i live with 1 that i have kids with, but the problem is her attitude and the fact that she always let her niceces and nephew move in and they direpectable toward me and i think that i have been into it with almost every 1 in her failmay cause she allow them to be direpectable toward me and never take my side, and the other woman has her own house 1 son off in college and said that i can move in and i think that i love her cause is the compelet opposite of the 1 i am with, so i am in the middle of leaving 1 for the other ,but i worried about my kids if i leave, seeking all advice
2006-08-29 01:02:59 · 9 answers · asked by Just C 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Hey dude..its aprilT and I appreciated your advice so much and the fact that you're going thru the same thing I'm going through. My husband and I have split numerous times and I always find someone else right away. Huge mistake. You have to have time to heal from a broken relationship or you will carry your resentments over into the next one without knowing. Take a break and be alone for awhile until your kids adjust to the breakup or you will confuse them. I know it sucks to be alone but just do it long enough to get your head together enough to realize what you really want. E-mail me anytime at prltdd@yahoo.com if you need to talk further..I need your friendship too.
2006-08-31 02:59:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cannothave it both ways, you leave the kids and stay with her ( the other), or you stay with her and the kids. If her family are desrespectful to you, you need to give them all a very wide birth and AVOID them completely, when they see that you dont visit/ need them, they will think about that. That means you tell her that they are not welcomed at the house where you and she lives so that you can both get on with your lives in peace, she may have an attitude but if she cares about how you feel and realizes it could make a difference to you both, she will listen and act. You might also see a different ( better) attitude if she sees you being a bit more strong.
The other woman has her own house, it is not YOUR house, so you are still NOT going to be Pilot in command if you move there are you ? more second officer! She may be the opposite of your current other woman now and everything is new and rosy, but will she still be the same when you are both under one ( her) roof ? you think you love her, well THINK on my friend! If you dont nip this situaton in the bud now, you will always be running somewhere when things get a little uncomfortable. Put the roots down and be happy.
2006-08-29 08:29:05 · answer #2 · answered by Latin Techie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say get your own place. Your thinking "The grass is greener on the other side". Maybe you'll be happier with this other women, you are the only one that can decide that, but it's not always easier to live with someone especially so quickly. GROW UP and stand on your own two feet so that you don't have to depend on getting along with your woman to keep a roof over your head. It takes two so don't blame her for everything. That's too easy to do when your just looking for the easy route out of there which you've already got one. Your kids I'm sure will be quite fine. Believe me I'm sure they know how unhappy things are around home if you two can't get along. It's not any easier for the kids if you continue on like the way things are.
2006-08-29 08:15:09 · answer #3 · answered by janet_67_1998 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are worried about your own feelings what about the people you are hurting in the long run, you honestly don't think the one your living with doesn't know you are cheating on her, who are you being honest with. You feel like you are not getting what you need one place so you took the easy road out and found someone else to make you happy. Think about how are treating the people around you and if you could be contributing to the attitude is giving. It took both of you to make the kids and it isn't fair if you leave and make her raise them on her own. The kids need two parents as much as anything. Being honest in a relationship is important and so is trust but is seems like she shouldn't trust you so tell me what do you have left.
2006-08-29 09:12:11 · answer #4 · answered by klf26973 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your wife and let her know how you feel. I would also like to suggest Marriage counselling. If all this fails you have no choice but to leave as it is not right for your kids to see you being disrespected.
2006-08-29 08:32:29 · answer #5 · answered by Ycul72 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First decide whether you still love the first one. if yes then manage to stay. its possible that after going to the second one u will long for the first one but cant get her back. so think a lot then take decision.
2006-08-29 08:11:17 · answer #6 · answered by nandru_22 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't think leaving the mother of ur kids is ur best bet. i suggest u sit her down when she is in a very good mood and have a heart to heart talk with her, on ur dislikes.
u never can tell what magic that can work.
2006-08-29 08:15:39 · answer #7 · answered by joddie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before you make the BIG move you better think of those children that you helped bring into the world!!! Not just yourself. There is more at stake here!!!
2006-08-29 08:24:33 · answer #8 · answered by winona e 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you really love the other, divorce and file for custody. she shld knw wads respect's all about.
2006-08-29 08:08:34 · answer #9 · answered by gweneth lynn paltfeir 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋