Ok it's a little silly, but my boyfriend has loads of posters on his walls of girls. And I don't like them so I said I'd feel better if he took them down, so he started to get really annoyed and and said
'you can't always have your own way and besides I like them'
So I said
'how would you feel if had posters of men all over my room?'
and he said he'd be really upset and he probably would'nt come round anymore! That made me really mad, what's he playing at? he's normally a really sweet, gentle guy. But lately he's been saying things like
'Im not comming round tonight I don't wanna see you and don't bother trying to get me to because you can't always have your own way' !!
I'm totally gobsmacked because in the past, he couldn't keep away from me and as for me gettin my own way .... thats never actually happend. whats going on? do you think he just wants control over me?
2006-08-29 02:07:14 · 12 answers · asked by toyotagirl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
OK i can kinda understand what he says about the posters in his room.I dont hink you are being controlling though because you told him about them you were open and honest with him.But him telling you that hes not coming around and being nasty about it is wrong.You need to sit him down and explain how you feel about it and the way he treats you.Hes trying to push your buttons and hes going about it the wrong way.OR he could be doing these things trying to push you away.Either way you need to find out where you stand with him.
2006-08-29 02:15:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that what he is doing is trying to control you. On the contrary, he doesn't seem as interested on you as in the beginning.
Before... he couldn't keep away from you and now he is behaving quite in a cold way. He doesn't want to be with you anymore, which is really bad.
Please ask him if he feels the same way he did about you. He seems to be sure that YOU love him and now he is taking this for granted. So, you better sit and have a talk with him to clear up certain issues.
Make sure that he is still in love with you. Don't try to be to stubborn, so that you don't give him the right reasons to tell you that "you always want to get your own way about everything".
Make sure he loves you, cause he doesn't seem like he does.
Wish you the best of luck
2006-08-29 10:01:50 · answer #2 · answered by atrabel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you worry about too many small things that do not mean much in the realm of relationships, and that he is now trying to break it off with you.
Posters on a wall are ok, even if you had them. Don't worry about stuff like that. Later in life it could be a calender in the garage, or a trip to a strip club. Non of that will mean your man loves you any less.
Lighten up and enjoy life.
2006-08-29 09:19:51 · answer #3 · answered by Just Another Guy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should not impose your beliefs or your wants on him. He is entitled to have posters of whomever on his wall and you came across as contolling and demanding. They are just posters they do not come to life in the middle of the night.
Let him express himself don't smother him. remember why you fell for him and why he feel for you. If you smother him you will certainly push him away. Let him be who he is
2006-08-29 09:16:58 · answer #4 · answered by wingedgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he realized that a woman who is so insecure that she feels that photographs of other women are a threat to her, is not someone he wants to be around.
If you want this man to remain interested in you then you need to have alittle more security in who you are and what you have to offer. And play his game, don't be so available.
2006-08-29 09:22:07 · answer #5 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is trying to make you feel guilty for him being not so happy. When its him making a mistake behind or back or not being happy with you.
He is personally trying to drive you away so he doesnt have to do!
2006-08-29 09:17:09 · answer #6 · answered by MsLysa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don,t allow him to treat you in this way ask him again to take the posters down , if he still refuses then tell you wont go round to his place till he doe,s
2006-08-29 09:20:36 · answer #7 · answered by lizella 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes... because it is unfair.... what you dont like, he likes,,, and if you want it in you he doesnt like..
He is falling out of love....... better prepare yourself for the worst... Forgetting him...
And if he does... be happy... at least you got out of him... this early...
What if it happened when you are already married.???
Or have children..??
So,,,, the earlier the better...you get out of him..
2006-08-29 09:19:35 · answer #8 · answered by yulnores 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's not controlling you, he's preparing to dump you. He's distancing himself. You should do the same. Make yourself unavailable to him for your sake.
2006-08-29 12:44:38 · answer #9 · answered by Enough 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave...he's trying to push you away. He doesn't want to be with you anymore and is to scared to say it.
2006-08-29 09:29:06 · answer #10 · answered by angel2005_2001 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋