i fell in love wife my brothers wife and we started sleeping together.but the problem is that my brother discovered that and told the whole family,and i feel very ashamed.what should i do or say to both my family and my brother to show that am sorry and assure them it wont happen again even if i still lust for her.
2006-08-29 02:16:10 · 21 answers · asked by shingiliraih 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You said it all - "The problem is that my brother discovered"....
If your brother hadn't found out - you'd still be doing it - so are you really sorry and how CAN you assure them - or yourself - that it won't happen again?
2006-08-29 02:21:50 · answer #1 · answered by Topez 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man up and take full responsibility for your actions that's all you can do at this point. It might not fix all the heartache you have caused but it will show that you do have some kind of remorse. Although you really don't cause you are still lusting after your brothers wife. So maybe you are only showing remorse because you were exposed. Cause if you were really sorry you wouldn't be still lusting. If you are truly sorry and you know in your heart that you will never do something like this again then apologies. But if this is something that you know in your heart you may do again being that you still have feelings for the woman. Then there is no point apologizing and getting back into the families good graces cause that would make things even worse. What you should do is be a real man and find a woman of your own instead of your brothers wife.
2006-08-29 09:37:12 · answer #2 · answered by liliw24 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I hate to tell you this but you have already done enough. This is not one of those things you can just say "what the hey, and lets move on." Nothing you can say or do is going to make this alright. Your brother's marriage is over even if he stays with her. He is never going to feel the same about you, either. I think in time the rest of the family will put this behind them. You can not unscramble eggs, just tell everyone it was regretful and move on. I think it is time to forget the lusting...enough damage has been done to last a lifetime.
2006-08-29 09:28:20 · answer #3 · answered by jodie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have known the consequence when you started to bed her...unfortuantely ...both yours and her lust have clouded the possibility of having been discovered ....and now the eventual day has arrived.
If you parents are still around, gather them together with your brother and kneel down and ask for forgiveness.
Ask your brother what will it take for you to do to get his forgveness.
2006-08-29 09:26:40 · answer #4 · answered by Phantom of the Opera 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you got yourself into a right mess havnt you.There not much you can do apart from saying sorry and staying away from her altogether,your brother may never forgive you but as for the rest of the familey given time they may come round.
the fact you slep with your brothers wife is a big betrayal and it could take years too get back the kind of relationship you had before you were found out.my advice is stay away from her and get your own woman
2006-08-29 09:24:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually you are completely wrong to do such a big mistake.Hope u wont do that. so first try to convince your brothers wife about this mistake. And make promise that you both won't restrict your limitations.Next step is to convince ur brother and beg pardon.Then convince your family.That too you both(bro.wife) should do.
Final step is to get marry so soooon. OK
BETTER LUCK
2006-08-29 09:25:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess you should reap what you sew. That's what happens when you do something increadibly stupid and a fine example of why nobody should do sh!t like this.
For one give your entire family a LOT of time for this to settle, sorry, sucks for you but you're not going to win any friends while they're being irrational. When you can talk to them again prepare to kiss a$$ until they will accept that you're sorry.
2006-08-29 10:05:24 · answer #7 · answered by W0LF 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can only hope they forgive you. however theres really nothing you can do - you were in the wrong - not wrong to fall in love but wrong to act on your feelings when she is still married. now its an impossible situation to recover from. probably best to avoid family events for a while.
2006-08-29 09:20:45 · answer #8 · answered by Fenris 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can be so disgusting,how can you do such a thing...
you need to ask for forgiveness and get out of that house,you wont be able to get any trust or respect in this family if you continue staying there,just move out and give this issue sometime to settle.....and look for someone who you could be with and not anybodys wife for god sake!!
2006-08-29 09:20:02 · answer #9 · answered by country_girl 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm laughing lol,i think your screwed in this situation,just apologies that's all you can do,and obviously your being encouraged by the wife,so if anyone wants to point fingers, in your defense you can say the ho didn't object to it. hahaha
2006-08-29 09:27:06 · answer #10 · answered by killbill 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋