they broke up a few months ago. my friend is really happy with her single life but her ex-bf has turned 'pyscho' and proclaims he'll kill himself or her if they dont get back. he's sort of desperate and it scares my friend. what should she do cos they are in the same class. i really want to know any solutions or what can we tell her ex bf and so as to prevent any more problems. -thanks-
2006-08-28 23:43:32 · 39 answers · asked by bunbananabun 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
kick him in the nuts
2006-08-28 23:56:14 · answer #1 · answered by paul d 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, It's good of you to care what happens to her. People generally use end all threats to get what they want. Her ex-bf probably sees her leaving him as a failure and impotency on his part, so he'll say whatever he can to get her back.
I can safely say that I wouldn't advise you talking to him about it. The fact that your friend has told someone about his behavior will be enough to worsen his jealousy. I'm no professional, but what I would do is have your friend confront him in public about his threats and explain to him that none of this is making him more appealing. If he wants to win her back, then he's going to have to reform himself (find some issues she had that caused her to break up with him in the first place). That might distract him with a little hope and give him time to get over her and find someone else while he thinks he's working on getting her back.
In the worst case scenario, if he was able to inflict harm on her or himself (and I don't know anything about him so I couldn't say), he wouldn't risk anything of the sort if he still had hope for her. If at any point she feels unsafe, feel free to let your local authorities know. Don't take an unnecessary risk.
2006-08-28 23:54:21 · answer #2 · answered by Seraphim 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like the ex-boyfriend has got some growing up to do!!!
The ‘kill himself’ bit is just a sympathy grabber…
The ‘kill her’ bit should be treated as a serious threat, and reported to the police, irrespective of whether or not there were any witnesses.
I know it isn’t what you would call ‘legal’ but if someone threatened to kill my friend, I think I would be paying him a visit with a few of my hefty mates; bash the crap out of him, and tell him in no uncertain terms that if he ever made threats to my friend again, he’ll wish he had never been born!!! (Don’t quote me on that though, because I’m not a violent man!)
2006-08-29 00:11:32 · answer #3 · answered by I_C_Y_U_R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your friend should have a talk with her bf together with some other friends present so that in case he turn violent, your friend is still not in danger. I believe that yr friend's bf is unable to accept the fact that your friend had chosen to split with him. That explain why he is so emotional. You all need to tell him that love cannot be forced and no matter how he threatened your friend, she should not give him any false hopes coz the matters will get bigger later. She must be firm in her stand in spliting up with her bf.
2006-08-29 00:37:00 · answer #4 · answered by Forgettable 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depending on your friends age meaning if she isn't an adult yet she needs to tell her parents what's going on. She needs to go to her counselor at school and tell the counselor what is going on. Your friend should be able to request a different class or switch the class to a different period. Then maybe she and her parents can get a restaining order against this guy.
The more people that know what's going on the better. He's already threatened to do himself and your friend harm. Please encourage your friend to tell. If she doesn't then maybe you should.
2006-09-03 16:45:44 · answer #5 · answered by NyteWing 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friend has taken the first step by sharing this problem with you, it is important that she talks to some1 about this, maybe her parents or a trusted adult could advise her and perhaps act as a mediator between her and her ex. Her ex doesnt seem to able to move on like your friend has, does he have any good friends to talk to, at the end of the day, he must realise that he cannot blackmail some1 to make them stay with him.
2006-08-28 23:53:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
properly me and my ex didnt have lots of an relationship the two however the 1st time he met my maximum suitable chum on the honest she grow to be throughout him. Then some weeks later he broke up with me and went out together with her.because of the fact our buddies didnt decide for us mutually. I moved away and had a baby with my new better half and then we broke up by dv after having our daughter. Then i found out my maximum suitable married him and invited me to the marriage. i comprehend he cares for me nevertheless reason he consistently ask my mum how im doing and the place i'm. i comprehend there is something is there nevertheless and so does he yet he retains denying it. So i say this make a propersition for him ask him out for lunch the two deliver the gf or no longer.as much as him... tell him at as quickly as out what you elect for to ensue and which you nevertheless experience for him. which you adult men ought to offer yet another shot or stay as buddies as perplexing because it is BF in simple terms dont ask him while she is with him it is going to reason a arguement and then it will be worrying from then onwards
2016-10-01 01:05:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your friend to let her parents know whats going on and also the school officials.Do not try to sweep this under the rug!get the police involved if need be ,thats what we pay them for to protect and serve. There is a such a thing as a restraining order to keep him away.tell your friend to do what she needs to do to protect herself and get someone else to talk to him if he wants to kill himself thats his choice he will either do it or he wont ,but let him know if he decides to and is successful thats the ultimate choice he cant come back from it.So that is choice he has to make for himself.
2006-09-05 19:10:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She should tell a councelor about it at school. If he really is that desperate and might hurt himself, then she needs to tell someone. If she doesn't and he does something, then she'll feel guilty because she didn't prevent it when she could have.
She shouldn't go back with him just because of this. That's outright manipulation on his part.
2006-09-05 06:50:06 · answer #9 · answered by ncladams 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they are in school have her talk to a teacher or the school counselor about it. Tell her to talk to her parents. they are there to protect her. Also this is the same thing that happened to Rachel at Columbine High School, before the guy went crazy and shot people at school, because she dropped him when she gave her life to Christ. Don't want a tragedy so get the adults involved.
2006-08-28 23:52:21 · answer #10 · answered by really???? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You never know what gets into the mind of some people, the mind is a complicated piece of machinery. Make sure the proper authorities, are aware of the situation, they may be able to get him some help before someone is hurt
2006-09-05 16:30:48 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋