I am married, but my marriage is dull with no excitement at all! I love talking with him!! Am wrong for doing this?
2006-08-29 03:06:24 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You sound like me 10 years ago. At the time I didn't think there was anything wrong with it but looking back now, yes it's very wrong! Be glad that he is very far away, that way there isn't any temptation to meet. My advice to you......get off the computer and work on your dull marriage.....bring the spice back. I'm afraid that whatever you think this guy is, he's probably not....the internet has created a mass of liars!
2006-08-29 03:23:18 · answer #1 · answered by hummingbird 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well as u are saying "my marriage is dull with no excitement at all" your husband might be saying the same on the other side , what will you do in that case . Please be with justice would you like your husband to leave you for this reason as we all know that for the beggining years we all are happy and excited with our partners and by the time excitement go away this is the time to get more mutual understanding and that will bring you two more close and you will feel that the real love is emmiting from everything you do for him and your children(if you have any). The smae would be happening on the otherside , in that manner you will truly become better halves of each other. And for the other guy that you know will never be in your reach so dont waste your time life is too short for all this and be happy and work to make things better as no body knows when the time comes to leave our beloved ones.
2006-08-29 10:39:51 · answer #2 · answered by Precious Soul 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honest opinion-yes maam your definetly wrong, You know you will never see this man, you are saying it for yourself so why waste your time with this man, and how do you know if he is special, just because you and him just communicate doesn't make him special. He probably just give you lines that your husband don't or make you laugh all these things u are discussing with this man u can discuss with your husband, You are married you and your husband should have communication, excitements, romantic people. Sit him down and let him know how this marriage is doing to you, why go outside your marriage when only you are doing is communicating with someone you don't even know that's probably lying their butt off to you. You can make that marriage better but you have to stop what your doing now, how would you feel if your husband is doing it to you? Would you want that? Think about it. Love talking to your man and put sparks into your marriage, why destroy it when you get make some changes. It up to you and your husband to make this marriage work. Today is a beginning it could be a start. Spice up your marriage!!!
2006-08-29 10:30:06 · answer #3 · answered by BabyGirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. You should concentrate this energy on your husband instead of on this male. That's mental cheating and your husband doesn't deserve that no matter how boring he is. You should spice up your life with your husband, take a weekend alone together with him, give each other sensual massages, take a romantic dinner and walk with him every day so that you can have 'us' time and reconnect. Your marriage is boring because you're not doing anything about it and you can't blame your partner because it does take two to make a marriage work and sometimes one has to make more of the effort.
2006-08-29 10:11:21 · answer #4 · answered by DrSH 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is a scared thing. In the eyesight of God, you are commiting adultry. Why don't you and your husband work on it, the same effort and excitment your putting into your internet fling you could be putting into your marriage. God said if you lust (sin) in your heart you already have done it. The good thing is when we realize we have done something wrong we can ask forgiveness and turn turn from it. Just pray and ask God for restoration in your marriage. It will work out.
2006-08-29 10:25:13 · answer #5 · answered by cherryblueish 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is wrong, you should work out the problems in your marriage. How can talking to someone over the net be exciting, sounds like a fantasy land.
2006-08-29 10:25:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
is marriage all about sex ? & keep in mind...wat ppl try2 show themselves on internet..many r just opposite....
until u spend time wid em...only den u get 2 kno da real trust of wats happening...
dnt leave a married life for a dream dat u dnt kno...of wud end u up in...a beautiful life or a life u wish u never wanted...
if dat guy truly loves u...ask him 2 cme n meet u...& keep in mind ur not gnna help him in coming there...he has 2 do it all by himself...cos many times ppl fake dis just 2 get a visa...
spend time wid sme1 in person before u spend ur life wid em...
as for ur married life...if it's dull a lot depends on u both as 2 how 2 make it cheerful...talk things out...go for dinners...outings...walks...friends...
everything can happen only if U want it 2 happen...
2006-08-29 10:31:45 · answer #7 · answered by moooooooovin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why don't you work in making your marriage more exciting instead of spending your free time chatting with some other male? If he truly is a male???
2006-08-29 10:29:19 · answer #8 · answered by trushka 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hon i just asked almost the same question and got great advice from here they told me to try to work it out i was about to get a divorce because an on line guy told me to and i was set straight they reminded me that people often misrepresent themselves and he was in a good mood on line i never saw the real do this tell your husband how you feel arrange to meet him at a bar act like you just met flirt do what you do on line spend some quality time with him share your feelings but in short i have to say no how can you be wrong its human nature to want to have love returned and i just want to warn you that being in love with someone on line usually results in pain because your going to want to meet and someon could be expected to completly change their life while the other one gives up nothing and its u sually the woman just be careful dint be blinded to love
2006-08-29 10:21:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I don't see anything wrong with it. You deserve excitement. Can't help it if another guy is making you happier than your husband. Maybe if your husband really cared, he would try to spice things up a little bit to keep you happy.
2006-08-29 10:11:57 · answer #10 · answered by Gothic_Maiden 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋