Am crying as am writeing this so, please put my question in to heart. I have lost everything MyFreiend and MyBestfriend and everyone else around me. I tryed my best to hold on to both of them but i could not. how could i hold on to A friend that Is in love with my exboyfriend and how could i hold on to him when he feels the say way. I don't know but i just could not let one go and keep the othere. It's hard because am in love with him still although all of this happened i liked him ever sinc 9th grade and i alway put him first. But all i could say is that i lost everything amd i don't know how i will move one someone anyone please help me.
2006-08-29 03:12:54 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
stay calm..
and always remember whatever happens it happens for the best. It was never meant to be. You will always love your first love, but first love isnt always meant to stay with you. You will not forget the times you shared with him but you will find someone who loves you back and understand you, and listens to everything you tell him. Because he is the one you need to be with til the end of life. Thats true love. Remember, if something was set free and it doesnt return back to you, it was never meant to be. Take care
Trisha
2006-08-29 03:21:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Life sometimes can throw you curve balls that seem unfair. In hind-sight you find that often times what seemed like a terrible things turn out to be stepping stones to newer and greater things.
Take life one day, better yet one moment at a time. You cannot control the past or the future because they really do not exist, all you have and all you will ever have is the current moment. Don;t waste your current moment worrying about what has or might happen.
Take the attitude that whatever happens in your life good or bad is ultimately leading you down a path of happiness and suceess.
You will find that what you expect to happen, generally does.
I hope that you cheer up soon, and know that everything is ultmately always all right!
2006-08-29 10:22:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Look I am going to tell you from experience.....you will look back one day and regret losing your friend. If she is truely your best friend! I had the same situation happen to me in high school. I had just split from my boyfriend and was at a party when I heard my bestfriend talking to one of my other friends about how she liked him and how hot she thought that he was. I was furious!!! They flirted all night long and I felt completely betrayed. What I did was I sat my bestfriend down and had a serious talk. I told her that I still had feeling for him and that she was my friend that friends don't do that to one another. After a month or so. I was like girl....you can have him. He is not the only guy that you are ever going to have strong feelings for. You two aren't together for a reason. i don't know what that reason is. But if he doesn't want to be with you....then you need to let him go and find that right person for yourself. Don't waste your time on him. You will find that right guy and look back and wonder what you made the fuss for. If your friend is truely your bestfriend. I mean someone that you would do ANYTHING for and the same for her, then you are a fool to pass that up. Friendship like that is hard to come by. it's really not worth it. If the two of them really have realings for one another. Just ask that they respect you and give you a little time to get over him. Trust me...YOU WILL! If you need to talk more feel free. Oh I just want to let you know. My bestfriend respected my wishes and waited, soon after she found out that he was a loser! We have been out of high school for 5 years and have been friends for 12 years. Letting her go as a friend (especially for a dumb guy) would have been the biggest mistake in my life.
2006-08-29 11:52:38 · answer #3 · answered by blueyegurl0283 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stand up, get a grip...the world will not come to an end. These things happen in life...you don't always get what you want. Put yourself first. You can't change them, so change yourself and stop wallowing in self pity...it is not attractive on anyone. Okay, so you are hurt now...it will fade. The world is full of other people so stand up and take notice of them. Find some dignity and move on and never put anyone before yourself again..
2006-08-29 10:25:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, first of all let me say that I'm so sorry for your pain. I wish there was something I could do to ease your hurt. In time, you will get better and you will realize that this guy is not the one for you. Somewhere out there is your soul-mate, someone who will love you totally and completely for YOU...as far as your so called "best" friend is she really your best friend if she could do something like this to you? YOU deserve better..and I know that right now it DOES feel like you've lost everything - but I'm willing to bet that you have family who loves you and somewhere out there you do have other friends who care for you..
Gentle hugs, Marilyn
2006-08-29 10:25:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well first of all who enemies with friends like that. Secondly, its not the end of the world, we play the hands that we are delt, just get on with your life, forget both of them, obviously they didnt give a *** about u. I think your gf is a a frickn skank for doing that not that he is any better but u know men r losers anyway. You havent lost anything look at the big picture, it will happen 2 her. He will find sombody else and she will b cryin 2 u. like the sayn goes what goes around comes around. Just start living for yourself, find some hobbies, work out, go shopping and meet new men. Time 2 get on with your life, cuz they did. YOU can do it!!!
2006-08-29 10:19:40 · answer #6 · answered by thesunnshynne 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need to pur yourself first..
if you put yourself first (and I dont mean in a selfish way.. but respect wise) then you will not be so hard on yourself when things change.
if you put everything on another person and loose that person you have lost everything.. so dont do it
also DONT be despirate for a guy - learn to be happy with yourself and enjoy being single too may women WRECK their lives trying to hold on to a guy or to get a guy - they stay with loosers because they feel they NEED a guy - this is WRONG WRONG WRONG..
time heals all wounds to some extent - you have to move on.. there are harder things in life still to come and better things too....
if it werent for the bad you wouldnt appreciate the good
2006-08-29 10:19:06 · answer #7 · answered by CF_ 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It's difficult in times like these. But just try to move on. Emotion is emotion...there are plenty of other fishies in the sea. Just wait. People will start becoming you friend soon. Take it one day at a time and see what happens. You didn't lose everything. Just remember what you still have, and remember what good will be coming to you soon.
2006-08-29 10:16:59 · answer #8 · answered by David S 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I definitely understand. I lost both parents before I was 25
then the first husband stopped paying attention He was so boring
Lost a brother, a best friend, a soulmate and other boyfriends before this 2nd husband. Hang in there. Pray for strength and keep on trying. Keep a jouurnal. It might help to write it down.
2006-08-29 10:16:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
well i know how you feel. i went through the same thing once. its so hard to see them with someone you've known from like forever. this probably happened a month ago. i try to forget it but my life just isn't the same without him. i sometimes cry my self to sleep. so far no one could replace him but im getting there. dont think of it as the end of the world. its just the beginning.
2006-08-29 10:23:27 · answer #10 · answered by josie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋