I've been talking (just talking) to an unavailable man for over a year. I've tried to stop and even told him I couldn't talk anymore but he said no, it was alright. Well I think I'm in love with him and if I told him I know that would stop the phone calls. Should I tell him?
And please no home wrecker or I'm a terrible person remarks because I'm already quite aware that I'm a terrible person.
2006-08-29 03:22:49 · 14 answers · asked by suzyq 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i think that sometimes we are attracted to people we cant have and i think you know that deep down you may never get him, sometime friendships are loads better than relationships as you go through so much with out the constant fear of splitting up. just put him in your mind as a mate .
2006-08-29 03:28:31 · answer #1 · answered by nobody's perfect ..01 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Telling him you love him won't make him go away. He's unavailable love or not. Stop talking to him, do not accept his calls, don't reply to emails, just cut it off at the knee. There is no future here with this man and he's getting the best of both worlds. YOU are the important one here, be good to yourself!
2006-08-29 10:27:00 · answer #2 · answered by hummingbird 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have been in this situation before, but I didn't know my guy was married (he told me he was divorced). As soon as I found out the truth I made sure his wife knew the kind of man she was married to (I would hate to see another woman suffer because of my silence) and I ended it ASAP. At least you KNOW he is married. LEAVE HIM ALONE. Ignore him, and as much as it might hurt...if he continues to call/email/write after you tell him not to...get a restraining order. What makes you think you would be different than his wife?? Saying the words "I LOVE YOU" is like locking yourself up in shackles and giving him COMPLETE control over you. He won't leave, he will exploit this new power over you!!! There are steps you can take to protect yourself...do it before it is too late....
2006-08-29 10:31:34 · answer #3 · answered by Figuring things out... 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, do not tell him that. You tell him that he is unavailable to you, and that you can't talk to him anymore, and then YOU DON'T TALK TO HIM ANYMORE. He calls you on the phone, you hang up. You see him on the street, you walk away. He e-mails you, you delte it without opening it. And you move on with your life.
He's got to decide on his own whether his marriage is worth staying in, independent of you and any feelings you or he may have. And if he finds you sometime in the future, and tells you he's moved out and has filed for divorce (and has the signed papers to prove it)....well, cross that bridge when you come to it. No judgements here, no crticisms; but your interaction with him has nothing to do with his marriage, and he needs to decide to stay in the marriage or leave based on the marriage alone, not on whether he thinks you'll be waiting for him when it's all over....
2006-08-29 10:31:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off you are not a terrible person. You did not break a promise to someone...he did. Don't tell him to leave because you love him. Tell him to leave because you have more respect for yourself than to settle for seconds, take something that belongs to someone else and hang around to be live bait until someone else comes along to take YOUR place. Good luck!
2006-08-29 10:29:03 · answer #5 · answered by jodie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you believe that you need to do this in order to regain your sense of control over yourself and its the only way to get you to quit your habit then its your decision...it may not be one you like, but it might be the best thing you would ever do, for YOU. i dont think ur a homewrecker or a terrible person, hey stuff happens, nobodys perfect....we learn from the mistakes we make. be strong.
2006-08-29 10:34:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
And please no home wrecker or I'm a terrible person remarks because I'm already quite aware that I'm a terrible person.
You said it! No answer needed!
2006-08-29 10:28:45 · answer #7 · answered by jamz2277 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
firstly what is this unavailable man mean?
about love,you should tell him how you feel about him and if he is not intersted then its clear that he is not meant for you and one sided love is no love.....find someone who would love an drespect you the way you do and not someone who would stop being friend after knowing about your love!!
2006-08-29 10:27:27 · answer #8 · answered by country_girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
SO STOP BEING TERRIBLE! Leave him and it alone, it's bad karma to ruin a family!
2006-08-29 10:26:17 · answer #9 · answered by want2flybye 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you dont feel comfortable with what you are doing, tell him goodbye and that you dont want to haave contact with him and if he rings dont talk to him
2006-08-29 10:28:37 · answer #10 · answered by buttafly_biattch 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋