Can anybody please give me some advice, i was with a man for 7 years until the travel bug bit me, i then left my home country for a man i met while on holiday,we now live together.he is 15 years older than me, im afraid that the age gap wil have a more significant meaning later on. lately i have been missing my old boyfriend so much that im thinking of going back to my original country to be with him again.where i am now i am very alone and im wondering if it was a mistake to leave him in the first place.how does one make it through this difficult time of making a decision that is right?
2006-08-29 01:58:20 · 7 answers · asked by Danica F 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It sounds like you are dependent on some type of relationship to define you and make you feel secure. In reality the best thing you can do for yourself is be alone and really figure out what it is you want out of life for yourself. If that means taking some classes, join a group in your area, getting some friends that you can just get together with and get out more get away and get to know others. In turn you will get to know yourself better. It doesn't sound to me like you REALLY WANT to be with either of these men...so don't play games like that. It's not fair to you and it is especially not fair to them. Someday you will find the one you want to be with forever and when that time comes you will know for sure. Good Luck!!!!
2006-08-29 02:10:27 · answer #1 · answered by DreamingofU 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, you sound like a pretty incredible person.
I would definitely consider moving back, but not for the man you left initially. If you decide to go back to your home country do it for you. If you end up with your original beau that will just be icing on the cake. It sounds like you have grown a ton while venturing out and exploring the world, an enviable position to be in. Take stock of your life and then decide what's best for you. I wouldn't go back just for a man that you left but go back if you are lonely and find your current situation uncomfortable or inhibiting.
It sounds like your quality of life is not where it was or should be . . .
2006-08-29 02:09:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion go back to the man in your original country. Follow your heart.
2006-08-29 02:05:48 · answer #3 · answered by Axel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go back to him and check it out, and then come back and check it again, and finally stay back , when u feel like, my dear friend love is not just hip hop, do not make fun of it, be loyal to one and pour out all u have to him, u Will get u r due!!!
2006-08-29 02:04:14 · answer #4 · answered by dhansuma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think u should go back to ur own country..i feel bad for tht guy and i think ur exciting new love just ended
2006-08-29 05:50:45 · answer #5 · answered by Neutro 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about trying to live your own life and let go of both. Once you are on you own decide who fits with YOUR life better.
2006-08-29 02:06:21 · answer #6 · answered by toobusy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
only you can make this decision.
2006-08-29 02:01:38 · answer #7 · answered by nanny2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋