After 4 years, why won't my man get married? We have both been married before,Why won't he marry me?

Question

Why does a man think a woman only want's to get married to get 1/2 in a divorce!!! I want to marry to have a life partner. I am ready to leave to find such a person, but I want him!!

Answer 1

I do not have an answer but I just want to make a comment..................people that say "why buy the cow when the milk is free" are retarded...............EVERYONE nowadays gives out the "milk for free"......such high and mighty a$$holes!!!!!

there.............I feel better now!

: )

Answer 2

Hopefully in the beginning you let him know what you were looking for in a relationship, and told him you wanted to get married again once you found the right person. If he has ever said things like "I'm not ready to get married right now", "Let's just keep things the way the are right now, and we might get married someday" he did give you an answer. You went along with it trying your best to convince him you are THE one.Chances are you spent a lot of time effort and money trying to please him. Nothing happened you are still not getting what you want.

What needs to happen now you need to tell him that you want to get married and if it is not going to happen you need to look for it elsewhere. If you live with him plan to move out. If you don't do not call him let him have some time. If he won't commit you know what you have to do.

Don't wait any longer. I have a friend who went through the exact same thing. Waited 10 years and found out this guy let another woman move in with him and kept it from my friend for 5 months.

He was seeing both of them. Don't get played. In you next relationship it's important to find out if a where man is emotionally
and what he is looking for in a relationship. If it doesn't fit into what you want move on.

Answer 3

When you get married the first time you believe that it is forever and you plan your life that way.
When it don't work out it devestates a person. Who's to say a second marriage will be any different. Four years isn't that long. You and him should set up a time line. If you are still together and doing well after six years than you should get a ring. Wait another two years and get married. Try talking to him about something like that.

Answer 4

I went through this with my man. He was divorced 2 times , i was divorced once. We were together off and on for 5 years, every time we set a date he would break up wiyth me. The las time I came back 2 years ago, I decided that I wouldn't pressure him. I did ask that if we were going to live as husband and wife that we wear rings, he agreed. He decided that this past April 22 we would be married. By not pressuring him he made the decision. He is afraid that this one will end in divorce too. By showing my man I was here for better or worse, he finally made his own decision.

Answer 5

Commitment scares people, and for people who have had to go through the pain of divorce, is not something easily given.

You need to tell him exactly how you feel, that you want him but if he isn't willing to make a committment to you, you can't stay.

It's hard to break down the wall that divorce built in most people, you'r afraid to trust, afraid to give your heart fully and afraid to most definately start over!

For those who find the strength to go on, and rebuild their lives after divorce know it's a long road. 4 years is a long time to not make a committment. But he has to be willing to talk to you and tell you why he doesn't. If he's worried about 1/2 in a divorce, tell him to wonder what it's like having 1/2 the committment, 1/2 of your heart because he won't break down that wall.

Tell him you want him to have it all or nothing.

Answer 6

Marriage is sort of stupid anyway.....it's like putting icing on a cake. If you to are good together and truly care about each other, you'll stay together with or without marriage.

Plus, you've both been married before, which you've both been burned at least once. He probably doesn't wanna have to go through the whole divorce thing again.

Answer 7

Ask your self this one question. Are you getting married because by TRADITION everyone feels that it is the right thing to do and have a life partner. I feel that a man these days needs to COVER HIS OWN A S S. Yeah, it is kind of romantic to have to Big Wedding and having all of your friend attend. BUT AS SOON AS THE PARTY STOPS AND EVERYONE LEAVES TO GO BACK TO THERE DAILY LIFE THE BILLS, HOME DRAMA, WORK AND SEX BECOME BIG ISSUES. So I think your man is doing the right thing. IT'S EVERY MAN FOR HIMSELF.

Answer 8

Well he obviously had a bad divorce or maybe he thinks the way I do if you didn't get it right the first time chances are you won't get it right the second third etc. If you want marriage and he won't give it to you then it's probably time to move on, but I think you need to be more understanding towards him and his feelings also.

Answer 9

Sounds to me like he went thru a nasty divorce and he's not going to put himself in a situation that could cause that again. It's no different than someone that got hurt very badly and then puts up the wall around their heart. I can understand you wanting to get married but what difference in your life does a legal document make?

Answer 10

He probably thinks that you both will get divorced again and he just doesn't want to go through that anymore. Maybe you can try taking him out to dinner and talking to him about it. You can find out how he feels about it. Maybe he doesn't want to get married at all again in his life. Maybe he doesn't like you anymore. Maybe there is someone else in his life. Just try to talk to him for a couple of days and find out. I wish you the best of luck. I don't find a lot of women trying to get their man back. Good Luck though!

Answer 11

If the 1/2 thing is the only problem/ fear offer to sign a pre-nup. If it's about wanting to not get married because of how the first one ended~~well that's something only you and he can figure out.