he lied to me he told me dat he loves me and he wants to marry me then his friends talked to me and he told me the truth about him dat he is just playing and im like the other girls only he wanted my body ... what can i do ?? i felt dat i hate my self because i did something wrong with him .. i don't love him but im angry because he treated me as a ***** and im not and after all of dat his friend told me dat he is married !!!!
plzz i need ur help ... my heart crushed in pieces and im depressed .. !!
2006-08-29 03:17:40 · 25 answers · asked by pink rose 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
everyone makes mistakes. He was yours. Walk away and forget about him, he is a doos (idiot) and you should not waste another minute of your time on him!
2006-08-29 03:20:35 · answer #1 · answered by tay_jen1 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Girl.. be strong. You should never hate yourself. You're worth more than anyone would think of you. You did something you've regretted, you can't undo the past but you can still look towards your future now. Don't cry over split milk anymore. Being upset won't change anything.
There's no reason for you to be depressed. He did you wrong, and what goes round, comes around. One day, he'd get back the pain you hold now. It hurts right now and it is hard to move on but time will heal all wounds. Learn to love yourself and just because you think you did something wrong, you want to be crying all the time. It won't help much except be a temporary pain reliever. What had happened was a mistake for you to learn. A hard painful lesson to learn but it could've been worse.
You've not lost much and you can still pick up yourself and be stronger. Friends and family would be the best to be with at this moment of time. And you've just not met you "one" yet. If he really loves you, he would respect you and wouldn't hurt you intentionally in any way.
Take care.
P.S. Guys like that should disappear from the face of earth.
2006-08-29 04:08:45 · answer #2 · answered by IsabeL 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The hurt will go away and if you use what you learned from this, it will help you make smarter choices in the future so you won't fall into another trap like this one.
Your heart isn't crushed, it's your self esteem that's crushed and that can be fixed but if you're depressed, it's not a bad idea to talk to a counselor.
You shouldn't hate yourself for believing someone's lies. Just hold yourself back next time until you're sure that the person is who they say they are. There's no time limit on a good relationship. The right person will wait until you're sure... it's only the wrong people who try to push you into something with lies.
2006-08-29 03:25:25 · answer #3 · answered by cinemaven11 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to be heartless and cruel here but take this as a lucky escape - think about how much worse it would be if you hadnt found this out and you were still being played by him?
Everybody gets hurt and made a fool of in love at some stage or another - you just have to chalk it down to experience and move on. instead of being crushed and depressed, why not focus your attention on meeting a nice man that WILL love you for you and not treat you badly
2006-08-29 03:20:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girrl!!! U must snap out of it. He is not the last person and definitely not the best person in the world from your description. Do not accept blame and do not blame yourself because he is the loser! Believe me I just took out a restraining order on a jackass yesterday for some of the same reasons. But, I want you to think about this: Don't you deserve the best? And why have you & still are settling for less? I prayed about my issues and the situation gets clearer everyday. It is hard to let go of those we care about. But, branches are tricky and they sometimes cannot support us. That's why you take time and let God help you get to the root of things. (P.S. I'm not downing you cause I have been w/ an abuser for the last four years.) Change is inevitable, you just have to make smarter decisions to control the outcomes.
2006-08-29 03:30:24 · answer #5 · answered by mackdingy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First rule of relationships, never believe what friends say. Or better still, never even listen to what they have to say. Your friends or his. You are in the relationship with the guy, and if he is just playing you it will show or he will say it at some point.
But now that it's done and you don't love him anymore, you have to try to move on. At least he liked you enought to want to use you, if that's any consolation, and you probably provided him with the happiness that he was lacking in his marriage. Now you have to go out into the world and be confident that you are a girl a great, unmarried guy will want to be with and marry.
Good luck :)
2006-08-29 03:41:52 · answer #6 · answered by Magina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you cannot let a man bring you down and lower your spirits. You are a beautiful woman, I'm sure, if he treats you like that then he isn't someone you want in your life anyway. Don't be depressed, instead go out and do something you enjoy the most, read a good book, go out jogging, go watch your favorite movie or something.
2006-08-29 03:47:10 · answer #7 · answered by Sprinttech#1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, here it is. (1) If this guy is really nothing more than a player, how can it be your fault? (2) Now that you know the truth, why would you want to be with someone who could be that much of a lying scum-bag? (3) Don't you deserve to be with a man who will love you for you and not treat you like crap?
2006-08-29 03:22:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pick yourself up girl. First have a good cry. He is not worthy of your love. Draw a picture of him and tear it into a million little pieces and flush it down the toilet. Then write him a letter and do the same so he'll be sure and get it down there where he lives :)
It will make you feel better..
2006-08-29 03:22:10 · answer #9 · answered by Elizabeth L 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
unfortunately players don't care who they hurt they are just out to get what they want. once they do they move on and could careless about the damage they left behind. learn from the mistake the right man is out there for you and he will come along and sweep you off your feet.
and if you really want to upset the apple cart go find his wife and tell her about her husband. but I'm sure she already suspects him.
Good luck to you
2006-08-29 03:23:21 · answer #10 · answered by eaglerock60 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, circulate to the well being practitioner!!!! i do no longer recommend to be impolite, yet why are you asking us? This sectionis packed with love-struck/heartbroken romantics, no longer physicians and actual therapists, lol. circulate to an athletic hospital (medical doctors in different hospitals make you reside out of the sport for like two times as long as athletic clinicans)...you do no longer pick to worsen it.
2016-09-30 03:09:50 · answer #11 · answered by Erika 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋