I have a friend, a best friend I hadnt talked to in 30 years. Shes a female; Do you tihnk me wife will get mad if I wist her/ I really love her. DO you believe wee're just great friends?
2006-08-29 03:36:12 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You guys dont understand
She is a friend from a different time in my life who I trusted completely. Its wonderful, adds to life.
2006-08-29 04:39:08 · update #1
Tell me that your partner would never let you talk to anyone if you EVER had sex with them in the PAST?
2006-08-29 06:06:28 · update #2
no, no, my wife is cool with it and happy for me.
2006-08-30 02:26:48 · update #3
Honestly, if you have feelings for this woman that will undermine your current relationship then I would not bother as it will only make life more complicated. But if there are no romantic feelings left and your wife can see that and feel it then she will not feel threatened and it should be fine. Just think how you would feel if the situation was reversed.
2006-08-29 09:12:51 · answer #1 · answered by Queen Fromage 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is quite easy for me to believe that you could have at one point been close platonic friends with a woman, and lost touch with her for a few decades. I had many close platonic friends of the opposite sex when I was younger, and I've not heard from them in a decade or so myself.
However, what *I* believe means nothing. It's going to be a matter of convincing your wife that this girl was and is "just a friend" to you. Please tell me you've mentioned this friend to your wife before, perhaps in context of memorable things y'all did together. If you're bringing up this new friend out of the blue, you'll have a much harder time convincing your wife that this other girl isn't "another woman", as it were. And in either case, be prepared to involve your wife in any sort of reconnection you make with this friend of yours, especially if it's a real-space meetup. I can at least promise it will be amusing to watch your wife do the territory-marking dance, if you know what to look for. =)
2006-08-29 03:58:54 · answer #2 · answered by Katie S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, let sleeping dogs lie. Don't go visit this friend without at least talking to your wife first. If you really love your wife, you will consider her feelings. If you were really great friends, you would have talked to each other over the last 30 years. I think maybe it is time to let this one go for good.
2006-08-29 03:42:21 · answer #3 · answered by katethefabulous 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with a previous comment. First of all, I wouldn't tell your wife that you love your friend (if that is what you meant by it). And talk to your wife...I am ok with my fiance's female friends, but I also know that he is VERY open about their friendship and will occasionally invite me to read their correspondence...its like his way of saying "see you can trust me...I am completely faithful to you" I am sure your wife would be fine with a very platonic friendship...just don't make it out to be more than that and stay within your bounds.
2006-08-29 03:41:42 · answer #4 · answered by Figuring things out... 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not do anything without telling your wife, that can only invite bad feelings and possibly trouble . If she is ok with it make the connection , don,t expect too much, just have fun. Good friends are hard to come by .
2006-08-29 03:45:57 · answer #5 · answered by Geedebb 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Discuss it with your wife. And don't be disappointed if your old friend has changed completely. A lot can happen in 30 years.
2006-08-29 03:38:48 · answer #6 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can married man be friend with opposite sex, well OF COURSE, BUT really, it depends on how you feel about her (your friend), did you had somekind of "spark" in your past with her or not?If you just consider her as great friend and don't have any different feeling or expectation toward her, i suppose it's perfectly fine if you want to establish contact with her, BUT if you have "different" feeling about her, i suggest you to stay away from her because you marriage will be in trouble. Good luck!
2006-08-29 03:46:37 · answer #7 · answered by Supriadi M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What kind of best friend is this if you haven't heard from her in years???????????????? and if you haven't had a need to contact her before?????????????? I think you should forget about that person 'cause she's obviously forgotten that you even exist a long long time ago. Who knows? Maybe she's not even alive anymore.... This will only piss off your wife.
2006-08-29 03:41:51 · answer #8 · answered by Petra 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, men and women can't be just friends, especially if you're married. Maybe just acquiantances that's it, but if I were your wife, it would bother me that you have a friend that you say you love. You should love her only as a SISTER. You're best friend should be your wife.
2006-08-29 03:41:09 · answer #9 · answered by bornagain 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A "best" friend and you haven't seen or talked with her in 30 years?? Sounds really close. I think you're fooling around and saying she's an old friend.
2006-08-29 03:40:37 · answer #10 · answered by EMAILSKIP 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋