My 10 yr old boy/girl twins live with me, however the boy now says he wants to live with his dad. Comment?

Question

We live in two separate countries

Answer 1

Boys always have a special bond with their da. It is not surprising that he would hay that. That dosn't mean living with dad is the best thing for him. As long as they have a healthy relationship, your son is fine. If his father isn't a very good person, a healthy relationship may be none at all. You just have to make a judgement call on that part.

Answer 2

He misses his dad? Can he have more telephone contact with him? Is more visitation out of the question?

Tell him you understand how he feels,,,you have to validate his feelings. Tell him you would like to wait until he is a little older to make this decision. Explain to dad what is going on. You really do not want to separate the kids. Is it possible that you can move closer. I know my questions seem really strange, but only you know

Answer 3

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Answer 4

In Islam it is the responsibility of the Father to support financially his children.

the children are allowed to stay with their mother till they reach maturity. Then it is up to the children to leave with their father or mother.
but the father should take responsibility of all their expenses.

no body can stop the children from meeting their parents even when they are separated.

Answer 5

well, having been a kid from a divorced family, I say you should let him. I know it will be heartbreaking for you,but if you forbid it, he will resent you always. He may just be missing his Dad, and wants to have a man in his life. Maybe he will see that he prefers being with you, but you need to allow him to explore his feelings

Answer 6

he is at that age where he needs his father and you have to understand that and give it to him. sit down and talk it over with him, see where he really stands. explain the circumstances to him. if he really wants to live with his father, then call the father and let him know. discuss it with him and see what he says. if he says yes, then let the boy go live with his father. i know it is going to be hard to part with your child and even harder to part him from his sister, but that is the best thing you could do for him. he will thank you later in life and you will not hate yourself for it.

Answer 7

This is completely normal behavior. As long as the household of the father is safe, allow him to live with his father. He will probably come back to live with you.

Answer 8

maybe tell the boy he could visit on like thanksgiving and maybe christmas holidays from when school is on the holidays set. other than that i can't say what he needs to do. do you know why he wants to leave and go to his dad.

Answer 9

Are you having issues? Or maybe he's just reached a point where he needs more of a male influence. I would want whatever made my child happy.

Answer 10

you should have him stay with his sister. I have a twin brother and if he left I would feel like half of me was gone.