My husband{ Paul Heinz } knew that I had a handicap { severe language disorder & severe comphernain learning } when we were dating. After 15 years of marriage he told me that the pressures he was under was too much for him and also being the head of the family was too much to deal with. His girlfriend does not have a handicap. My ordained soulmate could care less for his lifetime marriage , for me, for his responsibilities as a husband & as a Father, for God , for values & morals. HOW COULD HE WALK AWAY FROM WHAT GOD GAVE HIM IN THE FIRST PLACE TO HAVE FOR HIS WHOLE LIFETIME ?Anyone who commit adultery is a fool & lack judgement. It is so sad what my husband did . HE DOES NOT KNOW TRULY WHAT HE HAD WITH ME WHO GOD GAVE HIM TO HAVE. My husband is very cruel at heart like other people are to all of us who have handicaps. Why does anyone who fear the people having handicaps. Well I know that I am unique person. My soulmate does NOT have scruples and a conscience ..... his heart is hard.
2006-08-28 22:52:22 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well 5 years ago my soulmate filed for divorce. He took the coward's & quiter's way out from his ORDAINED marriage by getting a divorce. I feel so sorry for him when God deals with him in his timing not ours. My husband does NOT truly know who he is messing around with. Like they said , you reap what , you sow. My husband one day will be sorry for what he did to his true soulmate & to his ordained family God gave him to have in the first place.
2006-08-29 00:00:48 · update #1
Unfortunately little boys trapped in mens bodies cant handle living by their vows everyday for the rest of their life.. and thats what ur husband is..
Now as far as medical issues.. i do know, that medical issues especially ones that are chronic, can either make or break a marriage..
In my case, my son is chronically/terminally ill.. (he's had 2 liver transplants) My husband couldnt handle the stress and responsibility of having a child with health issues.. and our son is also deaf.. yet my x husband wont take sign language classes to even be able to communicate with our son..
He as well cheated on me with another...but when the judge asked him why he wanted the divorce he told him it was because of our sons illness caused to much stress in the marriage.. when the real reason was he couldnt keep his thing in his pants and the only way he could excuse his actions was to blame our son's illness for his behavior..
And ur right these are Cold, heartless men with zero conscience..
2006-08-28 23:00:47 · answer #1 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i couldn't agree more i think u r a unique person u have morals.
i have read some of ur questions and u r a very articulate writter, maybe the words aren't as easy for you to speak. you still have a very sharp mind, maybe some things r harder for u to grasp, but really don't we all have some form of that. i mean i will never be a doctor or a rocket scienctist, because my comprehension is to way way to low. listen u need to try and get past ur dumba** husband. i know it is hard, but he is the one that has already lost and someone like u will have no problem finding the rt one. there r good guys out there that can see past any imperfections and see the real u. after all a good guy will realize he is not perfect either. the great thing is he would be with someone who can see and love him for his strengths and not weeknesses.
hang in there kiddo, u make this a better world :)
2006-08-28 23:36:49 · answer #2 · answered by jesse james 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well in what all you wrote here you answered your own question about your husband..
You had the handicap before you were married.. he just got a bad case of the i want a younger prettier someone with out handicap to go on with. you are right he is very insinsitive. Very cruel at heart person.. After 15 years of marriage he will soon find out how good you were to him and regret his actions. as for cheating on you. you wouldn't want him any more anyway.. you will never be able to trust him again.. so go on with your life the best way that you know how to do ..
you are a strong woman.. and he is a poor excuse for a man..
good luck in what ever it is that you want to do with your life from here on out..
2006-08-28 23:02:53 · answer #3 · answered by Sandy F 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Handicap of Soulmate couldnot be a problem for a good lifepartner, that too after a long time of 15 yrs. Its simply strange?. I think ur man is dating with someone and making ways to go with her leaving u. that's why he is looking for excuses. Don't let him do this, talk to him, or give him more of u to stay at home. My wishes are with u. God bless u.
2006-08-28 23:01:46 · answer #4 · answered by Ashok 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sister, he just used your handicap as an excuse. For 15 years he didn't mind being married to you. You say he has a girlfriend now, that would be the reason for the change now. He's pond scum, you just need to find a way to move on with your life and make it the best way you know how.
2006-08-28 23:02:08 · answer #5 · answered by tracy211968 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He chose his own selfishness over the commitment he was supposed to keep with you. He used the excuse of your handicap to dissolve the marriage, as opposed to admitting that he was a cheat. Unfortunately it is far too easy to end a marriage these days. Good luck in the future, are there support groups for your disability?
2006-08-28 22:58:05 · answer #6 · answered by JONES99679 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you do not believe it now but this is a good thing for you. He is not your soulmate and you deserve better than what he is offering. Your husband's disability is ignorance. Remember this as I have raised my children I have stressed to them this: Everyone has a disability whether you can see it or not so you need to be tolerant of changes in everyone. Maybe you need to remember this when dealing with your husband and find out what his disability is, believe me he has one. Good luck to you and I hope you find someone that can truly love you for you
2006-08-28 23:17:53 · answer #7 · answered by kelsey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear Lady
Don't bother yourself with this matter more. Unfortunatly your husband is not eligible to live with a nice woman like you.Put your trust in god and prepare yourself for a new life. Smile to the world and countless kind people who recognize your human worth. Come on!
Kind regards
Majid from Iran
2006-08-28 23:04:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
To Majiid from Iran
That was a very kind answer you gave. God Bless you all in Iran, as hard trying times are coming. So I say God Bless you again. To the wife of Paul Heinz--"without faith it is impossible to please Him.' Therefore ask for the grace and peace that passeths all understanding to get through these times, until the Lord Jesus Christ will come through valiantly. Remember the KJV Bible says" Through God we shall do valiantly, for He it is that shall tread down our enemies "Rest in HIM.
2006-08-29 04:35:40 · answer #9 · answered by r0888 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your husband in my opion is no man in my opion a real man dont do a woman like that one day god will let him know as far as him commiting[adultry] in gods eyes you are free to remarry but on his part whoever he marries commits adultry as well he broke his vow and this is the only thing that in gods eyes that disovles the bond of marrage. you can do better than him . in my opion?
2006-08-28 23:16:14 · answer #10 · answered by the_silverfoxx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋