Have you ever felt lost in your life?

Question

I have studied teaching English as a foreign language and currently I'm looking for my first job. The mere thought that sooner or later I will be facing this world all by myself has really put me down.

Answer 1

Don't get down about it. This is life, nothing is for certain. I think every student goes through this before they break into "the real world" - everything seems big and scary but its really not as bad as you think honestly.

Things will work themselves out for you. Try not to worry about life, enjoy it. Grab the bull by the horns, bite the bullet and other related cliches....I know its hard, but if you can gather the strength to do it you will never look back.

Choose your friends wisely and they will always be there to support you.

I wish you the best of luck for the future! Look back at this in 10 years and laugh!

Answer 2

when i graduated from uni in business I couldn't find a graduate job after months of trying.... I ended up temping for 8 months and became very despondent.

I just kept on trying, and it was so difficult to be motivated all the time but eventually someone gave me a chance and I landed a great job with a top company. I am now so grateful for the awful 8 months I did temping because I really appreciate where I am now, and many other people I work with have no idea how lucky they are. My attitude has earned me fast promotions which I don't know I would have had if I had walked straight into this job.

I think you just have to just go for it and keep trying until you get the right opportunity. There is no quick and easy solution, but trust me if you work hard at finding the right job and don't give up, you'll get there in the end and really appreciate it when you do!

Answer 3

Relax, you will find the right job and you will be ok. Everyone goes through this one time or another. The only time I felt truely alone is when my parents died 5 years apart from each ohter. All I could think of was Daddy I am truely alone without you and Mom, I have a sister who live about 1200miles away but she has always been her own person and just looked out for herself. I miss my mom and dad so much! But I have my wonderful husband and 5 wonderful childern and 5 grandaughters to kep me busy.
So just hang in there and life will be good to you and be good to yourself and have confindence you can change the world with your teaching. Maybe you don't want to hear this but I will say it anyway. I will pray that God gives you the strenght and hope finding your job. Good Luck and God Bless!

Answer 4

Whenever I visit Wales I get that feeling of being lost. When I feel lost I either ask for directions or consult a map. Maybe you should do that in this instance. Have you been to a Careers Centre yet or spoken to any of your tutors about your worries. Even relatives and friends could give you directions.

If you're still lost take a look at some biographies. Look at what other people have done with their lives. Maybe this will give you some inspiration. Have fun!

Answer 5

When I was your age, I suddenly felt the same way, and I panicked. I married the first loveable boy who walked by and settled down in a traditional housewife role. I couldn't comprehend how to make it on my own in the real world. I was well-educated and self-sufficient. I was just emotionally petrified of actually "engaging" on that level. I reflect back on that time in my life, when I panicked and settled on less of a life just so that I didn't have to worry about the bills and making ends meet and finding a job and dealing with people who were like sharks and barracudas. But, we farmed and raised a family and I learned how to pay the bills and make ends meet and make a living and how to deal with the sharks. What I wish now that I would have done back then that moment in my life when I panicked, was ask for as much guidance as I could have. I would have talked about it with my mom, my dad, the college counseling office, a spiritual guide, my academic mentor, my closest friends, and with myself. When we feel "lost", it's because we have lost touch with ourselves. And, that's too tough of a problem to get out of without lots of wise guidance. Good luck.

Answer 6

You need to recognize you own strength, and accept that we are all alone in this world. Nobody can live your life for you and you cannot live vicariously through another person if you want to grow. This is no bad thing, accepting that our life is all we have should empower you to enjoy the journey of self discovery.
It becomes hard when we face a path we have not walked before, and we know we will be challenged by what is unseen ahead. All great journeys begin with the first step...

Answer 7

I've been a teacher for three years and I absolutely love it. Once you find a school you like, you'll feel better. I know it can be difficult because in college, you knew what you were going to be doing (signing up for the next round of classes). However, right now your future is full of so much promise. It sounds cheesy, but it's true. You get to decide what you are going to be and do. Embrace the potential of your life and enjoy it! Good luck!

Answer 8

What will make you get over this feeling with a bang is if you want to try working in your chosen subject, Go to a third world country ie: India, Africa or in Malaysia and teach English their and do it on your own. This will make you a stronger person for the rest of your life and make you realise that were all capable of anything as long as we try to get on with it!
Your just a drop in the sea, it's totaly upto you to make a difference to yourself and the world around you.
Good Luck, have no fear *:)

Answer 9

That is exactly what I am doing! I was lost BEFORE I re-entered the work world. I had no idea what to do with myself. I was not suicidal, but I was lost....truely. My family,for whom I had been a caregiver,had all died. The aftermath of each death, had all been dealt with. I was just drifting. I finally got sick and tired of being sick and tired. I HAD to get out of that hole i was in. The simple act of scrambling for an idea ,in order to get out and earn a living, was good for me. I needed money and a reason for being here. I spoke to a friend that I knew would be a good listener, and who might steer me straight on a few questions I had. THAT was the beginning of seeing light at the end of the horrible tunnel I was in. I found a job I love. It wasn't easy getting it. I had to put my pride and temper on the back burner. I KNEW i could do it . I hung in there. I am now an integral part of the team. I also worked at another job during the summer....music specialist with kids at summer camps...great $ but now it's over...however, it opened some more doors for me.
I guess my problem is the OPPOSITE of yours. My friend, I am very much alone,in this life. Without my job,......I won't even think about it. It saved me. I saved me. You are on an adventure...embrace it! Be prepared for it. You can DO it!! Good luck and God bless you..

Answer 10

Rudyard Kipling "If"

If you can keep your head when all about you
Are losing theirs and blaming it on you,
If you can trust yourself when all men doubt you
But make allowance for their doubting too,
If you can wait and not be tired by waiting,
Or being lied about, don't deal in lies,
Or being hated, don't give way to hating,
And yet don't look too good, nor talk too wise:
If you can dream--and not make dreams your master,
If you can think--and not make thoughts your aim;
If you can meet with Triumph and Disaster
And treat those two impostors just the same;
If you can bear to hear the truth you've spoken
Twisted by knaves to make a trap for fools,
Or watch the things you gave your life to, broken,
And stoop and build 'em up with worn-out tools:

If you can make one heap of all your winnings
And risk it on one turn of pitch-and-toss,
And lose, and start again at your beginnings
And never breathe a word about your loss;
If you can force your heart and nerve and sinew
To serve your turn long after they are gone,
And so hold on when there is nothing in you
Except the Will which says to them: "Hold on!"

If you can talk with crowds and keep your virtue,
Or walk with kings--nor lose the common touch,
If neither foes nor loving friends can hurt you;
If all men count with you, but none too much,
If you can fill the unforgiving minute
With sixty seconds' worth of distance run,
Yours is the Earth and everything that's in it,
And--which is more--you'll be a Man, my son!