Why do you think bullies bully?

Answer 1

I think that bullying is a characteristic that is fundamentally within us all - how many of us can honestly say that they have never intentionally said something to another person to hurt them, or done something to hurt them? I believe that to be unpleasant to another person (someone who we consider to be weaker than us - psychologically and/or physically) boosts our own self esteem. As children, our self esteem is fragile, which is why bullying is rife in childhood years - children need to find fault in others and exploit that in order to protect their own personal and social standing. As we develop, and experience bullying, we either learn that bullying others has positive consequences for us and continue to follow this behavioural path into adulthood - often as a way of getting what we want, or we learn that there are negative consequences, both for us and for the bullied person - moral teaching is relevant here. I suspect that children who do not bully have either personally experienced being bullied, or seen it happen to someone close to them. If this is our experience, then we find other ways of boosting our self-esteem in a socially acceptable way.

All parents please note - your child is a potential bully!

Answer 2

Because bullies don't feel that they are wanted or required in an area and if they can bully someone others will be with them and follow them because they are able to push another person(s) around. I was the one bullied and the whole class seemed to be involved for the longest time. Funny thing, the kid that was the leader for the bullies, lost his posse and was bossed around for his high school years and ended up on drugs, so maybe being the bully isn't the greatest thing in the world.

Answer 3

They have very low self esteem. They feel miserable. It makes them feel good about their self to make other people feel miserable. They could be jealous of something that someone else has or they way they act and see that person as thinking they are better than them. It is all in their own self esteem. The best thing a person/kid can do it befriend a bully. When the bully gets to like the person/kid, how can they bully someone they like.

Answer 4

Most bullies only bully when they are in groups, it indicates a low self esteem and the need to be part of a social group. Many have probably been brought up by controlling parents.

Answer 5

I try not to think in terms of guessing anymore, but to answer your question with some experience in the matter, a bully has a need - driven from a sense of inferiority- to prove him/herself of value.

It does not necessarily require size and strength [although these are common in bullies] to be a bully. When ones own need causes one to disrespect another, this is being a bully. To take advantage of someone of lesser stature is being a bully. When one is abused one is being bullied. All the situations in which a bully is offensive are due to the bully's driving fear of being inconsequential.

The paradox is, of course, that the actions of bullies create reactions that are precisely what the bully fears....such is the built-in process of experiencing what one needs to "learn".

Answer 6

They do it to show of i front of there friends all so it allows them to be seen as someone that cant be touched, also most bullies have been bullied in the past or will be bullied

Answer 7

Bullies are nothing more than control freaking cowards. They aren't in control of their own lives and get great pleasure out of making someone elses life a misery.

People with this level of selfishness makes me sick. What gives them the right to harm somebody else verbally or physically?
They have insecurities in their own lives and want to punish others because of it. I think personally it's down to their upbringing and i may cause an uproar here by saying it but thats what i think. Children learn what they live.

Answer 8

They usually pick on quieter kids/people, who they know won't say anything about it going on. That makes it worse for the victim, because bullying should be nipped in the bud.

If you're being bullied, speak out, seek help and sort it out. The sooner, the better.

I facking hate bullies.

Answer 9

Quick answer-because they can, and they want to.

I have never been able to stand by and see another human being suffer in any way.

Bullies get people to feel sorry for them but most bullies have no reason to bully-apart from their own enjoyment.

Answer 10

Because they like to look tough and it makes them feel good.
according to the teachers at the school my little boy used to go to they said it was because the bully had problems at home.
WHich i got annoyed about because my little boy was quiet and gentle and the boy who bullied him used to think it was good fun, which is why little boy goes to a new school now and is a lot happier