My boyfriends uncle just passed away from lung cancer after only finding out 3 weeks prior that he even had it. I didn't know him, but I am very close with my man and his mother. The funeral is a small private family thing, so I will not be attending. What can I do to show my support if they need it?
2006-08-29 00:21:34 · 13 answers · asked by lynswil_25 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
hey very sad to hear it , my mother in law died from cancer also 4 years ago, i felt like i was on the outside but unlike you i knew her well and was close, but i rallied around quite a bit getting food for people and preparing meals and cups of coffee etc.i also was there take the agony away from everyone else, the small simple things really help people out in a time like this, doing chores would be a great help also as people not only have no time but dont really care that things need doing do doing it for them may help out, although each case is an individual one and you will just have to go with the flow and do whats right when you feel its the right time, just being there and rubbing someones back can give people relief and they know that someone wants to show support for their loss.good luck.
2006-08-29 00:29:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them you're there for them, give them hugs when they want them and maybe offer to help with catering or something like that for the funeral. Then remember, most people stop visiting shortly after the funeral, they feel they've done their duty. So be there for them both.
2006-08-29 07:28:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Offer to help with cooking or some other personal touch that the family may not actually have time to do for theirselves during this time period. And usually just being avaailable means allot. :-)
2006-08-29 07:26:51 · answer #3 · answered by Nedan 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take food. Send a plant, it last and flowers die.Listen to your boyfriend and his mother.
2006-08-29 07:30:03 · answer #4 · answered by BUPPY'S MEME 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Send flowers.
2006-08-29 07:24:56 · answer #5 · answered by missy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
handling death can be hard but you have to think he's in a bettr place now and there was nothing you could of did tell your boyfriend that it's okay to miss him but don't worry about it.
2006-08-29 07:28:58 · answer #6 · answered by wiggle7647 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to them about him - this is not disrepectful or 'upsetting' - it's the one thing most people will refuse to do.
Try saying @Iddidn't know him - can you tell me what he was like?'
This will get the conversation going and if there's a few tears, that's healthy...
2006-08-29 07:28:17 · answer #7 · answered by Michael E 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
mostly by being there for them..for telling them that...usually in my life I have found that nothing beats the sincere truth.
2006-08-29 07:24:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There isn't enough info here to answer your question.
2006-08-29 07:31:02 · answer #9 · answered by rhymingron 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give them condolences also
2006-08-29 07:25:26 · answer #10 · answered by escondido_cinnamon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋