Can i ever go back?

Question

My boy and i were together for 2 years,Im not up myself but I was really good for him, we turned each others worlds around.Ive always been pritty vain but he made me a good person and appreciated my talents and he got on really well my family.When I meet him he was going out hard and never wanted to be close to neone.Now hes got a house, qualified in his proffession and is guenuenlly happy in his life.Wants to marry me, kids and a family dog ect. Hes my best friend. I adore him. But I broke up with him because hes got an addictive personality. Without me he slips so easily to a desructive pattern, to be honest I think its weak.He trys so hard to be good but his dad died when he was 9 and he bought up his syblings, never having a role model,and while we were 2gether he inherited alot off money.He just cant get his priortys strait, it hurt because he was putting contracts 2 me trying to protect his assets.He want me back, but Im scared he'll let me down, if i do go back il marry him

Answer 1

Hi hun.... What I'm thinking is that, the problems that the two of you had before, about $, addictive personality, can't get priorities straight, differences like that, will they still be there now? Will a month be enough for him to change? If they are will you be able to deal with them? Can you feel the same go back to where you were after this? Will he call everyday like he says he will...

As for money issues... If it were me I wouldnt want to be married 2 someone 4 2 years put all this work into a house, then what happends if you break up, he does something crappy like cheats then me I get left up **** creek without a paddle...

I know you both love each other heaps, If I were u I think I'd like him to prove himself a bit more, don't jump straight in where you left off, for your sake. I just dont want to see you get hurt. Hope my advice helps...."after all, a kathys not just for christmas"

Answer 2

It sounds to me like you're just scared. A decent relationship is where you make each other better people because of the love you share. He loves you. When you left, he slipped into a destructive pattern not because he has an addictive personality or he's weak, but because he loves you. And when someone you love leaves, it's very difficult to keep it all together.

As for the contracts, so he's trying to protect himself. He wants to make sure you don't marry him just for the money. He's scared too. But at least he's willing to risk it to love you. If you love him, can you risk it? Remember, life is a risk. If you don't take risks, you'll always have risks and never know the rewards. Good luck in making your decision.

Answer 3

he's spoiled and has issues on top of that
were you talking about prenuptual agreements
sounds like you may be marrying for the wrong reasons
or else he thinks that you might be after his money
ya'll got serious issues here.
i wouldn't commit to a marriage that prb end up with me getting the shaft. after all hes already got the house and the money
if he ended the marriage what do you have to show for many possible wasted years...nothin cause he had these things before marriage
you can do better

Answer 4

If you can't accept what the guy really is, leave the poor guy. You both may get hurt mentally or physically in the end. Or perhaps you can ask you "boy" to seek doctor help. Loving a person is to be understand what's in the other half's mind. If you realy love the guy, you should ask help together with your "boy" & some courage, problems can be solve if you want it to be fixed badly.

Answer 5

Men like than is not really nice deep down. I'm 27 now and I've been in a state relationship but got out in time, I've 2 kids by this man love my kids dearly, but I needed 2 think of my life and safety. If he falls down that his problem. Your not his mother. Get out and stay out, It's hard I no.

Answer 6

i think you are a bit muddled, this makes no sense at all. why have you left him? because he has an addictive personality? what? doesn't make no sense you think that you will marry him if you get back with him yet at the moment you don't even know if you want to be with him i think you need to chill and think a bit more before you walk down the aisle with somebody you aren't even sure about

Answer 7

Sounds like he needs a babysitter to keep him on the right path,if that doesn't bother you,go back.It's his money sign the papers and make sure you always have something put aside for yourself,just in case,If all goes well, you can give it to your kids when they grow up.Good Luck.

Answer 8

Little angel you are lucky to have him with you as a husband , one thing you must make sure , no nagging , no complaint , always recieve him with full affection and love , never insult him , he will love you and will take care of you forever . Better accept his invitation and go back to him . Live and behave intelligently .Good luck .

Answer 9

he has had plenty of time to take the positives out of being a role model to his siblings, but your words say it all, you think he is weak. you deserve more. i think he is who he is and you can either marry him and raise kids and feed the dog while he uses excuses to do just what he wants to or try to remain friends and find someone you can SHARE life with and will give you as much as you give them

Answer 10

well,i guess you should help and support him to mend his ways....the way he did for you....if your love is strong enough he'll surely be better...just talk to him about this and let him know how you feel about the whole thing and that you just cannot accept he being weak in such matters,m sure it'll work....support him,dont rush into marriage just give your relationship some more time and see how it goes!!good luck!!