to loose him as a freind either what should i do
i ran out of space further up in the ask your question so that isa why it is down at the bottom
2006-08-29 03:56:55 · 38 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Do you think he likes you back? If so, try planning a movie or something together, at first with a few of your friends. Then you can work your way to the two of you, then so on.
2006-08-29 04:00:11 · answer #1 · answered by Kelley K. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just stay friends a bit longer. That is better. If your friendship changes to boyfriend/girlfriend, it may ruin it for both of you, not just that you will loose him. A friend always loves but a brother is born for adversity. Has your friendship endured a trial yet? If not, wait wait wait. If it has, well then you can pray and think about it.
I have had this and have done both ways -- telling and having it turn into boyfriend/girlfriend. When the relationship ended so did the friendship. But that's okay because it opened me up to meet someone else...who became my husband now. (for 22 yrs and counting).
I have also had a friend who was a boy whom i never told i would like to have a boyfriend/girlfriend type relationship even though i told him i love him. The friendship has endured, and since we both know the truth is that we cannot have this kind of relationship our friendship is stronger, deeper, more satisfying.
God bless you.....
2006-08-29 04:07:59 · answer #2 · answered by karen i 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you didn't use the LOVE word. You said you "like him more than a friend". In this case, you should be OK to tell him. But make sure you can explain exactly how you like him if he asks. What you inferred to but didn't say may or may not be love. It also could be that you have such a great time with him that you think it's "love" because you can't explain your feelings or emotions. That's natural as people often get them confused. Enjoy the friendship and if it develops into more, so be it.
2006-08-29 05:15:28 · answer #3 · answered by Ntrigue1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you want this person to be your boyfriend, but don't want to do this if it meant that you wouldn't be friends anymore. I totally understand and have been exactly where you are.
What kind of signals do you get from him? Do you get any kind of clue that he might have the same kinds of feelings for you?
You need to follow your heart, but be guided by your head. Why not arrange some time together just you and him, and see if things progress. Do you have hugs? If so, how does he hug you back, like he doesn't want to let go? Little things like that. Tell him you think he's great, and see how he reacts.
It is possible to have feelings for each other but still be friends. I have some friends who are the opposite sex, and some of them I like more than just a friend, and some like me more than just a friend. But, we chose to not take it any further because we're already in happy and strong relationships.
I wish you luck hon ((hugs))
2006-08-29 04:14:48 · answer #4 · answered by Alfa Female 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it's possible for a friend to hear a confession of love, gently turn it down, and continue remaining friends with the confessor. I know; I was the confessor, and I'm *still* good friends with the guy.
However, I was also in my late 20's when this happened. Thinking back on my own youth, I suspect that the younger y'all are, the harder it would be for both of you to have that discussion gracefully, especially if he doesn't love you back. If you're a teenager, then I'd really have to advise keeping your mouth shut around him and engaging in the time-honoured practice of asking his best friend if he's ever said anything to indicate he likes you as more than a friend.
2006-08-29 04:04:14 · answer #5 · answered by Katie S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think u should tell him, if he dont feel the same u gonna look like a bit of a narna. Keep what youve got and it's a friendship for no other reason so why risk losing it.
Go find yourself a bofriend or someone that resembles your friend. It may well be harder than it sounds so take your time. Dont jeopardize what you have with your friend, if you go beyond the boundarys tou may well regret it. What if its just fantasy??
Think about the consequences if it does happen..
2006-08-29 03:59:31 · answer #6 · answered by Scatty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its the same problem we boys and girls face when we love one. I almost lost my best friend when I told her that I love her. It depends. You say he is your friend.
Put aside your love for him for a bit of time. Now start thinking of the situation where he shown you care and love. You can identify whether he loves you or not. If you believe that you love each other there is no problem, is there? No.
If you believe that he doesn't love you and you are confident that you can face the situation of being rejected then go on. If you can't face it, then please don't tell him. Because you will lose a best friend. You can't face him anymore.
It's a confusion to all. Take decision with care. After all it
s your life. Think of it for sometime with cool mind. Do not let the love come into your thoughts.
All the best.
2006-08-29 04:31:00 · answer #7 · answered by kranti p 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should tell him.And even if he doesn't have the same feelings at least you will know and you wont b wondering what could a had happened between you two if you didn't say something..But when you tell him say what ever happens that you want to remain friends.On the other hand he might like you back and you two cud live happy ever after....Good luck.
2006-08-29 04:34:07 · answer #8 · answered by poppy! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well this depends on two things really. has he ever given you any hints that he feels the same way? if he has then go for it BUT are you sure you really like him in that way becasue if your not sure its best to wait a wahile otherwise you could both get hurt. everyone loves a fariytale but sometimes its best to think realistcally but at the same time whatever doesnt kill will only make you STRONGER good luck
2006-08-29 04:08:12 · answer #9 · answered by BabyPinkRocks 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i was in love with my best friend for years but never told him...now he has a gf who hes madly in love with....and i regret not having told him so much...
so u should tell him, and if he says no and grows cold or whatever then he was never worth it...
but if u do end up going out with him and for one reason or another u guys arent friends anymore...its good to know that you had something...and u will be friends in the future again....
so if you really really like him then tell him
but if your not sure and u dont wana risk it, then wait a while until you know how u feel
2006-08-29 04:01:21 · answer #10 · answered by carcaterra 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋