Guys can you help me out?

Question

I am 31 weeks pregnant and I have gained 30 lbs and my hormones have me acting crazy and really jealous which isnt me and i know my husband is getting tired of it is there any thing i can do to make him know that i still love him and that i will get back to my normal size again basically how do i make him feel special? because he has been so wonderful about everything but i also know you can only push someone so far and i feel as if im pushing to hard, any ideas?

Answer 1

What you wrote in your question is a very good start. Speaking a man who has four children, I am CERTAIN that those words will go a long way.

Men are often forgotten during the pregnancy. When my wife was pregnant (four times), I cannot recall anyone asking me how I was or what I felt. I understand it. It does get old though. So, let him know that you care and that you still desire him.

You're probably too tired and uncomfortable to cook a special meal. So, stop by a gourmet shop and purchase a nice meal to take home. Pop open a bottle of wine (one glass only for you), eat together, talk, and smooch.

After dinner, put the dishes away and lead him to the bedroom. Some women are uncomfortable with intercourse at this point the in pregnancy, but I'm sure you know lots of other ways to please each other.

BTW, the old Jane Fonda workout video for pregnant women was very successful for my wife. She was able to feel pretty good right up until the last month.

Answer 2

Hello Mary, my wife went through something very similar just over 2 years ago. Talk to your husband and make sure he understands that you can't always be in complete control of your hormones. As for your size, yes you most likely will get back to it. Do you plan on breast feeding? If so, this will help you to lose the weight even faster! Either way, talk to your doctor and ask him what exercises you can do and how soon you can start to do them. Also, the baby is going to give you some sleepless nights!
Make sure you are able to take naps when possible. It will help you after the baby is born with your hormones also.
Once the baby is born, plan an evening for you and your husband. After the baby is about a month old, you two can go out to a dinner together. Nothing fancy and you won't have alot of time but get a baby sitter for just 2-3 hours and show him how special he is to you and your baby.
Congratulations and good luck!

Answer 3

I had 3 kids in four years, so we went throught the weight gain/loss and the hormones and crazy stuff and he stuck by me through thick and thin. The weight comes on and eventually comes off the hormones go away eventually as well. What worked for me was to explain to him that even though I was exhausted from having the kids and being with them all day I still loved him and gave him mercy sex whenever he wanted it even though he fully knew that I wasn't into it and then over time I got back into it and now everything is great. Make him feel special every so often (even if you don't want to) it does wonders for a mans ego and he'll be okay with all the baby stuff. Good Luck!!

Answer 4

Its simple...my wife and i went through the same thing. She DIDNT do this...but if she had it would have ment that things would have gone smoother then they did.

Just one night....when he comes home from work and you are in the right state of mind...do something special for him. It doesnt have to be anything mind blowing. Do the ammount you can take. Anything as small as making him a special meal....writing him a long note in a card....to buying sexy linegrie that is made for women who are pregnant and showing him that you still find him attractive.

BUT...the most important thing to do after you do any of these things is for you to sit him down and talk to him. Tell him what you are going through...how you feel and that you NEED HIM. I wish my wife at the time would have done any of those things for me. I am sure you husband knows how rough this is for you...that yoru hormones are driving you crazy and that you are ashamed of the weight you are putting on. But....all it wiould take is for you to let him know that you are still the woman he feel in love with that first time...and it would make all the difference in the world.

Answer 5

When your hubbie starts getting on your nerves, go out for a walk, lock yourself in a room and listen to relaxing music, or call a friend on the phone. Approach him only once you have calmed down a bit and have more perspective. That way you may have less things to regret. Ask him if he will go out for a walk with you, preferably at a nice park or something, and use that time to (1) start getting more fit, (2) talk about positive things and how much you appreciate his help, and what a great father you think he will make because he already is such an understanding and forgiving husband and so on...

Answer 6

It sounds like you have a good man. He knows things could be tough for you. What you need to show him is that you are trying. Work out, or better yet, go walking with him to work out. Apologize when you get jealous (its going to happen, and realizing you are doing it will help you stop.) Go out of your way to appreciate what he does for you.

Being pregnant (especially if it is your first child) is tough on both of you. It sounds like he is doing what he can to make it easier for you--you need to do the same for him. He knows you'll go crazy every now and then--so let him know how much you appreciate him. Physically too--for some weird reason pregnant women think that they are unattractive--this just isn't the case.

It sounds like you are more insecure about yourself than you usually are. Pretend you aren't--in your own head as well as in the way you act. After all, jealousy is basically insecurity. You wouldn't really care if he looked at that cutie that passed by on the street when you weren't pregnant, because you knew he'd be coming home with you. Now you aren't so sure because you think you are fat and ugly, but trust me, you aren't. You are just as hot as you ever were to him probably hotter--carrying my baby. . .its the sweetest thing a woman can do. If you don't feel pretty--fake it, and he'll keep treating you great. (The flip side is that if you keep acting like you are ugly and insecure, you will start to seem ugly and insecure to him--you have to cut that out.)

Answer 7

Put the worry away and stop sending your little baby bad vibes. Soon your whole pregnancy will all be a memory. Try to enjoy everything. Remember most people see pregnant woman as healthy, sweet, and so cute. Some can't help but want to touch your belly. The mood swings are expected. Just make sure you don't listen to all those voices in your head right now. Stay rational and focus on the happines & health of you, your baby, and Dad.

Answer 8

LOL....dang girl......chill out! Jealousy is a common emotion while you're pregnant, but your legs aren't tied shut and obviously your mouth isn't taped. There are ways to still satisfy a man while pregnant without him looking elsewhere!

You are bringing his child into the world and instead of fighting you should be enjoying each other.

And you can push too far...so quit pushing and start reeling in!

Answer 9

Yea. Lay off his @$$ and relize your hormones are out of control. The next time you feel like letting him have it step back and look at the situation and make the descion NOT to jump him out.

Answer 10

Just tell him your sorry...maybe give him a little extra special attention after making him a nice little dinner...i'm sure he understands your hormones are out of balance... If not explain it to him...