Why are people on Answers so rude, judgemental and sarcastic?

Question

Look at how the first couple of people answered this question http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AhUo3qbRUQOCZ7tqeKhZ8hbsy6IX?qid=20060829074608AApvXWT

Don't know anything about me but judged me because I'm a single mother asking for advice??

Its one thing to joke or be funny when someone asks a silly question, but why do people have to be a**holes when someone is really soliciting advice from the community at large because maybe someone else had the same experience? I used to be addicted to this site but now I realize that I'm better off not asking or answering anything. Thanks for nuthin'.

Answer 1

I hear you loud and clear! I've only used this site for a few months, but I see it changing from being a place where we can just share different viewpoints and ideas to a place where people post the sickest crap.

I'm also seeing very little tolerance and respect for opposing beliefs here! For many who come here, they don't seem to be satisfied to just believe what they believe, they have to slam, ridicule and otherwise just make a mockery of the beliefs of others. That is just not right!!!

It also bothers me when people post situations where it sounds as if they really are desperate and have few to no solutions for what they're going through. They really need help - but they'll get some ****** who will post the cruelest replies. I don't GET it! Even though the poster is most likely someone they will never met, there is a person in need there! I look at their answers and I think "...well, does that person feel BETTER, now that they have most likely upset and hurt someone who was already upset and hurt?"

Then, you get the people who have decided that it's not necessary to call their doctor with emergency or otherwise urgent medical questions anymore. They just post what the problem is here. That drives me up a wall.

I'm like you - I really liked coming here. I found it relaxing and it's interesting to learn other viewpoints. It was even fun getting the points and advancing through the levels. But, I'm sick of the blatent racist comments, stereotyping to the nth degree and just otherwise narrow-mindedness.

What began as a nice relaxing way to spend an hour or so has evolved into a firm understanding that, if this site is any example, the world is much more f*cked up than I thought it was. Much more.

Answer 2

This site is the bathroom wall of the internet. Anything you write will be read by lots of people, some will care, some will not.

You can't let a few jerks get you down. Trust me, there are a lot of jerks in this world, and you are bound to run into a few before it's all said and done.

Honestly, I don't see why you are getting so upset. The first answerer gave you thier honest answer. Their first line was a little bit rude, but overall the advice sounds to me like the advice a friend would give another friend. Imagine that was your best friend. They might tell you, "You should have thought about that before you got pregnant" I have friends who are that upfront with me. I think it makes me a stronger person.

The second answerer was a jerk, but every other answer was someone offering friendly advice. I really don't know what more you can ask for (aside from someone saying, "Yeah I'll watch your kid")

Answer 3

I read your question and i really don't think your status (single mum) has anything to do with some of the anwers you received. I think it's some kind of a craze at the moment, some people vie to give worst possible answers as in being rude and it certainly put a lot of people off asking and/or answering. Someone suggested a lot of under 16s use the site. Maybe there should be a new sub category for them.

Answer 4

I’ve come across a lot of rude people on this site. I’ve also come across some really kind and insightful people who have offered great advice. Much like the “real world”, you come across the good, the bad, the nice, the mean, and ultimately in the end, you decide what you want to take from it all. The rude, immature people on this site aren’t worth a second thought. Don’t let them get to you, they have no idea what you are going through.

Answer 5

Because they think they are being funny....

Sometimes, when your kid is big, and they will be sobbing with tired hysteria because their new born is crying all night, you will breeze by on your way to a wonderful date, and not care at all... remember, what goes around comes around.

It is tough to be a single mom, whether it is from the start, or it happens half-way through a divorce. There are many around... and the best, is that our children actually cope very well.

How to cope? I don't have any smart idea. I know I should say "get together with mom-child groups, lalala", but I always found those BOOOORING. Maybe you can be friend with such groups long enough to ... ensure you can live your kid with them??? ;)

Answer 6

Young lady, you are correct as you well know. This bulletin board or community chalk board is the electronic version of the box cars, walls, bus sides, buildings and men's room stalls. Those with nothing to say and are frustrated that no one listens to them, put their graffiti here with a keyboard rather than a spray paint can. I do find exception with you on one point. Read other's questions and you will find serious questions. Read the answers to other questions and you will find serious and intelligent answers. Of course they are interspersed with silly, stupid and moronic answers. I read one such on this question already. Hang in there. There are some here that can read and write and seriously want to help.
Vaya con DIOS

Answer 7

Because most people that answer questions rapidly are

a) looking for points so don't spend time on the reply

b) kids that love the 'u r teh gey' crap

or c) crusaders looking to spread their version of reality as it pertains to religion or politics


It does require a certain thickness of skin to stick around here, that or a high dose of apathy...but there are a few people who would love to help if they could see your question before it's lost in the tide of "y do she not luv me?" , "for chrischuns/aytheeists" , or "bush/muslim/israeli/americans suck" etc.

You DID eventually get good replies in there...it stings when the trolls jump on you but have faith...there are decent humans here as well.

Answer 8

This is the wrong place to ask for serious advise. Most of the people on this site are 16 years old or under.

Answer 9

Its sad, but being anonymous seems to bring out people's true characters. Plus, I'm convinced that half the people out here are teenagers with essentially no real life experience.

Answer 10

There are jerks all over the world, and YA is no exception.

I hope you find a good sitter and get some time to relax. Blessings!