I met this guy over 3yrs ago.. we have lived together but he decided to get his own place without me knowing then left me 1week before our son was born... I have still kept in touch with him and he has on afew occassions come to stay but.. always returns to his place after sex.. He doesnt really show much interest in his 2yr old son and has never provided anything for him... this is my 3rd relationship I've had and the previous 2 was married and had to get divorced because of pysical abuse... Is this guy really worth me holding onto?
2006-08-29 01:20:48 · 56 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Put on your shoes and RUN..... Why put up with this? Don't you think that you deserve better? Having a child with someone doesn't mean that you have to give up your life to that person. You have a child to raise and that shild deserves for his mommy to be happy. So go.... be happy with someone that will treat you and your child right!
2006-08-29 01:48:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Perhaps you should decide if you are worth more than being used as a free sex provider.
Even more important, perhaps you should decide your lovely child is worth more than an occasional visit from some one who obviously doesn't give a toss about either of you.
He has been inconsistent from the start, so for now, just concentrate on providing the stability both you and your child needs, and forget about looking to anyone outside of family to full fill your needs. You don't need a partner to be secure and make a stable happy home for yourself and your son.
Hopefully when you are more secure, you will attract the right person as opposed to the unworthy ones that you seem to have attracted in the past.
I hope you find what you and your son need in the future.
2006-08-29 01:34:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I guess it's all relative. He's better than the previous two because he doesn't beat you. However, it doesn't sound like this guy is interested in any kind of long term committment. He sounds like he is completely uninterested in your needs or wants. He is out for him only. You are his "sure thing". Other than the sex, is he even your boyfriend?
It sounds like you have a history of attaching yourself to the wrong guy. I think you should break it off with him completely. Especially if he's not even there for his own son. Think about the path you are setting your son up for. I applaud you for getting out of two destructive marriages; however, if you stay with this man, you are raising your son to treat his future girlfriends the same way you are being treated. Show your son that you are a strong woman and you deserve better. Get rid of this guy and just be a mommy for a while. When you aren't looking, the perfect man for you will sneak up on you. He will love you and he will respect you. He will be the role model that your son needs. You really do deserve better. Good luck...
2006-08-29 01:30:48 · answer #3 · answered by Mom of 3 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, he sound liek a blatent user to me. Go to your nearest Domestic Relations office to make him provide his son finincail support, which he is legally obligated to do, but you have to start the process since he's a deadbeat dad. He helped bring another person into this world, he needs to contribute, with money since he can't find the time.
And for you, I'd recommend you take a break from relationships for a bit and work on getting your life in order and takign care of your son. Once you have confidence in yourself, you'll be better able to recognize the better-quality men and avoid the low-lifes you've been drawn to before.
2006-08-29 01:28:28 · answer #4 · answered by Duende71 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you know the answer to this. He is a loser. He's using you for sex and couldn't care less about his son. Do your little boy a favour and keep this waster away from him. I bet he's sleeping with other people when he's not with you. You are worth more than that. You seem to be going for the same type of guy every time. Don't go for bad boys, they are just that and never grow up.
2006-08-29 01:26:18 · answer #5 · answered by koolkatt 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you are asking, then I suspect you just want reassurance and to know that someone else is thinking the same thing as you. I would say, no this guy isn't worth holding on to!!
It certainly sounds like he is using you for a quickie whenever he feels like it. Get rid of him and find yourself a good bloke who will respect you and not just bugger off after sex. That'll teach him. Oh, and another good thing you can do, apparently, is rub dried chillis in his underpants. He will be lonely (because he wont have you) and hot and bothered down below!!
2006-08-29 01:25:52 · answer #6 · answered by Rae 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sorry, but you have terrible taste in men. That's beside the point. This guy is a loser. It's bad enough he could care less about his son, but he's using you just to get off. What's more pathetic is that you're allowing him to do it!! I'll guarantee you that if you don't have sex with him again and he knows he's not going to get it, you'll no longer see him. So to answer your qusetion. You can't hold onto someone you don't have. Do yourself and your son a favor and get him out of your life.
2006-08-29 01:29:51 · answer #7 · answered by T.G. 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
oh come on you must know the answer to this.
i dont think its even your choice to hang onto him - he clearly doesnt want to be with you and has no interest in his son.
my advice would be: make sure you get child maintenance money off him, enjoy your life with your son and only see this man if he wants to spend time with his son, not for ANY other reason, do NOT sleep with him, or even speak to him more than necessary. Also, get some self respect and counselling so you dont end up with another loser like this.
2006-08-29 01:25:23 · answer #8 · answered by monkeynuts 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Short answer - not on your nelly. Long answer - a long paragraph about how you've been letting yourself be used and mistreated for years and you should have spotted what kind of a loser the guy is before you touched him let alone let him impregnate you. Can't be helped now so just get rid of him and get yourself a new man before the child gets too much older to avoid causing it undue emotional problems.
2006-08-29 02:54:30 · answer #9 · answered by T M 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
no...sounds like he keps you for sex.Its hard to believe you really would seek a relationship with this guy who doesn't have a interest in his own son.There are men out there who will treat you right and fall in love w/you and your son.You need to get some self esteem.You are a mother now and kids learn from example.Do you want your son to think that's what dad's do? come over, have sex,go home, don't have a real relationship w/their kids or support them? you have to raise a man now,,,and you deserve better,but you already know that don't you.
2006-08-29 01:30:17 · answer #10 · answered by chays 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't think he is worth holding on too. He doesn't show interest in his kid...he ignores him like he's not even there. The only has se with u cuz thats all he wants. Just let go and move on. He moved out from ur house w/o letting u know he did. Let go and move on...u know u can do alot better than him.
2006-08-29 01:24:36 · answer #11 · answered by ♥mcmanda♥ 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋