My ex boyfriend and I of a year and a half broke up a few days ago because he is so hard to talk to and very explosive. I just asked if he was happy because he puts down everything I have interest in, my friends, and thoughts. The reason I think about how he would be towards another girl is because of how he use to be with me. He use to be affectionate, understanding, draw me baths, and just go out of his way to be a part of this relationship. I don't know what happened for somedays he would confess his love and other days he would be distant. He was never like this in the beginning. I guess my question is, was it me or will he be different towards someone else?
2006-08-29 02:54:52 · 12 answers · asked by Kit Katt 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I think he'll be the same with his next girl friend as he was with you. He may have learned something from your relationship that will change him in some way but I wouldn't expect any major changes. If you had dumped him and broke his heart it would have a more profound effect on his personality.
What's more important is what you learned from this relationship and how you use that knowledge in the future.
Be strong. Live for yourself. Everyone needs time alone to get to know themselves. Enjoy your freedom and take time to know the next guy a little better before you make a commitment to him.
2006-08-29 03:32:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to make matters worse but the reason why he changed was because he ended the relationship time ago. The difficult thing was how to break it to you and the only way he could show you was to withdraw and be uninterested. I know all too well what you are going through, it happened to me and its the worst feeling of all.
I really do feel for you right now and it will be very hard to get over what he's done but if you think about how he's done it, from what i have said you will heal quicker.
That is just mens way of trying to let you down gently but they are crap at ending relationships that they start to look for excuses and reasons and there aren't any. Men are weak when it comes to dealing with things. If there has been some extra pressure within the relationship, anything you can put your finger on, it may well be his way of saying he can no longer cope.
good luck and you are better off without him
2006-08-29 02:57:27 · answer #2 · answered by Scatty 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't think he will be different towards someone else. Doesn't it suck that in the beginning of a relationship, you think you have this wonderful man but over time you start thinking "What happened to the person I used to know?" A friend of mine once told me that the guy you meet in the beginning, is just their representative. In the beginning of a relationship, it's normal to want to show your mate that you care for them and want to do kind things for them. But after becoming comfortable with the relationship, you'll start to see their true selves--and I think that's what happened here. You're seeing the person that he really is. So regardless if he's with you or another person, I think the results will be the same.
2006-08-29 03:11:11 · answer #3 · answered by melcar12345 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes and no - (most) people change over the course fo a relationship and they learn from past mistakes
do not torture your self by thinking will he be different with another - the question is, will you?? what lessons have you learned here? will you be the same or diiferent in the next relationship?
Concentrate on you and not the past - also in my experience he will probably be the same as he was with you - affectionate/understanding at start then he will change towards her again as he'll feel trapped or afraid to show his emotions and will go on to make another girl feel the way you do i.e. like sh!t.
It wasnt you or him it was just not meant to be and if it is in the future then it'll come back to you......
forget him as he wont be thinking about you - hard tho that is, he's moved on and so must you xxx
2006-08-29 03:04:31 · answer #4 · answered by clairejoolz78 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In the major issues - he will be the same with whoever lights his life for a while. difficult to tell until he has a "history" but in my experience each relationship will turn out to have the same problems. My ex was like you describe and i found (not from his account but from various others) that his first two wives experienced the same as me and broke with him for the same reasons. Even his son said "yeh - that's my dad" in a knowing way.
2006-08-29 05:42:16 · answer #5 · answered by Rose S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop being confused, it seems that Mr. X took advantage of you as he just wanted to come over the break up; it is well understood that he is dating the same girl. You better stop thinking about Mr. X, go ahead in your life, make the positive move, get along with the boys who cares for U. Good luck!
2016-03-27 00:01:44 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't matter how he will be with someone else. I think that him treating another better is the growth everyone needs in their lives. When I break up I always feel like I hope he treats the next girl like he did me and she wylds out kills him. But that's just the right after break-up madness we all go through. Don't consider his growth, think about yours. Think about finding the next man that will appreciate eveything you are, will add on to you and with whom you can reciprocate those things.
Best!
2006-08-29 03:01:30 · answer #7 · answered by Z- 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may be different with someone else, but that doesn't make it your fault. You also may be different with someone else. It is a matter of finding someone that you enjoy being with and you like who you are when you are with him.
My ex-husband is so good to his current girlfriend, I was very upset in the beginning. It was like, hey, why didn't you treat me that way. The truth is, she treats him like a god, so he treats her the same way. My new boyfriend treats me like gold and I treat him well in return.
It will always be different with someone else, you just have to learn to enjoy the new and different and move on from the past. I know it is hard to do, but it is wonderful when you are in a new relationship yourself. Good Luck!
2006-08-29 03:01:21 · answer #8 · answered by Christina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like he has some sort of personality disorder. Only you know if you did anything to make him like that. Don't even think about how he is with other girls. You've been there so it's up to them to find out themself. Don't waste your life thinking about him, it's over and sounds like you made the right move.
2006-08-29 02:59:58 · answer #9 · answered by koolkatt 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If he stops taking drugs (sounds like the problem) he'll get his life back on track. The question of what made him get into drugs is one for him alone to answer. Best shot of him love.
2006-08-29 02:58:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋