If she says she is happy now and not ready to work things out and she doesn't know what she feels you ask is it over and they don't want to say it but you push to the point where they say it.
2006-08-29 03:51:15 · 28 answers · asked by mvc873 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Yes we can, but to be very honest, when people (especially women) say things out of anger it's usually the truth. Keep that in mind. I may have said things out of anger that I regret, but nevertheless, it was the truth.
2006-08-29 03:57:17 · answer #1 · answered by KryBaby 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's not something gender-specific. Poor communication, bottled up emotions, and confusion of yourself and what you need and want... that's just PEOPLE specific.
It sounds like she needs some more time to work through her feelings... and after a certain amount of time goes by, you may decide your needs have changed anyway.
Saying things out of anger shows poor self restraint and respect though. If a person is prone to do this, feels it's ok to use someone else as their venting punching bag just because something has made them angry, or they can't learn to control themselves and their anger some other way, it doesn't make for a very happy union.
Regardless of whether they 'didn't really mean it' for the twentieth time, what you SAY hurts, because "out of the abundance of the heart, the mouth speaks." So if you've said something in the heat of the moment... you DID mean it, at the time - or it wouldn't have come into your head to say. And it still hurts the other person. You can't take words back. All you can do is make sure you control yourself so you don't say them.
2006-08-29 10:57:55 · answer #2 · answered by UnrealJuju 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Everyone says things things out of anger. However, If the situation is as above then she probably means it. Telling someone its over is a hard thing to do and sometimes you need to be pushed to make the truth come out.
2006-08-29 11:17:04 · answer #3 · answered by cheeky_delinquent 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes, she might have said that out of anger but if she said that it means that in a moment, (although she was mad), she really thought about not having you in her life, so be careful. A woman talks based on the heart, this time she can say things out of anger but the next time this anger will push her to make some decisions and who knows...she might not want to come back
2006-08-29 11:02:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
When she says she doesn't know how she feels believe her. My husband did the same thing to me is it over or not when I said I didn't know he kept pushing for an answer so I said if you need an answer then YES it is. He is the one that filed for divorce after only being separated one month. No time for me to think things over. If you don't want to completely lose her back off and give her space pushing her to know her feelings when she is confused just makes her angry and pushes her further away from you not closer.
2006-08-29 11:10:46 · answer #5 · answered by JustWant2B 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ANYONE can say things out of anger. I would say that if this all happened in a fight, she may have just said it to end the fight. But with what it sounds like you are talking about, its not somethign youw ould just say out of anger unless you meant it. You need to talk rationally and ask for clarification. What is it thta she wants? If the argument gets heated again, take a break and get better control of yourselves so that you wont say something stupid. Also, writing letters may make communication a little more clear. With letters, you can think about what you say before you say it and tehn re-read to make sure its what you want to say. Therefore you eliminate the "out of anger" response.
2006-08-29 11:04:45 · answer #6 · answered by bluedaboodee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Duh, you provoked her by saying or doing things that intern made her feel infuriated, and in response to those actions she says it in a retaliatory manner! Reading in between the lines though my take on this is she probably cares for you and in the heat of the moment maybe she felt as though she needed time to collect her thoughts and clam down so that she wouldn't react out of anger! Now, if you disturbed her within that time frame she probably became so annoyed that she lost control and used words maliciously so you could feel all the emotions that she felt! Note: As a woman myself, I tend to think deeply and long about the smallest things my fiance does or says to me, so what he just may have said at random with out the intent it may have on me are totally different! So with that said buy some egg shells to practice on and read a book about it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-08-29 11:03:24 · answer #7 · answered by souljagirpart2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, yes women can say things out of anger. I've been there. I've been fighting with my boyfriend for the last couple of months, about things that i've said out of anger, and things wich i did not mean. Before we started living together, i use to get mad and then tell him it's over and that he sould get out of my life and out of my house. Since we started living together it's not that easy any more, and you have to start thinking about what you are going to say, before you say it. I still do it sometimes, and believe me it costs me alot every time i have to explain myself. Women can say things out of anger, it's not right, but i'm sure it can also happen to men.
2006-08-29 11:03:22 · answer #8 · answered by messed up 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Women are allowed to say things out of anger, its up to you to watch the actions and not the words, if someone doesn't want to talk right now, back off and give them a chance to calm dowm.
2006-08-29 10:56:54 · answer #9 · answered by ayanagin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Sometimes or most of the time, people (not just women) say things that they regret later on because they just said things because they are just mad. If a person is angry, don't push him or her to talk because you might both regret what will happen next.
2006-08-29 10:55:57 · answer #10 · answered by my 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋