2006-08-28 22:58:57 · 13 answers · asked by learchie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It's because you attract those types of men. You attract and stay with that which you are most comfortable with, even if it's insanely wrong and twisted.
All you can do is step out of your comfort zone and go for a man you would never normally be attracted to (a goody goody two shoe for example) and then put yourself out on a limb and stay with him for a very long time, without sex, and see what happens without getting scared, bored or restless or untrusting.
2006-08-28 23:01:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Short answer: Love hurts. Longer answer, he might not be the right guy. And even if he was, you would still get hurt once-in-a-while. Married couples still fight and say horrible, hurtful things. When dating, people try to guess what you need/want and pretend to be that way. And it hurts when you find out the truth. Men and Women don't communicate the same way and it takes a L-O-N-G time to learn that lesson. Women tend to value verbal communication, men less so. Men have trouble expressing their feelings because of the way they were brought up. Very frustrating. The good/bad news is that everyone gets hurt and goes through what you are experiencing. Guys get hurt too. Getting hurt (and learning to deal with it) is a large part of growing up.
Good luck!
2006-08-29 06:14:54 · answer #2 · answered by ssbn598 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It comes with Lessons learned..... and yet it tears the heart apart. I am sure you are a good person. You have to be strong, when picking out theses guys, before you commit yourself to the relationship, or let your heart fall. Give it time, take things slow. Don't give in to thier wants and needs, rather remeber how you get hurt and be strong. The right one will come along, when you least expect it. Time is a vertue, and reality of finding true love, takes time. You be sure they have fallen for you before you let your heart fall. Make sure it's right, not just someone you meet and within weeks gone. You have to stop letting this happen, and not giving into them, is one way. Be yourself, and take your time. There is a right person for you, and it seems the ones you have had...... wronged you. Stand firm, and harden your heart, as when the right one comes you will see how easy it is. You take care, just put your guard up for a while. You have plenty of time, to find the one, that's right for you..... smiles... I wish you the best
2006-08-29 06:12:51 · answer #3 · answered by dreamer 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Apparently every person is made of 3 mjor aspects:
1. Emotions
2. Intelligence
3. Physical
If you happen to be lacking esteem in 1 of these and you attract someone who is also lacking, you might clash.And that's why we might feel hurt or used by others.
Take time off the dating scene and focus on you and getting well balanced.You'll see in no time you'll have your perfect mate in your arms!
2006-08-29 06:52:05 · answer #4 · answered by T.I 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because you have no standards and personal boundaries. Take an honest look at yourself and make positive changes.
2006-08-29 06:41:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that means you need to change ur style in men go for the ones you wouldnt date there the ones that r nice
2006-08-29 06:04:43 · answer #6 · answered by beautiful_1 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you just haven't found the right guy yet.keep trying all of them aren't dogs.
2006-08-29 06:07:05 · answer #7 · answered by lovinonly#1 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
physically or emotionally?
you could identify physically abusive guys type easily.
but emotionally? i don't know.
2006-08-29 06:04:17 · answer #8 · answered by Cool Z 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ask them y u r being hurted for...
2006-08-29 06:01:39 · answer #9 · answered by Lallithambigai U 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i dont understrand the question...
Sexualy
or
Emotionly
2006-08-29 06:01:16 · answer #10 · answered by Cassie 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋