I know what I am asking is a cliched question. But this relationship gives me such comfort and I feel that I have come to the right destination in my life. Can it be that I have found my soul-mate? I do not expect anything from her. I just want to be with her.
2006-08-29 02:26:55 · 24 answers · asked by guy-in-hell 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
As long as you are her student, keep things separate. The conflict of interest can damage her carrier and you would not be happy with this. So concentrate on the studies, keep a good and respectful relationship with her. When you moved ahead to other courses or teachers, and only then, talk to her. If she is not interested in this more close type of relationship, respect her and move on. Age should not be a reason for people to be discriminated, as long as they are mature, of legal age, and in full responsibility of their actions. But avoid situations that can generate conflict of interest - There is a right time and a right place for everything.
2006-08-29 02:32:50 · answer #1 · answered by regis_cabral 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems that you are not experienced enough. I know that now she is very important to you right now but you don`t know her very well to say that she is your soul-mate. You would have to be compatible in sex, in your thoughts about the future, she might be messy, you might hate that and many other things. You might want to go out with friends and she might be possessive, plus that such a difference in age its not an advantage. The point is, you cannot know if somebody is your soul-mate or not if you`re not even in a relationship with her. Life is really more complicated than that. We have been with people and we really thought that we found are soul mates but life has shown that apart love there are many things in which you might need to be compatible with. After some years you will find out that this was just a platonic love of a young guy.
2006-08-29 09:50:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
At 24 I didn't know what love was. I don't believe you do at 21. All you want to do is be with her. That is going to get old quickly. She has her own friends and family. You just want to come along and say I'm here. Did you think about how it would destroy her friends and family? What if it causes a divorce if she is married?
Go and live life to the fullest. There is so much out there to experience. It gives you comfort yes-what is the reason for that comfort? Where in life are you lacking comfort?
You haven't given thought to if you want kids-she is twice your age. How would this relationship benefit her? What do you have to offer her? Move on. You are being totally selfish.
2006-08-29 10:01:36 · answer #3 · answered by rusty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are 21, then it is definitly not infatuation. You r mature enough now. That age doesn't really matter. As long as you both feel the same way about each other then I don't see what the problem is. I have 2 other friends that r with men twice there age and they are happily married now. Just make sure you no what you are doing before you get yourself into something that you can't get out of.
2006-08-29 09:34:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey mate!I`m in the same boat as you.It`s a very long story...She`s my English teacher and I met her by chance,just because I published a poem.I believe that she might well be my soul-mate because in a poetic sense,teh light that comes out of both of us is very much the same.She`s a wonderufl person,a beautiful woman who`s married and I`m an ftm transsexual.She wa sthe first person at school I told about this and she`s the only one who doesn`t pretend but really cares about me in an environment which i often describe as jail.
I`ve written a lot of poetry inspired by her but I know that my dreams won`t come true.i know that my love will remain unrequited still I don`t want to lose her,I don`t want to be letting go of the person whom I most ardently desire.It seems that I need some advice myself but I really hope that you`ll be luckier than myself.
2006-09-01 14:10:19 · answer #5 · answered by aerandir_elluin 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just do what you think is right and don't listen to what anyone else says about the age difference. I'm in the same kind of relationship and ever since we have gotton together everyone has done nothing but put us down and we are still going strong so just do what you want go with your heart not words of advice that might **** up what you truly want!! Good Luck!!
2006-08-29 09:30:57 · answer #6 · answered by Ima Tripps daughter 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're both adults, if both of you are single then DEFINITELY explore the possibilities. IF she is married, then take it quite a bit slower. I would continue to date and see her as much as you can but understand that she will not be with you 100% even when she is physically next to you. A small part (at the very least) will still be with her husband/boyfriend mentally/emotionally.
Walk into this with your eyes WIDE OPEN and I wish the best of luck to you. If it doesn't work out it will be a growing experience for you (both).
2006-08-29 09:32:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was 28 at the time...I met a woman of 44. I knew she was older but she was to much to ignore. I wined and dined her, we had a lot of fun.
Then one time after are love making session (I thought it was love making) I brought up the question of something more permanent. She told me I was her young sex toy that she had fun with and our age differences was to much of a problem. Her son was my age...A couple years younger but close.
So, to answer your question...it didn't work for me.
2006-08-29 09:41:18 · answer #8 · answered by Magicman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well,this is just an attraction trust me which will fade with time....its good that you respect her,let this be the way it is instead of approaching and being a fool...she is as good as your moms age....and its very natural to feel so,most of us at this age feel the same for our teachers but its just an attraction....divert your mind,concentrate on your academics,join sport and keep busy...you'll feel better and find someone your age to be with,hang out with friends,will help you!!
2006-08-29 09:31:43 · answer #9 · answered by country_girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my friend ur too young 2 take a decision 2 live ur whole life wid sme1 so soon...dnt take a hasty decision...maybe its infatuation & will get over soon...
u like her...but wabout her ? does she also likes u ?
if yes...den be wid her for smetime & see if things work out....marriage is not just sex....but a lot more responsibilits come wid it...& r u ready for those responsibilities
2006-08-29 10:13:41 · answer #10 · answered by moooooooovin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋