42 · answer #10 · answered by Chris H 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋