for a 1 year cos he had no job & a drug problem & i kicked him out and he eventualy came rite but now(6 yrs later) you find out from a family member that he was dating when we were seperated, but he never bothered to tell me. Now he says its da past & i had kicked him out & he thought there was no way for reconciliation & he was just being a man & needed sex since we were apart for so long. Anyway were very happy before da fact & now i seem to be throwing tantrums cos i am jealous and want details but he says to leave da past in the past. How do you handle the anger, & i know dat he has not done anything since he's back home cos he only goes to work without me and takes me everywhere with him. He doesnt even socialise with friends any more. But i am having outbursts when i see something dat reminds me of the past & he says he will leave if this carries on. HELP...Whose right and whose wrong.
2006-08-29 03:24:55 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
well i know its wrong and not fair that he has been hiding this from you but since its the past it'll be better to not let it affect your present and future when you know he is not the sameanymore...just dont dig old graves and disappoint him,rather enjoy your present and plan a beautiful future with him!!
2006-08-29 03:36:53 · answer #1 · answered by country_girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, really darling you had kicked him out what did you expect him to do. How did he know that you two were going to get back together. Technically it's not cheating if you two had not gotten back together you would not have known. Leave it alone. You don't need to know any details. He had sex with someone else, what do you want to know. He's right that's in the past put it behind you and move on. You should not be anger, you kicked him out remember that. Yeah, girl you are wrong now move on. Be happy and thankful that you are getting a second chance.
2006-08-29 03:33:07 · answer #2 · answered by kitcat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is right...the relationship was over and he did not feel you would reconcile. He started trying to rebuild his life in a healthy manner and move on. Thank your lucky stars that the two of you were able to put your lives back together and be happy. Do not destroy your relationship and happiness now because of something that happened when you no longer wanted to be a couple.
2006-08-29 03:35:44 · answer #3 · answered by jodie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're going to have to forgive what happened in the past in order to make your relationship work.
2006-08-29 03:36:06 · answer #4 · answered by Ivyvine 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋